Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
THE GENTLEMAN AND THE PIMP COMBINED
By Marlimus
Marlimus@hotmail.com
Many would say that on a first date, chivalry should be kept to a minimum, not used AT ALL, or only used if it is being balanced out with ****y and funny behavior, the idea being that gentlemanly behavior would be perceived as Nice-Guy behavior. However, chivalry can be a powerful tool if it is done with a commanding air as opposed to seeking approval. Women are attracted to control and dominance, among other things.
There are some basic rules of chivalry to which this can be applied:
1) Walking with your shoulder to the curb with the lady on the inside, when escorting her down the street.
2) Pulling out a chair for a lady to sit down when in a restaurant
3) Opening doors for her
Many of you probably don’t like where I am going with this, but bear with me. Your newfound DJ instinct, compensating for past regrettable AFC behavior, is making you want to cringe at doing any of these things, because they remind you of a time in your life before you were a Don Juan, when you did these things and they were taken for granted. Trust me on this.
This is the manner in which such acts, IF performed , are to be performed.
1) Walking with your shoulder to the curb - When walking, allow her to walk on the outside of the pavement. Then, in the middle of her monologue, just tell her “Stop.” Softly, but with authority. Place your hands on her shoulders and physically move her so that you are now on the outer side of the pavement, do it gently, the way a dance instructor would move a person into position. Simply say “Continue.” Keep your head high, don’t look at her, continue conversation normally.
2) Pulling out her chair for her – When she approaches her chair, tell her
“Don’t move.” Walk over, pull out her chair, and tell her, in that same, soft, polite-yet-commanding Don Corleone/Godfather voice, “ Please be seated.”
3) Opening doors for her – This one, however, should only be done if she actually walks ahead of you. Once again, you gently, physically stop her, walk ahead, and open the door for her. DO NOT LOOK AT HER WHILE DOING THIS. As a matter of fact, do not look at the girl after doing any of these hings, it will look as though you are seeking approval.
Being a Don Juan is something that needs to be integrated with your personal style. If you see yourself as the gentleman, and you like to do these things because that’s you, then this is the way to do it, with a subtle air of command. It doesn’t work for everybody. If your angle is that you are a charmer, this might suit you. If your angle or your persona is that you’re a somewhat arrogant jerk or a ‘bad boy’, this might not suit you. This technique is not for everyone, but for whom the cap fits, let him wear it.
FOR THE BAD BOY OR JERK
Okay, I have a feeling more of you are going to like this one. Don’t use chivalry. At all. Use your ****y and funny to the hilt, as usual. However, when walking towards a door, go in front of her, open the door for yourself, and allow it to swing back in her face, without so much as a backward glance. Should she say something, smile at her and say
“Chivalry must be earned. Do you want that kind of treatment? Do you want me to
“Open doors for you?
“Pull out your chair before you sit down?
“Take your coat when we enter a restaurant?
“Walk on the outside of the pavement
“Kiss your hand and whisper sonnets in your ear?
“If you want that kind of treatment, you have to earn it. You have to measure up to my standard. “
Her: And what exactly is that standard?
“That is for me to know and you to find out.” Then wink at her.
This sequence must be played off with smile, and a teasing tone in your voice.
The purpose of calling out the different rules of chivalry is to tease her by showing her that you know damn well how to be a gentleman, but that you are holding out on her. Telling her that you have a standard lets her know that she is under evaluation, but in a not-so-subtle way. Carlos Xuma’s “Point System” accomplishes the same purpose. Acting as though you have the power of selection increases your social value and makes you a challenge, which in turns elevates attraction and curiosity.
WARNING : This will appear to upset some women very badly. No matter what happens, do not apologize, back down or compensate. Don’t argue with her either.
May the game be with you.
Marlimus
By Marlimus
Marlimus@hotmail.com
Many would say that on a first date, chivalry should be kept to a minimum, not used AT ALL, or only used if it is being balanced out with ****y and funny behavior, the idea being that gentlemanly behavior would be perceived as Nice-Guy behavior. However, chivalry can be a powerful tool if it is done with a commanding air as opposed to seeking approval. Women are attracted to control and dominance, among other things.
There are some basic rules of chivalry to which this can be applied:
1) Walking with your shoulder to the curb with the lady on the inside, when escorting her down the street.
2) Pulling out a chair for a lady to sit down when in a restaurant
3) Opening doors for her
Many of you probably don’t like where I am going with this, but bear with me. Your newfound DJ instinct, compensating for past regrettable AFC behavior, is making you want to cringe at doing any of these things, because they remind you of a time in your life before you were a Don Juan, when you did these things and they were taken for granted. Trust me on this.
This is the manner in which such acts, IF performed , are to be performed.
1) Walking with your shoulder to the curb - When walking, allow her to walk on the outside of the pavement. Then, in the middle of her monologue, just tell her “Stop.” Softly, but with authority. Place your hands on her shoulders and physically move her so that you are now on the outer side of the pavement, do it gently, the way a dance instructor would move a person into position. Simply say “Continue.” Keep your head high, don’t look at her, continue conversation normally.
2) Pulling out her chair for her – When she approaches her chair, tell her
“Don’t move.” Walk over, pull out her chair, and tell her, in that same, soft, polite-yet-commanding Don Corleone/Godfather voice, “ Please be seated.”
3) Opening doors for her – This one, however, should only be done if she actually walks ahead of you. Once again, you gently, physically stop her, walk ahead, and open the door for her. DO NOT LOOK AT HER WHILE DOING THIS. As a matter of fact, do not look at the girl after doing any of these hings, it will look as though you are seeking approval.
Being a Don Juan is something that needs to be integrated with your personal style. If you see yourself as the gentleman, and you like to do these things because that’s you, then this is the way to do it, with a subtle air of command. It doesn’t work for everybody. If your angle is that you are a charmer, this might suit you. If your angle or your persona is that you’re a somewhat arrogant jerk or a ‘bad boy’, this might not suit you. This technique is not for everyone, but for whom the cap fits, let him wear it.
FOR THE BAD BOY OR JERK
Okay, I have a feeling more of you are going to like this one. Don’t use chivalry. At all. Use your ****y and funny to the hilt, as usual. However, when walking towards a door, go in front of her, open the door for yourself, and allow it to swing back in her face, without so much as a backward glance. Should she say something, smile at her and say
“Chivalry must be earned. Do you want that kind of treatment? Do you want me to
“Open doors for you?
“Pull out your chair before you sit down?
“Take your coat when we enter a restaurant?
“Walk on the outside of the pavement
“Kiss your hand and whisper sonnets in your ear?
“If you want that kind of treatment, you have to earn it. You have to measure up to my standard. “
Her: And what exactly is that standard?
“That is for me to know and you to find out.” Then wink at her.
This sequence must be played off with smile, and a teasing tone in your voice.
The purpose of calling out the different rules of chivalry is to tease her by showing her that you know damn well how to be a gentleman, but that you are holding out on her. Telling her that you have a standard lets her know that she is under evaluation, but in a not-so-subtle way. Carlos Xuma’s “Point System” accomplishes the same purpose. Acting as though you have the power of selection increases your social value and makes you a challenge, which in turns elevates attraction and curiosity.
WARNING : This will appear to upset some women very badly. No matter what happens, do not apologize, back down or compensate. Don’t argue with her either.
May the game be with you.
Marlimus