mrpinkdonttip
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Hi all,
first of all THANK YOU for being here and providing this resource. I started looking for tips to "hit on women" and have stumbled upon something far more meaningful and spiritual in what you have here in these pages.
I am a stutterer, I am at work now and pressed for time so I won't get into it too much but suffice to say it's difficult at times to talk at all let alone to talk to women. I have certain other personality qualities that make up for it, I actually have a lot of confidence most of the time and have periods of almost perfect fluency. I have had success with women overall in my life, in my younger years (16-23, I'm 33 now) I slept with many women by having the balls to approach them and ask 'em out and not being afraid to be a man and let them know what I wanted. This was not rewarding in any real way because 99% of them were one night stands and I never had sex with a girl I loved until my ex. I was a "pick up artist" not a true don juan as I read in one of the articles here, turning on the charm and confidence to get laid when I needed to and then retreating into resentment at women and lonliness the rest of the time. Not to mention I NEVER really understood the need to get the almighty beautiful woman off the pedestal the way I do now. I charmed them but still worshipped them and only got laid cuz I was attractive and forward not for the person I was.
I then entered a beautiful almost 9 year relationship that I ended in april of this year - I learned many things in this relationship and I consider it a blessing to have experienced it but in certain ways it was bad for me too. anyway I could go on for hours about that, I'm gonna have to think short story here instead of epic novel.
so thus began my re-introduction to the single life. Part of this experience has involved a ljbf girl who drives me insane but has been real good for me overall - she never falls for the lamo bs that some girls fall for and she loses interest at the first sign of whipped she sees or weakness, I called her a ljbf girl but she doesn't really fit into that categ - we've messed around a little bit but more of like just touching and massaging flirting etc. came close to more a couple times but always gets screwed up somehow. I consider her an equal who was put into my life to challenge me to do just what I'm doing now, trying to live up to my full potential.
ugh man I could say so much. I feel now the way I felt when I stumbled into an AA meeting 13 years ago - like coming home. I'm on day two of dj boot camp. got 11 Hi s today and lots of eye contact (I'm good at the eye contact thing already cuz it's an anti- stutterer tool but I have taken it to the next level with the follow-up smile and hi if possible), also some convos with strangers young and old, men and women. I'm jumping ahead a little I know but the convos aren't that hard for me, the hardest thing for me right now is saying hi or hello lol. I have a thing, a fear of saying hi for some reason - I stutter on it a lot so I typicaly say something else "whats up" etc which is BS cuz I'm letting fear rule me by doing that, so like I said today I said Hi 11 times to strangers and have been say9ing it to everyone who walks in here at work which is hard as sh*t but so rewarding. I talked to many people today having real conversations and felt so connected and at ease with myself.
I realize this will ebb and flow but thanks to you guys my highs are gonna be higher and my lows not as low - I can feel that much for certain already. I'm going to "keep coming back" and stick with this. I look forward to getting to know some of you and being the dj I was meant to be. Is anyone on here from humboldt county? would be cool to get a wing man - I got a good bud out here but I'm not sure he's gonna embrace this stuff and I could use all the support I can get.
first of all THANK YOU for being here and providing this resource. I started looking for tips to "hit on women" and have stumbled upon something far more meaningful and spiritual in what you have here in these pages.
I am a stutterer, I am at work now and pressed for time so I won't get into it too much but suffice to say it's difficult at times to talk at all let alone to talk to women. I have certain other personality qualities that make up for it, I actually have a lot of confidence most of the time and have periods of almost perfect fluency. I have had success with women overall in my life, in my younger years (16-23, I'm 33 now) I slept with many women by having the balls to approach them and ask 'em out and not being afraid to be a man and let them know what I wanted. This was not rewarding in any real way because 99% of them were one night stands and I never had sex with a girl I loved until my ex. I was a "pick up artist" not a true don juan as I read in one of the articles here, turning on the charm and confidence to get laid when I needed to and then retreating into resentment at women and lonliness the rest of the time. Not to mention I NEVER really understood the need to get the almighty beautiful woman off the pedestal the way I do now. I charmed them but still worshipped them and only got laid cuz I was attractive and forward not for the person I was.
I then entered a beautiful almost 9 year relationship that I ended in april of this year - I learned many things in this relationship and I consider it a blessing to have experienced it but in certain ways it was bad for me too. anyway I could go on for hours about that, I'm gonna have to think short story here instead of epic novel.
so thus began my re-introduction to the single life. Part of this experience has involved a ljbf girl who drives me insane but has been real good for me overall - she never falls for the lamo bs that some girls fall for and she loses interest at the first sign of whipped she sees or weakness, I called her a ljbf girl but she doesn't really fit into that categ - we've messed around a little bit but more of like just touching and massaging flirting etc. came close to more a couple times but always gets screwed up somehow. I consider her an equal who was put into my life to challenge me to do just what I'm doing now, trying to live up to my full potential.
ugh man I could say so much. I feel now the way I felt when I stumbled into an AA meeting 13 years ago - like coming home. I'm on day two of dj boot camp. got 11 Hi s today and lots of eye contact (I'm good at the eye contact thing already cuz it's an anti- stutterer tool but I have taken it to the next level with the follow-up smile and hi if possible), also some convos with strangers young and old, men and women. I'm jumping ahead a little I know but the convos aren't that hard for me, the hardest thing for me right now is saying hi or hello lol. I have a thing, a fear of saying hi for some reason - I stutter on it a lot so I typicaly say something else "whats up" etc which is BS cuz I'm letting fear rule me by doing that, so like I said today I said Hi 11 times to strangers and have been say9ing it to everyone who walks in here at work which is hard as sh*t but so rewarding. I talked to many people today having real conversations and felt so connected and at ease with myself.
I realize this will ebb and flow but thanks to you guys my highs are gonna be higher and my lows not as low - I can feel that much for certain already. I'm going to "keep coming back" and stick with this. I look forward to getting to know some of you and being the dj I was meant to be. Is anyone on here from humboldt county? would be cool to get a wing man - I got a good bud out here but I'm not sure he's gonna embrace this stuff and I could use all the support I can get.