The Little DJ ENCYCLOPEDIA

[Neophyte]

It's time to create a FAQ! A thread that will help you out when you have a rapid question.
Many have tried - It's impossible (believe me, I know) to create a FAQ on your own, so we all have to contribute
and share our answers.

Answer any question that you like from your own experience. Tell us what you think is
working great from your own experience. Try to keep it not too long (don't put a whole novel as an
answer - you know what I mean, but don't hold yourself back of explaining why your answer is
working...etc.)

You make your own choice which questions to answer. You simply Answer a question
by referring to the number of the question at the very beginning of your answer,
between brackets, eg. [1] or (1) ...just to make it more clear.

One last thing: all the questions were derived out of hundreds of posts from the main discussion forum.
All those questions were frequently asked in various ways.

This thread should become a central place of many answers and questions can be added
within time - first let's start. - Cya, Neo

THE LITTLE DJ ENCYCLOPEDIA:


1) I want this girl, but she has a BF, now what?

2) How can I tell if she's interested - etc. ?

3) How do you tell a girl that you love her or something alike? Bad or not bad ???

4) Smiling, is it good? To smile or not to smile?

5) What is NLP? How...?

6) What is SS? How...?

7) What is Kino? How...?

8) What is LJBF, AFC, GF and BF ?

9) Does tallness matters to get a girl?

10) What's a good way to set up a kiss?

11) What is grinding and stuff alike?

12) How do I approach a girl in a group?

13) Take DJ Rules strictly or not?

14) How long does it take to see results when applying DJ techniques?

15) Masturbation, good or bad ?

16) What does it mean when a girl looks at you?

17) Hair and stuff, whats'up? Anything special you can do?

18) Should I try to analyse a girl? Is it possible...etc. ?

19) What is the best thing I can talk about with a girl? Most successful?

20) She didn't call me, now what?

21) How long should I wait to call her?

22) Do I have to ask for the number or directly for a date?

23)How to ask for the number?

24) Calling & numbers, what's up with it? Tip?

25) Should I try to get back to the women that broke up with me?

26) What clothes should I wear? Does it matter that much?

27) Would a girl dump you just for her own religion?

28) I'm feeling desperate, what to do?

29) Dating, what's up? Quick tip in a few words just before the actual date tips?

30) Does having money matters?

31) My friends don't seem to help me much in being a DJ, how to deal with it?

32) What to do with the parents of the girl?

33) A long distance relationship, will it work for me?

34) What to do on a (first) date? ...or what certainly not to do?

35) Is drinking alcohol good or bad to boost your confidence?

36) What about approaching & having a conversation? Quick tips in a few words?

37) What if she rejects me?

38) What should I do after a rejection?

39) Should I spend money on a girl and how much is acceptable - 1st date and next ones?

40) I'm shy, what should I do? Quick tips in a few words?

41) People call me a player - they know, now what?

42) What about if nothing results ?????

43) Penis Size, what's up - does it matter?

44) Good places to meet girls?

45) Are girls f*cked up?

46) Should I ask to do something the same night, or should I ask her when she's available ?

47) I look to young, help! ?

48) What about age difference? What's too young and what's too old?

49) Should I get my own place to live?

50) What is the friendship zone / how to avoid it?

51) I get these questions from women…what to answer?

52) Have you ever performed something strange that actually worked to get a girl?

53) Alone to pick up women, how to deal with that?

54) What are some bad things that you shouldn't do? Quick tip.

55) Are we a couple or not - how do you know ?

56) What's a good way to show a woman you're not interested in her?

57) How to compete against other DJ's?

58) Should I give her my number first - what about it?

59) Are there useful links that I should read? Good sites ?

60) Is it just me or do women have great intuition when it comes to detecting how a guy feels about himself?

61) What is LTR, IL, HB, LOL, LMAO?




[This message has been edited by Neophyte (edited 10-27-2001).]

 

[Don the Legend]

Great Idea Neo!!


1) I want this girl, but she has a BF, now what?

- Move on. This girl is unavailable. You are just wasting your time and effort trying to convert a girl that is unavailable. Would you want a girl that would leave her boyfriend that quickly? She will more than likely do this to you eventually. There are too many women out there that are single and not attached. Go out and find them.

Good Luck,

Legend

 

[Take No Dirt]

17) Hair and stuff, what's up? Anything special you can do?

First off, forget about the home haircut kits. Go to a professional hairstylist (preferably a female) and ask her to cut/style your hair to suit your facial contour and appearance. Thereafter, go back to that salon on a periodic basis so you don't lose that styled look.

