The EXACT time to AFFIRM her, and when NOT to.

MrCasual

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It's a tight wire we all walk, but I
personally think that the trickiest situation with women is WHEN to give her positive affirmation, and when to keep hold of your "guy thing attitude".

The "nice guy", of course, ALWAYS affirms
her. By this, i mean, tells her exactly what he thinks she wants to hear, fawns over her, gives gifts, and is generally mr. positive. He NEVER disagrees with her, and tries to find the perfect gentlemanly thing to say at all times.

The smarter guy RARELY verbalizes his admiration of her. Instead, its ASSUMED. The subconscious message is "I like being with you because youre up to my standards". But he wisely witholds the flowery speech. Theres always a little bit he's holding back, waiting to see if she DOES measure up personality wise.

But THERE IS an exact time to affirm her. And it is done out a position of strength. Wait until you get to know her, you've established that YOURE the guy, she's the girl and youre in control. Preferably this should be on a day when she's feeling a little bit low. And she makes a self depreciating comment about HERSELF such as "I cant seem to do anything right lately".

Note that this is NOT a time she's fishing for admiration or control. She genuinely needs a strong man right now. This is the moment that you become husband material for her. Here'es how you do it.

Pause for a second, and then say "I've loved getting to know you in the past __ months, and I've learned one thing about you, which is one of the reasons I'm still dating you! Youre going to make it through this, and you'll be the stronger for it when you do.
With me right here beside you, the battles already won!".

Dont use those exact words. Make them
your own. But I can tell you that if youre there in her moment of crisis AT THE RIGHT TIME, she'll develop an emotional attachment to you that can lead to her putting you on her exclusive dating list.
 
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