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The Ex Files: She's Back. What do I do?

Cabal

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My last girlfriend I was with for two years; we broke up because I convinced her to go back to Uni and soon she didn't have time for a relationship and had to choose, so I chose for her and said we would be friends until we/her/I can figure out how to make it work.

Six weeks later I hadn't seen her once, she kept coming up with excuses - but seemed to somehow have the time to party from one end of the county to the other- and then she told me by text she was seeing someone else. I told her to meet me and explain how in one month she'd gotten over a two year relationship and found the time for a new one with someone else - who she'd known whilst we were together - and she told me to fvck off and leave her alone, it's over, get over it, move on, she has, and that I was too poor to give a girl the life that she wants.

I cut her off immediately.

Five months later. She messages me telling me she is so sorry, wants me back in her life, etc. So I told her I knew now they were together before we were apart, we know too many of the same people, and that I have come to terms with it and wish them well but will never forgive her or have her back in my life.

She denies it, and still contacts, we're sort of in a stand off of some kind. She's swerving between wanting to be friends, and her boyfriend not liking it and can we just be civil in passing in the street instead, and I'm like no-way you face me, period.

She phoned me the other morning, and promptly acted surprised after a few seconds and declared she had called the wrong number. Considering he's under C and I'm under R, and that she was using someone elses phone without either number in it I presume, I find that hard to believe.

Advice?
 

KontrollerX

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155594

Advice?

Depends on what you want out of this situation.

1. If you want to fvck her again use Metaphysical's guide I just linked for you and follow it to the letter.

2. If you want her to be your girlfriend again where you go out on dates together, hang out for long periods of time enjoying eachother's company at eachother's houses, share intimate conversation of thoughts and feelings well then you're an idiot as no intelligent man lets a distrustful cheating wh0re back into his life in a serious capacity which this would be. A fvck toy yes/possibly. A serious capacity where feelings and emotions are exchanged? Once again no. Thats N-O. No.

3. If you just want to get rid of her and have her stop contacting you find some way to block her number/email what have you and if that fails get a restraining order and begin recording her calls as proof. Also stop talking to her even in response to her calls/orchestrated bumping in to you in public etc. Cold no contact is key. No contact again means no contact. So if you've got a phone service that lets you see whose calling before picking up the phone simply pick up the phone and put it back on its receiver to hang up. Don't even give the cvnt the courtesy of hearing you say hello. If you don't have such a service the minute you hear her voice on the other end all she will hear is the clunk of you hanging up the phone.

So there are your choices.

What shall it be?
 

Desdinova

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Hey, didn't she say she got over you? Lying b1tch! :)

You've moved on with your life. She's one woman in an ocean full of bigger and better fish. She screwed up with the best man in the city (you) and she's just gonna have to deal with that for the rest of her life :)
 

sodbuster

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SHE pulled all this sh!t on you and you are still talking to her? I don't care if I ever talk to my ex-WIFE again, and if it wasnn't for the kids,I wouldn't. 14 years of marriage,2 years of dating and she is GONE from the world as far as I'm concerned. SHe's trying to USE you to make her BF jealous and you wonder if you should talk to her. She should be dead to you.
 

Trendsetter

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THIS IS B/S.

Man up and move the **** on. Change your number.

They're exes for a reason. Most guys don't cut off they're exe's because of fear they'll never find another woman like the one they had. Bro she disrespected you hardcore. Have some self pride. I was with my last gf for 4.5 years and had a hard time getting over her UNTIL she crossed the line and talked about my mom. Lol, changed my # the next day and never felt better. Now I'm enjoying the single life and not even thinking twice about contacting her.

Change your #, block her, cut off all contact, you'll feel better each day, I promise.
 

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SandHawk

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Ignore her. Just don't pick up her calls, ignore her texts and if she calls from a different number, just hang up the moment you hear her voice. She'll get the message.

NEXT!
 
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