The Key

[White_Rabbit]

Do you realize that by being introspective... or in other words trying to figure out whats *wrong* with you yes... you will come up with answers and then find solutions to the answer and then find more problems and look for the answer.. endless..
Just realize the only problem you have is that your looking for one.. and the only solution is to stop it! Yes ... you might have problems... bad looks ... got raped when you where 6 years old.. whatever bad things happen.. its just a fact... get over it its done with over concluded. Now just imagine .. you walk into a room and instead of thinking.. your just having fun because in that perticular moment you are in a club filled with intresting and unique ppl who each in there own way are gifted and looking for somone to talk to somone to make them feel good .. just like you.
Now instead of looking inside yourself STOP IT! THERE ARE NO ANSWERS IN YOUR HEAD DO YOU UNDERSTAND THIS! ONLY PROBLEMS! You naturally know how to interact with ppl you dont needt to think first sure you might be nervous or whatever but the more you just live in the moment with your awareness IN THE MOMENT YOU ARE LIVING (thus LIFE) you will be on top of your game in NO time do you really think those super badass guys the true alpha males are int here head trying to figure **** out... they see a goal or direction and they head that way.. because they dont worry about what happend 10 minutes ago what they worry about is how they are going to deal with it NOW and make better for LATER.... maybe some of you are getting where I'm going with this.. its about AWARENESS.
I know alot of women who are very impressed with me simply because of my AWARENESS.. I dont miss things because I'm not in my head going .. omg what does this mean.. what does that mean.. uh who cares? does it affect me? yes ? no? well then take ACTION only threw ACTION can you truely fulfill your destiny..
I hope this helps.

 

[cannibustacap]

I totally agree. Get rid of those thoughts and self-doubt, see where life leads you. It can't be any worse than it is now if you are on rock bottom.

When you hit rock bottom, you can only go up. Maybe this doesn't apply to everyone, but for those ones whom it does apply to, free yourself of self-doubt and those gnawing thoughts in your mind that you "fùcked" up or "what do I say now"

I am a victim of this. I literally think to myself "ok what to talk about now...?"

I am learning to work on my conversation skills but till then, when I run out of things to say I generally shut up, lean back, and stop caring.

 

[Virtú]

At last, help for the pathological introvert.

In my own defense, a lot of what you mention is almost instinctive, that it happens by itself, out of my control and regardless of anything else.
Something will happen, or need/want to happen, and my mind will go inward first to develop a plan and rehearse it; only then will it come out and tell my body what to do.
I am genuinely not comfortable without a process, without a large amount of certainty concerning both what I must do and how I should do it.

In the cases where no action follows, I think it has a lot to do with (perceived) freedom of action, that some part of you believes that it is not allowed or practical to actually act, and must therefore be content to merely explore the possibility in the mental realm.

Do you believe that extroversion and automatic action are things that can be learned or acquired by an adult who does not already possess them? You discuss them and their benefits, along with the detriments of introversion and introspection, but do not offer a process for progressing from the one to the other.

Additionally, I would argue that socialization is not hard-wired as you say, but a series of acquired behaviors. Any of several "wild child" incidents, where a child was not raised by or exposed to humans, would suggest that socialization (at least the parts discussed on these boards) is not a product of instinct.



What about "roof brain chatter", the flood of all those fantasies and ancient memories that distract you during the day and keep you awake at night?
Is there anything I can do about it?

 

[White_Rabbit]

Yes they are learned... learned threw socializing... and if your in your head thinking .. your not socializing your puting up a facade.
You may not feel comferable with living life but thats called anxiety. If you need me to explain how to have a more ACTIVE AWARENESS then I shall.. simply llisten to what other ppl say.. contemplate the meaning then respond in kind.. its called repore. I notice most ppl dont have repore at all with each other simply talking to each others faces without hearing or in a sense Emotionally Detatched from the conversation for fear of rejection or breach of trust.
Again I hope this information helps.
One last thing your mind and body are YOURS YOU CONTROL them if you have some belief that states you CANNOT CONTROL SOMETHING ITS A FALSE BELIEF there is nothing you cannot do... nothing you cannot control. Just tell it to shut up its hard but keep doing it it will eventually go away if you really try to keep your awareness in the moment the introspective part comes because your not keeping your mind busy because your not listening to your surroundings keeping an active intrest in them.. becase to me I believe that its in your best intrest if somone tries to rob you rape you kill you anything at all.. if your in your head thinking your gona die ect. but if your aware of your surroundings keepign your attention fixed on the moment you will notice and act approprietly.. kill them or whatever.

 

[Panda 2000]

Great post!
*golf clap*