The future. Potential girls 3,4,5 and 6 (or how to hit on neighbours?)

[MrNiceGuy]

Again, in the spirit of forgetting **** ups from the past I'm looking at potential opportunities for the future.

Right I've recently moved into a new house over the summer.

When I was moving some of my stuff in last weekend, there was a girl going into the house next door, she stopped to talk to me.. I think this is how the convo went..

her: hello. are you moving in?
me: yep, just here over the summer.
her: oh right. I'm Phillipa.
me: hi, Tom. (we shake hands)
her: so what are you doing?
me: I'm a student up at the univeristy, I've got a project to do there over the summer. how about you? are you local?
her: No, I'm doing a Phd up at the uni.
me: Oh right, what in?
her: 3rd year (I guess she thought I said what year)
me: so nearly finished then!
her: well, not really no. (another girl walks into the door carrying charcoal), we're going to have a barbeque this evening.
me: (wondering if this is leading to me being invited) cool! nice weather for it! I've got to go back to my parents this afternoon so I doubt I'll be back in town till quite late.
her: just so long as we don't disturb you. (bollocks! looks like I wasn't getting invited)
me: I doubt it, like I said I won't be back untill alot later. Anyway I'd best get on with unpacking, have fun, nice meeting you.
her: Yeah, you too, bye.

I think there are 4 girls in the house. But I know nothing about them at all, they could all have boyfriends for all I know. Anyway, its 4 young women in my immediate vicinity so I'm wondering how best to go about getting to know them. I was hoping to bump into them coming into/out of the house but I've been here a week and haven't and I can't really remember what this girl looked like anyway. I'm thinking the best tactic is to arrange to have some sort of house party (a housewarming or something) and then just go next door and invite them.. then keep fingers crossed that they decide to come..

anyone else got any other ideas?? I think popping round to ask for a cup of sugar is a little cheesy and cliche!! plus I don't need any sugar!

 

[tamales]

Don't **** where you eat or post!. I mean if it doesn't go well, how uncomfortable will that be. ANd if it's meant to be then let her find a new neighborhood to live. Don't go there. Find other chicks that live at least 30 minutes away. Too close and trust, me you guys screw up and get caught! LOL!! Sorry, But even I have dated men in the same neighborhood. And very uncomfortable at brunch when you happen to all go to the same only breakfast place in the neighborhood. Plus, guys usually not a good idea for gals to know your comings and goings. I mean not if you really want your game on. We will stake your house, follow you and well we just have a sic sense to begin with that you are a PLAYER

Move on!

 

[MrNiceGuy]

Theres not such a big, local community/neighbourhood thing here in the UK, certainly not in the big towns. Like I said I've been here over a week now and not seen any of these girls yet (apart from when I moved in of course).. in fact if I don't make an effort to actually try and see them I doubt I'll talk to any of them again..

But, I hear where you're coming from with not dating people who you're going to have to see alot.

 

[MrNiceGuy]

come on.. anyone got any ideas at all?? surely some people must have got it on with a neighbour..

 

[tamales]

I did once that's why I am telling you don't. But sounds like you are going to anyways so good luck. Just know that in a few months if it doesn't go well, and uh.. let's say she dumps you.. well by then, you'll be running into her all the time, seeing her with other guys. Or vice versa. And unless you want her as a gf, dating her is going to be akward.

Maybe not but the likehood is that it's not worth it. If you want to date her that bad move out.


As far as tips, do exactly what you would do with any other chick. A neighbor is no different. Just be careful not to lie or give out too much information. The tips are the same, read the boards. YOU could next time you run into her just say something casual, like hey, we are all meeting at X, stop by and bring your friends. It's going to be fun. And guage her response. If she comes and meets you out then bust a move.

 

[MrNiceGuy]

hmm, I'm going to have to admit to a woman again that shes right,

fact of the matter is I'll have moved to a different town in 2 and a half months anyway.. even so.. girls have girl friends, who won't necessarily live so close..