Buy a high quality hair shampoo and co-ordinating conditioner. A shampoo that adds moisture and thickness to your hair is good. Use a shampoo that matches the state (oily, normal or dry) of your hair. If your hair gets blown too much by the wind, use a gel spray.

A good hairstyle does make da Man!

 

[Dink]

15) Masturbation, good or bad ?


Masturbation is a good thing. It is perfectly normal. Anyone that tells you they dont is cleary a liar. So dont be ashamed if you do. Everyone does it!

 

[Deagleclaw]

16) What does it mean when a girl looks at you?


You're in my way, I can't see Deagleclaw. Move.


heh heh,
Deagleclaw out



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No matter what comes, walk like a man. - Al Lan Mandragoran (Wheel of Time)

 

[Dynamo]

6) What is SS?

The SS was the State Security organization of the Third Reich. The subject makes for an interesting read but I don't know how much it pertains to this site.

 

[ilikemackin]

61 What is kino?
The art of touching but not sexually.
62 What is a/an AFC?
A ****ing chump

 

[Paradox]

Neo,

Why don't you set up the FAQ the same way you did the DJ bible. Just find the posts that answer the questions the best.

 

[timmy124]

Originally posted by Dynamo:
6) What is SS?

The SS was the State Security organization of the Third Reich. The subject makes for an interesting read but I don't know how much it pertains to this site.

Speed seduction... I don't understand it, So don't expect me to explain, perhaps another DJ can, but thats what it means.

 

[timmy124]

Going to answer as many as I can.
Only ones I cannot answer are..
5
41
47
60
here goes!

-Tim


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1) I want this girl, but she has a BF, now what?

I'd move on. But if you really want her, Try to convince her, you have everything her boyfriend has, and then some. Beat him in everything she wants him for.

2) How can I tell if she's interested - etc. ?

Based on body language, if she touches alot, acts flirty, laughs at all your cheesy jokes, and has alot of eye contact (also pupils dilating), she has high interest.

3) How do you tell a girl that you love her or something alike? Bad or not bad ???

Not good until you are exclusivly Boyfriend/Girlfriend, 3+ months into the relationship (or until she says it first, but don't say it if you don't mean it, if a girl says it too early, i'd ditch her though)

4) Smiling, is it good? To smile or not to smile?

Smiling is good, shows you are confident in yourself.

6) What is SS? How...?

Speed Seduction, dunno how

7) What is Kino? How...?

Kino is involving touching girls in a non sexual way, but gets her used to feeling up on her, and sorta gives her an sexual impression on you.

8) What is LJBF, AFC, GF and BF ?

LJBF = Lets just be friends
AFC = A F*cking chump
GF = Girlfriend
BF = Boyfriend

9) Does tallness matters to get a girl?

I personally think it matters, usually a guy a little taller than the girl is good, 6 inches or so taller is about perfect.

10) What's a good way to set up a kiss?

I like to get really close and look into her eyes, and start moving my head closer to her, if she shows positive signs, I keep going, if she shows negative signs, STOP IMMEDIATLY

11) What is grinding and stuff alike?

Grinding at partys in stuff is when you get your d*ck, and rub it between her a*s. Basically dry F*cking though clothes

13) Take DJ Rules strictly or not?

put DJ rules in your own personal mack. Be yourself, not someone else. I'd suggest 70% DJ, 30% yourself.

14) How long does it take to see results when applying DJ techniques?

Depends, usually not long, a week or so, or if you made a good impression, immediatly

15) Masturbation, good or bad ?

Everyone does it, they are a lying sack of sh*t if they deny they have ever done it before.

16) What does it mean when a girl looks at you?

If she keeps eye contact for a while, shes probally interesting, try the 3 second rule and approach within' 3 seconds of eye contact

17) Hair and stuff, whats'up? Anything special you can do?

Put it how YOU like it, girls shouldn't determine how you like your style. But if you are that determined, I suggest having your own style no one has, something that sticks out, but looks good.

18) Should I try to analyse a girl? Is it possible...etc. ?

You can analyse a girl, but don't over analyse, if you havn't been in the DJ scene long enough, you may think completely different things. Just analyse small things like eye contact, and her flirting/obvious signs of interest level. (not if she walks in front of you, is she getting in your way, or trying to get noticed).

19) What is the best thing I can talk about with a girl? Most successful?

I like to talk about what she likes, So I know everything that she wants.

20) She didn't call me, now what?

Depending on her interest level when you first met her. If she gave high interest, wait a couple more days, give her another chance. If she showed low interest, you shouldn't have been wasting your time, but forget her.

21) How long should I wait to call her?

