The girls is confusing: in person - flirty, texting - aloof and apathetic

[thelastclap]

She is 15 and I am 16. We dated previously, but that was 7 months ago or so.

She has seemed to start liking me again. When we went on a school band field trip a month ago she was basically all over me. She slept on my shoulder on the bus, we held hands everywhere we walked, and she let me hold her when we sat on the bus.

When we got back to normal school days, it was like it never even happened. She just acted like a friend towards me again. When I asked her about dating, she said that she wants to but she wants to see if she still feels the same outside of our field trip, and that we should hang out outside of school to see.

But the thing that really confuses me is whenever I text her it's like she doesn't want to talk to me. It's really hard to make plans to hang out with her, not to mention her father is strict. But whenever we do get to hang out it is so much fun, and we have such a good time flirting and everything. I can tell that she even gets a little jealous when I laugh with other girls.

Why is she apathetic and affectionate when I text her, but completely opposite in person?
And how do I work around this to get her to hang out with me or talk to me (not in person) more?

P.S. - It is summertime so I don't have the same opportunities to see her everyday.

 

[Nino-Tk]

I wish we could swap situations, in my case the girl is more loving when we chatting but seems apathetic face to face (claims she is shy). I'd advise you to stop flirting and get on with the action already. Man its winter here! Really sucks!

 

[theanomaly]

It's just games guys, women in high school play them. Women in college play them, so do women in their 30s and 40s (never messed around in the 50s age group, but I've heard they do it too). Bottom line, who cares what they feel about you? If you dig them, go after them without apologies. This is the fastest way to find out if they're into you or just teasing. Either way, never try to analyze what a woman really wants cause they in my experience most women don't have a clue what they want (even those who say they do know). Decide what you want, go after it and if you get shot down, move on.

 

[CuriousGirl]

She probably likes you but not enough to date you. Is she fun friendly and flirty with everyone else? Probably. Maybe it's just her personality.

 

[Plec07]

It's probably a mix of the last two answers, she likes you. But she doesn't know what she wants. You guys have already tried it once, and you broke up for whatever reason. Chances are she has feelings for you but she's hesitant because you guys have already had a shot at it and it didn't work out. I'd say go for it when you with her and having a good time. She sounds like she's very emotional when she's actually around you and the worries fly out of her mind. When she's away from you however she starts thinking about them.

So don't talk to her much other than when your in person, and you should be fine. Just the longer you hang around and not taking action the more time she has to get cold feet and decide it's not what she wants.

 

[FlyGuyM]

It's just games guys, women in high school play them. Women in college play them, so do women in their 30s and 40s (never messed around in the 50s age group, but I've heard they do it too). Bottom line, who cares what they feel about you? If you dig them, go after them without apologies. This is the fastest way to find out if they're into you or just teasing. Either way, never try to analyze what a woman really wants cause they in my experience most women don't have a clue what they want (even those who say they do know). Decide what you want, go after it and if you get shot down, move on.

Lol i like you for this post NOHOMO

 

[LinkinParkROX]

Dude, she acts shy and stuff because YOU make her act shy. I bet you're shy yourself. If you initiate, she will follow. Set the mood to be fun and sexual, she'll follow. It's her nature. Women are reactive.