The Kiss Rejection : Crashing and Burning

[DJ Logic]

I feel so low guys. I met this girl today at the ice cream shop and we totally hit it off. We both ordered the same flavor at the same time and then laughed at each other. She is very hot and I try to keep my cool so we just go for a walk and talk. She is very flirty with me, smiling a lot, laughing at all my jokes and even took my arm and asked me to pretend to be her boyfriend when a bunch of annoying jocks passed us. It was sweet. I walked her to her cousins house and I probably should have number closed but I was feeling real ballsy so I tried to kiss her. She put her hand on my chest and pushed me away. My heart sank to my knees and I turned beet red. She thanked me abruptly for walking her and just left me there, feeling like a jackass.

This is the worst feeling and I know I could have handled this rejection better. I should have played it cool, but how do you deal with a situation where you are totally rejected on a kiss-close? SHould I have made a joke about it? I am at a loss here.

 

[dontmindme]

This was the first time you had met her? How long did you spend to get to know her before you tried to kiss her?

 

[DJ Logic]

We hung out for a few hours, watched the sunset. SHe even gave me a backrub. All I saw were green lights so I just went for it. I think i am trying too hard to be aggresive because my problem is that I never make the first move. Maybe she had a boyfriend or something, but she didnt mention anything...****, I got to stop over analyzing this crap and move on. Just curious how other DJs deal with this kind of rejection. What should I have done/said when she pushed me away? How do I rev myself up again because my confidence is shot right now..

 

[Bonhomme]

Don't give up on this one

Obviously, one should always # close in a situation like this before going for a kiss. If no kiss, OK. She may still be in the picture if she's someone you're likely to run into again. If you do run into her, don't make a big deal of it. Just be friendly, and don't be too shocked if things pick up where they left off. Just don't force things.

Live and learn. You'll have lots of other opportunities. Props for working to overcome your former tendency not to make any moves. It'll come in time.

 

[chlywly]

Don't be so down yourself, you have to realise that you did try to be aggressive and you made a move, which is great regardless of the outcome Next time it would be a better idea to number close, before going for the kiss though......

 

[Julian]

Hey, at least you wont make THAT mistake again.

 

[incognito]

Hey, at least you wont make THAT mistake again.

Shut up. Just because you shoot and you don't score doesn't mean you should give up the game.
I have pulled this kind of thing off many times, and also had it fail many times, but the successes are worth it.

Back on topic though, she might have been afraid of her cousin seeing, and maybe you left it too long?! All those other indicators, I would have tried earlier. The best technique I have is the "Can I tell you a secret" and then you lean across and when they turn their head suck on their ear lobe, it is a surprise and they will sometimes just go along with it, sometimes it doesn't work, but even then they laugh about, just don't apologise just keep the eye contact and laugh it off.

 

[Quick]

Originally posted by DJ Logic
She put her hand on my chest and pushed me away. My heart sank to my knees and I turned beet red. She thanked me abruptly for walking her and just left me there, feeling like a jackass.

Ouch! That's about the worst way to be rejected for a kiss.

Maybe you should have done that "kiss test" thing where you touch her hair first or something like that. On the other hand, if she was touching you and had given you a backrub, I don't see how she can be offended that you tried to kiss her.

I don't think a joke would have saved you at that point. Maybe you should have been more mentally prepared for the possibility of a rejection, so that you could have stopped immediately with a smile like "hey, i tried", and still tried to follow up with getting her phone number and a date.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

You did nothing wrong. After all that time you two spent together, she knew if she liked you as a friend or more. If she rejected you then, she would have probably rejected you later. The time you spent with her twas the equalevent to an actual date. I think you did a great job by having the balls to go for the kiss.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Julian
Hey, at least you wont make THAT mistake again.

Exactly, just do not let that happen again, that is the best ways to avoid it. It sounds as if you have learned your lesson and understand what you did wrong so move on, don't sweat it and get out and find another conquest!!!

 

[Luscious]

You're getting bonus points on this one.

There is NO SHAME in getting rejected on this one. You got the signs, you went for it, SHE got all idiotic.

Not your fault. You were bold, and ballsy about it.

 

[bp1974]

She took your arm, she gave you a backrub - you did NOTHING wrong by going for the kiss. Who knows what she was up to, sounds a bit screwed up to me.

If you need to work on anything, I'd say take a look at how you approached the kiss - did you just dive right in, or did you take your time, look into her eyes, put your hand on her cheek etc? Maybe your kiss close needs refining.

I posted a great article on how to kiss-close a girl on this thread:

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30872

bp1974