I guess what I'm really asking for is tips to make sure I run into these women.. I've not seen them coming or going for a week..

apart from the party idea, I'll watch the weather, try and hang washing out at the same time as them.. then get some friendly chat going over the garden fence..

 

[Ser_i]

my opinion on the entire concept:


keep your own neigbhourhood clean and go "****" on someone elses turf.



if there are any nice gals in your own neighbourhood they might get interested into you cause they see you all the time.. but don't know anything about you.

 

[A1SteakSauce]

Male Perspective

I am gonna take the male perspective here.

First, get yourself invited to the BBQ next time. Instead of saying you won't be around, which closes off the invite, ask how four ladies are gonna grill their steaks all by themselves. Then they can say, "Oh, our boyfriends will help us" or they can say, "Oh, come show us, you big hunk of man" or they can say "Oh, we don't need men b/c we have Ph.D.'s in women's liberation and micro biology and we can reproduce asexually" or whatever, but now you now where you stand.

Second, let me tell you that I had a roommate one summer who did an entire rooming group of ladies. I promised to get him a t-shirt made with their room number on it. I think that house is a golden opportunity, if you get one of them, and the others know, she's gonna have to say how great it was to cover, and so the others will want what she got, too. B4 you know it you're gonna need to keep your d!ck in a sling it's gonna be so worn out.

Finally, it doesn't get any more convenient than doing your neighbors. Why walk 30 minutes when you can take care of your business across the street. And who is gonna have to move out of the 'hood after all this pipe gets laid and things go wrong? Not you, brother. Those ladies may feel the shame but you are gonna be one proud Tomcat. Let the neighborhood know you did them all. That is gonna build your rep. Let them move out if they can't deal with it.

Funny story -- I traveled in India for awhile, met some women who were traveling too. Skank city. But in India they think all white women are sluts -- and goddesses. And the Indian guys do not stop with the come ons even if they are greasy, sweaty, skinny, illiterate, broke camel riding, corn eating shoeless clueless you get the picture. They got the right attitude and they go for it every time. We can learn from that. Well, guess what? It worked. Turns out this one woman slept with her camel driver. The next day, that is all any of the Indian guys talked about, there was like a mob around her hotel room, she had to hightail it out of town during the night and catch the next train in the morning. I'm pretty sure the camel driver has been living high on that escapade ever since.

So I say stop making excuses for yourself -- stop being a nice guy -- and get to work here. You did the hard part, you already met her, so get your game on. Make like a male animal, or a 3rd world camel jockey, and and help out these poor ladies. Hold your own BBQ if needed. They are just waiting for the chance to sample your special sauce.

A1

 

[A1SteakSauce]

Oh, and since I just can't shut up tonight, I got to add:

Stop admitting to women that they are right!!! Seriously, once you agree with them, you become AFC in their mind. Remember, challenge keeps 'em coming. Make it a habit. Never agree with women on anything. Let them agree with you, but not the other way around.

Even if she says, "Don't you think the sky looks blue today," don't go, "Yeah, you're right, it really does . . ." go "I dunno, looks purple to me, actually." If you say it with confidence, look at her intensely afterwards, she'll probably fukkin agree with you if she's interested, or else she'll let it pass, only a ***** will argue it out. Reason is that agreement or assent is all about social status. When you agree or assent you acknowledge the status of the person making the comment and it is an act to maintain social harmony. Watch how women in a group are always agreeing with each other. Compare that with two alpha males, who cannot agree on the color of grass, hence war, empire, and capitalism. The act of assent puts you at equal or lower status. And women want higher status. So to play alpha male you make the calls and you let the chicks agree with you, and if they don't they can go get lezzy with their roommates.

Agreed?

A1

 

[MrNiceGuy]

disagreeing with women eh?? I think you're right.. its a good idea, unless of course I'm agreeing with them about my taste in music, films, poilitics or my outlook on life in general.. but then of course I need to add my own insightful but very meaningful and truthful extra bit..

Plus I'm leaviing this town anyway in the middle of september so yeah, if it does all go wrong.. I'm not too bothered, will start thinking about organising a BBQ soon..