3-5 days (I like 3)

22) Do I have to ask for the number or directly for a date?

Ask for the number, 3 days later call her. Ask her for a date ASAP, then get off the phone.

23)How to ask for the number?

Simply when macking, leave within' 5-10 minutes, if your convo went well, ask "Whats your phone number?"

24) Calling & numbers, what's up with it? Tip?

Call 3-5 days after you get number, arrange date asap, and get off phone.

25) Should I try to get back to the women that broke up with me?

If you broke up for a legitiment reason (she moved, and came back), sure why not? If you guys broke up because she was cheating on you, I'd rather not.

26) What clothes should I wear? Does it matter that much?

Wear stuff that makes you feel comfortable. But i suggest wearing those of those girls you want to pick up, If you want a "rocker" girl, wear some hurley, quiksilver, If you want a "sassy" girl, get some abercrombie 'n fitch, tommy hilfiger. If you want a "hip-hop" girl, get some ecko, School of Hard Knocks, enyce. Or if you are just an Older DJ, get a more professional look. I just suggest wear what suits you.

27) Would a girl dump you just for her own religion?

I asked my girlfriend if she would marry a person who didn't believe in christanity (shes christan, doesn't attend church, but very inovled in it, and i'm aethist). She said she would marry someone she loves, no matter the religion. So I don't think they would, unless there religion strictly prohibits it, or she is VERY reglious.

28) I'm feeling desperate, what to do?

Use that desperation as energy for picking up chicks!

29) Dating, what's up? Quick tip in a few words just before the actual date tips?

Date maybe once or twice a week, and depending on how many dates you've had, if you should do something or not (kiss/sexy/foreplay).

30) Does having money matters?

Usually, if you an 9" monocrome TV, how will you get in the mood with that?

31) My friends don't seem to help me much in being a DJ, how to deal with it?

Don't ditch them, just find new friends. But Sometimes that can help, if they don't have a bad rep, but just can't pick up girls, You can use that to your advantage, if you stand above the rest, girls will want you.

32) What to do with the parents of the girl?

Get on good terms, you want them to be able to trust you, And don't break that trust no matter what! Trust is something you cannot get once you've lost it. And how will you take her out if they don't let you?

33) A long distance relationship, will it work for me?

I'm currently in one, Depending how far you live apart from each other, My GF lives 30 minutes away (I don't have a car), So i Can see her 2-4 times a month, which we both agreed on was fine. If she lives in canada, and you live in belgium, that won't work.

34) What to do on a (first) date? ...or what certainly not to do?

If you are daring, and she shows enough interest, try to go for the kiss, if she didn't show enough interest don't try it. Make her have fun, in a casual place, Don't Pay for the whole meal! let her pay her half!

35) Is drinking alcohol good or bad to boost your confidence?

I'm not old enough for alcohol, But I think its a real turnoff. For some DJs it works. Just don't drink too much, she'll get the impression you are an alcholic

36) What about approaching & having a conversation? Quick tips in a few words?

Approach within 3 seconds of eye contact and make sure you are/appeart conifdent, sack her number in 5-10 minutes, and leave.

37) What if she rejects me?

Move on, wasn't so bad wasn't it?

38) What should I do after a rejection?

Move on!

39) Should I spend money on a girl and how much is acceptable - 1st date and next ones?

1st date, Don't spend more than 5 bucks on her, if shes a good girl, she'll pay for her half. If you are taking her out, you usually pay, if shes taking you out, she should pay.

40) I'm shy, what should I do? Quick tips in a few words?

Find out why you are shy, and improve in that area! You think you look bad? Improve, Can't really get the mack on? Talk to people and learn how to be a conversionalist.

42) What about if nothing results ?????

Move on, try something else.

43) Penis Size, what's up - does it matter?

I think you should be above the average males penis size (so girls can't really make fun of it), I think its 5 1/2". But I think you need to have atleast 3 inches to be able to stimulate her.

44) Good places to meet girls?

Clubs, work, school.

45) Are girls f*cked up?

You bet ya, some girls are just a plain B*tch

46) Should I ask to do something the same night, or should I ask her when she's available?

If you are at a club, shes looking bored, and you still have plenty of the night left, go ahead and ask. Just remember to shag her number.

48) What about age difference? What's too young and what's too old?

Depending on how old you are.
15-20, no more than 2 years.
21-23, no more than 3 years.
24-30, no more than 4 years.
31-35, no more than 6 years
36-45, no more than 10 years
46-60, no more than 15 years.
61-80, no more than 20 years.
81-100, can you pay for all that viagra?

49) Should I get my own place to live?

