The Hunt for the Untouched

[anonymous12345]

Often here on SS crops up the shunting of essentially “modern women” or “wh0res”, whatever you like to put it. Often “rational” arguments are put forward, pair bonding and that they become loose. As far as I know, this mindset is nothing new, the eternal obsession with virgins and marriage, for instance. Some cultures have put this into system; like the Talibans, that pack women away and lock them in.

To me it seems like both men and women have tied their self worth into how the opposite sex validates them. For instance, I feel utter pain that a girl has been promiscuous and now attempt to convince that “but you’re special.” Lol. Obvious bs. I’m at the end of the line of this rental business. But at the same time I see the pathetic part in me — I doubt e.g. Bond would be weeping about something like this.

But women aren’t better, but maybe in a different way. Here we got the attention; give her a glance and she knows you’re hooked, and then she’s pretty much satisfied. Her self worth also got validated by the opposite sex.

Personally I don’t know my way out of this blocking pain and to become a “modern man” that respect promiscuous girls beyond when they’re merely lays. I have a hard time it is the playing field we have to accept. Eternal question. What is the answer to this? People here have very different takes on this.

 

[Zimbabwe]

This obsession doesn't exist without reason, there are countless studies I can cite that show that women who have had multiple sexual partners cannot pair bond at all. Nobody wants a hoe for anything besides sex, they are essentially walking talking fleshlights.

If you want a woman to raise a family with, she has to be a virgin. No exceptions

 

[Dr.Suave]

Im with Zimbabwe on this. Trought my life, half of my LTRs were not virgins, so I made exceptions because virgins are really hard to find. But given the choice, I always choose the virgin.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Often here on SS crops up the shunting of essentially “modern women” or “wh0res”, whatever you like to put it. Often “rational” arguments are put forward, pair bonding and that they become loose. As far as I know, this mindset is nothing new, the eternal obsession with virgins and marriage, for instance. Some cultures have put this into system; like the Talibans, that pack women away and lock them in.

To me it seems like both men and women have tied their self worth into how the opposite sex validates them. For instance, I feel utter pain that a girl has been promiscuous and now attempt to convince that “but you’re special.” Lol. Obvious bs. I’m at the end of the line of this rental business. But at the same time I see the pathetic part in me — I doubt e.g. Bond would be weeping about something like this.

But women aren’t better, but maybe in a different way. Here we got the attention; give her a glance and she knows you’re hooked, and then she’s pretty much satisfied. Her self worth also got validated by the opposite sex.

Personally I don’t know my way out of this blocking pain and to become a “modern man” that respect promiscuous girls beyond when they’re merely lays. I have a hard time it is the playing field we have to accept. Eternal question. What is the answer to this? People here have very different takes on this.

Virgins are rare nowadays. They exist but man you have to be lucky. And yes, ideally a woman with a healthy relationship with her father and family, plus being a virgin would be ideal. The reality is, 97% of the time they are not. So you then move on to other factors and approach it as "the lesser of two evils". Having a healthy relationship with her dad is on the top of the list, low count and how she perceives her exes, etc, etc.

Meaning you then factor in other standards and values to start making a decision if this is a girl worth committing to.

I wrote about a few of my standards here:

Know Your Worth: Setting Your Relationship Standards | Modern Man Advice

Are you often stuck in unfulfilling relationships with women? Are you constantly being played? The problem might be your woman standards.

www.modernmanadvice.com

Modern Man Advice

 

[Kotaix]

It really just depends on the mentality. Is the woman interested in one night stands? Or has she had 4 or 5 boyfriends over the course of her life (all of which were LTRs) and she hasn't been, and isn't interested in, riding the CC. As much as "modern" women might want to deny it, one-night-stands and high promiscuity are damaging to the psyche of women. And I would argue that it's also damaging to men.

Personally, I've never been interested in going out to clubs and trying to bang as many women as possible. I'd rather find one quality woman than 100 hoes, and I'm just not interested in hoes.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Women are not going to learn the value of virginity until they start to experience disqualification.

I personally struggled with this all my life. As years went on, it became almost statistically impossible that I’d find a virgin.

Fortunately I ended up marrying a widow who only had that one partner all her life. She was widowed for about 15 years and has never been with anyone else. For some unknown reason, the math worked for me and that doesn’t bother me.

But man I remember my days of being absolutely disgusted by the high notch counts when “that” conversation took place.

Men by and large have no standards. The thought of rejecting based on a promiscuous past is almost non-existent. Therefore, women experience no consequences and are encouraged to give themselves away.

 

[Dr.Suave]

One poster here said he would consider a woman a virgin even if she'd blown 50 men or done anal.

Lol, that was probably me. Hell yeah I would be all over her. Lifelong lesbians who suddenly became bi or wanted to experiment would be welcome too.