The Learning Curve

InnerHappiness

Don Juan
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I came back to this board in June this year, after quite a few years. In 2 months, I went from chump to contender. Success never comes easy.

Look in the mirror

By far the hardest thing I did in my life. It is easy to delude yourself into thinking that you are the greatest catch ever. This was my mindset from day one on SS, but I had nothing to show for myself. Thinking you are the greatest catch when you are 5"2, 200lbs and dress like a 12 year old, probably won't get you very far.

Some things we can't change, but many things we can. Appearance must be one of them. Not only for women, but careers and daily life in general. Are you happy with where your life is right now? My delusion said YES! for I had the DJ mentality. Minimal success.

Focus on improving your appearance, career and lifestyle. Once you start focusing on yourself and not what is around you, you will...

Become Zen

One of THE BEST advice on this board I've read. You are all and nothing. Dafuq? That's right, don't worry about it, stop caring. Overanalyzing will create delusion. The more emotionally detached you are, the better you will feel and live.

Natural Confidence

Believe in EVERYTHING you do with CONFIDENCE. Jobs, people, friends, animals, girls the list goes on and on, they smell NATURAL confidence. Not your silly Corvette, your house, GF....IT NEEDS TO ALWAYS BE YOU!

This is your world

Natural confidence will emit AURA. Your interactions will be different, mystery of the universe. You own your surroundings so take up space. EYE CONTACT - use it. Everyone you meet should be pierced by your eyes. Crack a smile and lighten their day. Not just with women, practice on every single person you see. Never look at the ground.

Self realization is the first step. Short term pain for long term pleasure. Your success will grow exponentially.
 

Eternal_water

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Natural confidence isn't something I have.

The most confident I usually am is after I've had a conversation with a woman because they always go ok. But they only occur when they have to.

I don't have the confidence to cold approach because I wouldn't know what to talk to a random stranger about and as the interaction doesn't have to happen................
 

InnerHappiness

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Talking to everyone who gave me eye contact and were approachable helped me out.

Practice to hold eye contact and smile with everyone that looks at you passing by.
 
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