Yes. 'nough said.

50) What is the friendship zone / how to avoid it?

Kino Kino kino! If shes used to you touching her, on her arm, she'll get used to you holding her arm, and touching other places at that ;-)

51) I get these questions from women…what to answer?

2 ways-
Your true feelings on it
or
What she wants to hear.

52) Have you ever performed something strange that actually worked to get a girl?

Be her best friend!

53) Alone to pick up women, how to deal with that?

I usually find that easier than having a "wingman". No one there to c*ck-block you

54) What are some bad things that you shouldn't do? Quick tip.

Call her profanitys, Don't be too much of a nice guy. Don't give too much info about yourself so quickly

55) Are we a couple or not - how do you know ?

Is she seeing someone else also? If unsure, ask!

56) What's a good way to show a woman you're not interested in her?

Simply no kino, don't flirt, just talk as if you want to be friends.

57) How to compete against other DJ's?

Toughy, find out what they are good at, and be even better than them in that.

58) Should I give her my number first - what about it?

Getting her number is more important, but she may ask for yours also (high interest).

59) Are there useful links that I should read? Good sites ?
www.sosuave.com www.manswers.com

 

[timmy124]

Wow, huge post, took me nearly an hour to write.

 

[Don the Legend]

Damm Timmy!!

Good work.

Legend

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"As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for you only get to play one round."... Ben Hogan

"Do not fear failure." George S. Patton

"Do not make excuses, whether it s your fault or not."....George S. Patton

 

[timmy124]

Other DJs posting here? Feedback on what i've given? Or just your own advice?

Sorry for #60, the url should be...
http://www.manswers.net/index2/index2.html

[This message has been edited by timmy124 (edited 10-26-2001).]

 

[Take No Dirt]

Timmy wrote "43) Penis Size, what's up - does it matter?

I think you should be above the average males penis size (so girls can't really make fun of it), I think its 5 1/2". But I think you need to have at least 3 inches to be able to stimulate her."

Me: Most girls don't care about whether a man has a big **** or not since they're worried about their own tit size and the zits on their face, but nevertheless, if you got 7 inches and a large circumference, you got it made.

Masturbate or not? Good or Bad? Masturbation is a natural way to release pent up sexual energy if you don't have a female lover handy. Masturbate too much and your penis won't respond too well to a girl's sexual moves.

 

[improvingdonjuan]

neo i have a sugestion and then i will give some advice on hopefully every thing there.

do it like the dj bible, with links to post that have an answer i can even help you with that just tell me what to do, im not a computer wizard.

do it like the dj bible its better than going down all the way to find the answers in the reply

i will answer every thing i can tomorrow when i got time and im not that sleepy.

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Confidence is the key to women
THE DJ BIBLE

 

[IntermediateDonJuaner]

WOW!!!!

This FAQ is really good. I agree with this idea,NEO!.

You are the man that always give ideas in creating books to make other DJ'S life easier.!

Tell me if you need anything from me. I will be willing to help.

Have a nice day!

 

[Jackal]

1)I want this girl but she has a BF, now what?

Whether she has a BF or not is irrelevant. Your goal is to focus on attracting her. Just forget about the BF altogether. You see, if you can make her feel attracted, it really doesn't matter if she has a BF or not. Don't let the fact that she has a BF stop you from going after the chicks that you want. She'd gladly dump him for you if she sees you as someone of more value than him.

2)How can I tell she's interested - etc.?

A better question would be, "How can I make her interested?" Worrying and analyzing over every possible little sign of whether she is interested will only do harm as it will take away any confidence you may have. She may or may not be interested. In the initial phase, your job is to get her interested in you. How do you do that? There are many methods you can learn to do this such as storytelling, SS, etc. You need to learn what they are, how/why they work and practice in real life. As your knowledge and skills grow you will have less trouble generating interest.

3)How do you tell a girl that you love her or something alike? Bad or not bad???

It depends on the situation. Do you know for sure that she loves you as much as you love her or are you uncertain as to her feelings toward you? If you *absolutely* know that she does feel strongly about you then it is alright. However, if you're not sure how she feels, it would definitely be "bad" to tell her you "love" her. Think about this, why would she even care that you're interested if *she* isn't interested in *you* to begin with. That's why in the initial phase you need to work on creating that interest.

6)What is SS? How...?

To put it simply SS (Speed Seduction) is a method of speaking to elicit an emotional response from the chick (feeling connected, love, lust, etc.) and linking those feelings to yourself.

53)Alone to pickup women, how to deal with that?

Learn to accept that this comes with the territory. As you become more successful with chicks, more guys are naturally going to be jealous - so learn to love it.

