The future. Potential Girls numbers 1 and 2 (or how to capitalise on past interest?)

[MrNiceGuy]

Don't get me wrong here, I'm still going to go making approaches to strangers, but here I'm thinking about a couple of potential opportunities coming up.

Right, in the spirit of forgetting **** ups from the past I'm looking at my opportunities for the future... the one I'm posting about here tho, is a missed opportunity from the past, but I think I may be able to salvage something, let me explain..

many months ago (around christmas time) my flatmate at the time was going out with someone, one of her mates, jenny, I met a couple of times, we had one major hobby in common (both DJing, with records! and both into similar sort of music).. Anyway, my flatmate broke up with his girlfriend and (apart from the two times I'm about to mention) neither of us saw jenny again..

So the last two times I saw her, first was in february, she was in the same club as me, and I noticed at many times in the night her and her mates looking over at me alot, I didn't approach, partly cos I was too afc, and partly cos I was chatting up some other girl (which went nowhere in the end).
The last time I saw her was a few weeks ago in may. I was walking thru the library and spotted this cute girl making eye contact with me and smiling at me like she knew me, I had no idea who it was, so I just smiled back to be polite and said hi (I would have approached but she was busy working in a group with people). A few moments later I realised it was jenny (it had been so long since I'd last seen her I'd forgotten what she looked like!, but she'd remembered me! ).

Now, I'm still here at uni working on a project, shes finished her course (and I'm assuming shes gone home), but its graduation ceremonies next week, so the chances are she'll be around in town.. I'll be out cos some of my mates are graduating and most people usually all go to the same place in the evening so fingers crossed I'll see her there. So I guess you see where I'm going, I think I saw some interest when I was seeing her, theres not much chance of dates or a LTR as its unlikely shes still staying in town but I'm hoping for at least a kiss if I can get it next week or a ONS if I'm (very) lucky.
The girl number 2 opportunity is one of jenny's mates who I have met once, the week before the second to last time I saw jenny (but she was part of the group I was talking about eyeing me in the club). I was chatting to her for a while, we had some good rapport going on but then her and jenny left because my mates ex-gf had turned up and things had got a bit awkward, so similarly maybe there was interest from her.. and maybe I'll see her next week.

So, what sort of approach, if I do see either of them do people think I should take? In particular do I say "I wish I'd seen more of you, where did you dissapear to?" ie. hint I'd have liked to get it together with her, or just forget about that...

 

[ulsterman]

What would you do date-wise if you ever pulled one of these mares? What would you have to offer on a LTR basis? What are your interests and is there anything exploitable about them dating-wise?

 

[MrNiceGuy]

What would you do date-wise if you ever pulled one of these mares?

Well, with both of them I'd only met them once or twice, so really I don't know that much about them, for a first date I'd probably just suggest meeting for a coffee, or a few drinks in the evening. Then when we get to know each other better, thinkof something we'd both like to do.. With Jenny tho, I know we are both into similar sorts of music so we could go to a club playing that sort of stuff, but thats not really a date is it? Similarly, we both DJ a bit, so we could compare record collections or something.. but again, its not really a date..

What would you have to offer on a LTR basis?

Well, this is a tough one... I dunno, I'm me! So they get the repeated pleasure of my company, sexual intimacy, and my support if they've got problems they need to work out.. I dunno I'm not sure what you mean with that question.

What are your interests and is there anything exploitable about them dating-wise?

Well, theres the music and DJing, which means we could go to a specific bar or club... or like I said above compare record collections... I'm interested in travel, but you can't really go on a date to a travel agents! And I'm into flying power kites and trick kites.. so maybe I could take em on an action date, doing something like that.. but I havent got any of my kit with me at the moment anyway.. Otherwise I'm just like everyone else, I like watching films and TV, going to pubs/bars etc.. a bit of video games etc. etc.

But as I said in the first post I think the chances are they're only going to be in town for one night only, there won't be opportunities for dates or a LTR I think.. but then I think maybe you're aware of that.. where is this going?

The only other complication is that these 2 girls are quite good mates, it could be that one of them likes me and the other doesn't (they were both in the group checking me out in the club) so I could get unlucky and pick the wrong one to go for (who out of loyalty to her mate would not do anything, but would also probably tell her friend and hence scupper my chances with her) I know if I had the choice I'd probably rather have jenny, but I'm by no means convinced shes the one with the higher interest... it could be either.

 

[MrNiceGuy]

bump..

I guess theres not alot to say here tho is there.. I'll just go for it like I would with anyone else who I don't know that well. I was just wondering if I ought to do anything different seeing as how they may have been interested but I never got the chance to act on it.

 

[ulsterman]

I was just wondering if you'd thought about what to do beyond the pulling stage. If one of those girls likes you, and you manage to be in the company of them both at the same time, you should, even with limited DJ skills, be able to suss which one it is you're in with. In the meantime, view them both as potentials and treat them accordingly until one or the other bites.