59)Are there useful links that I should read? Good sites?

This site has a huge wealth of pickup information. There is no other site like it. www.fastseduction.com

Another good site. www.pickupguide.com

I may add more when I get the time.

 

[Take No Dirt]

DJ Jackal just gave me the thought of the day with "Think about this, why would she even care that you're interested if *she* isn't interested in *you* to begin with. That's why in the initial phase you need to work on creating that interest."

Yes, let her tell you that she loves you and adores you. Thanks so much, Jackal!

 

[Neophyte]

Paradox, improvingdonjuan,

I know it would be better. That was the idea at first, but every time I covered the latest links, they got deleted by Allen (because of diskspace..). One time I had 7 pages with links to all the great answers... I couldn't keep up reading all the posts and pointing to the right links in time

Now with an upcoming archive for good posts this would be possible in the future.

A little trick to use when wanting to find and answer is to use the find function of your browser and search for the question number.

IntermediateDonJuaner,
Feel free to answer any question that you have an answer for. It doesn't have to be that long.
Thnx.

It doesn't matter if the questions are answered several times. If you think an question should have a different answer, just tell you version. This way a combiniation of the answers will a more consistent or complete answer.

Cya,
Neo

PS. Thanks to all! Your effort and work that you put in here will be read and learned from. This way it may be possible to avoid simple redundant questions.

[This message has been edited by Neophyte (edited 10-27-2001).]

 

[Neophyte]

5) What is NLP? How...?

NLP is an acronym for Neuro-Linguistic Programming, which is a "model" for the study of the structure of subjective experience. I would define subjective experience as how each person uniquely experiences the world. NLP has many specific "patterns" (exercises) for things such as eliminating limiting beliefs, changing your personal history, etc. It started out as a therapeutic model but its applications have spread to business, sports, etc. The most famous NLPer is Tony Robbins, even though he has created his own model in the last 15 years.
For a site that explains NLP in a much more comprehensive way go to www.neurosemantics.com . If you find the material confusing, e-mail me and I'll explain it in plain language. - by Gator Ash

To tell you the truth , I am very skeptical about NLP and Patterns.. I listened to the Equalizer tape as well as something called "success mastery with NLP" by Charles Faulkner & Robert McDonald. I can't say that I have noticed any effect at all. - quoted, Blue_paul

The NLP definition: http://www.nlpuniversitypress.com/html2/PaPo20.html - thnx to locrian

All I can say is that it works. Hell, it works everywhere. I once gave a speech in my Psychology class and used NLP. I had everyone entranced, it was unreal. - quoted Albion.

check out: http://mindiscovery.itgo.com/ - thnx to Jackal


6) What is SS? How...?

SS stands for Speed Seduction. Speed Seduction is modelled on both the "Sleight of Mouth" patterns and the Milton Model, both found within NLP. In the last few years distinctions from the DHE model and the Silva Mind Method have been added to the model. The idea of Speed Seduction is to arouse a woman sexually through the use of hypnotic language. - by Gator Ash

The SS definition: http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/03_Approaching/09_Patterning/patterning.shtml - thnx to locrian

61) What is LTR, IL, HB, LOL, LMAO?

HB=Hot Babe
IL=interest level (thnx to Paradox)

LOL-"laugh out loud"
LMAO-"laugh my a$$ off" (thnx to Reality)

LTR = Long Term Relationship

47) I look to young, help! ?

I dont know, im 21 and people say that i have a baby face, and it seems that women seem to like it a lot....maybe it can work for u - by quietstorm

if u have a baby face i do not sugest that u get a goatie or any type of facial hair, this comes from what i've heard girls say as well, most think that unless u are very attractive u can not get away with any facial hair, and they also said that if u have a young looking face that its a big no no, Id say u just keep trying. - by Smile

Actually I wouldn't try to change your looks. Many women prefer the "clean cut" look and you're more likely to get a positive response when approaching women since you seem "safe". Since their emotional defenses will be down, you can get a lot farther, faster than some guys who look like players. If anything, change the "attitude" you project to that of quiet self-confidence mixed in with your nice guy appeal. Good luck. - by Gator Ash

41) People call me a player - they know, now what?

Women are the weaker sex physically. Therefore, manupulation is often the only way they can get the upper hand. And yes, women are masters at it so they are naturals at playing the DJ game. Ironically, they can usually see right through your own games. For example, most players know about the ignoring tactic to increase her interest. But often the woman will see your game and turn it around and start to ignore you back, and give her attention to other men in front of you. Yes, women are masters at manipulation. - by Frenchie