The Enneagram. Personality types do exist MUST READ

[IamtheAlphamale]

So recently I found out about a book. Its called The Enneagram. It shows that how people were influenced as kids ALWAYS puts them within nine different categories of being. I personally had always thought everyone was very unique but now I see that all of your insecurities are just because of the type that you are.

There is a type called "The Performer." It is essentually what most people here are trying to become. This is people like Barack Obama or Arnold Schwartzineggar. Basically as children they were not paid attention to and they feel that the only way that people will like them is if they succeed at things and accomplish things. They are very effected by the insecurity of Vanity. I actually know a lot of people with this personality type, my father included.

I am a "Mediator." I am lowly motivated and have trouble saying no, am introverted and day dream a lot.

There are nine types. Your in them. Human work as a team, depending on how you were as a kid your psyche took on a certain personality type so that our species as a whole could succeed.

Doctors of Psychology back this stuff. Its for real. Now am I saying that the "Performer" or "Boss" personalities are the only ones who could get girls? NO! Your personality exists as an imprint from this world. It hugely affects you. But it is defeatable. The perfect alpha would exist without being influenced by his or her personality. This is a difficult thing to do.

My personality type started as a weakling. Now the girls who are with the "Performers" or "Boss" personalities regard me as the prize to be won. You should look into this book regardless of who you are. Every single person has this. You are not special.

Buddah would have been a super alpha male btw.

 

[DanelMadr]

I've "read" a book something like 40 faces of men. There were 40 types of men. And I found it accurate.

But...with only 9...it is very general info and even with 40 it still has some marks of a horoscope....people pick what suites them and belittle the rest.


However...scan it...upload it on rapidshare and post a link here

 

[Upside]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enneagram_of_Personality

The basic overview of the 9 personalities. I find myself to be the closest relateable to Fours.

Fours

Characteristic role: The Individualist
Ego fixation: Melancholy
Holy idea: Origin
Basic Fear: Being commonplace
Basic Desire: To be unique and authentic
Temptation: To beat themselves up and withdraw
Vice/Passion: Envy
Virtue: Equanimity
Stress/Disintegration point: Two. Disintegrating Fours may become dissatisfied like unhealthy Twos
Security/Integration point: One. Self-actualized Fours may become idealistic and progressive like healthy Ones

A lot of that resonates true with me much to my surprise. Interesting stuff, but you should really take it with a grain of salt. All personalities can be grouped in a basic way like this, but in the end everyone is "different" in their own way.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

I'm actually going to have to disagree with you both. Psychology is starting to embrace these characteristics.

You need to look at the situation like this. You start with your mind untouched by the world. This is your "Essence." This is you. Your weaknesses are because of your personality. You are the way you are because of your personality type. If you can see past it and work to reduce your flaws you will be close to your essense. THIS is exactly whats being taught here. Its just more specific and it has actual doctors of psychology saying its the real deal.

Depending on how you grow up your mind grabs onto one of these personalities so that you will have the best chance of survival. We work as a team.

Look this stuff up guys. This is a big deal. You may be in a few different groups but one will be the main one.

If you think this does not exist or you take it with a grain of salt then you just missed out on a huge opportunity. The book is 20$.

My cousin is actually a Professor at the University of California and knows the guy who wrote the preface. The guy is very respected. I've read most of the book and its absolutely mind blowing.

I've been in this community a long time. I'm pretty much where I want to be. I know how the mind works pretty well. Especially mine. I'm giving this book the thumbs up.

 

[DanelMadr]

Thanks for your effort, absolutely, man.

I do believe that is good stuff. It is always fine to learn something about oneself.
And I don't think psychology is a snake oil. People who study that have experience...they get to know many and many people on the low level, so to speak.

And yes people are not that different. Actually I categorize them to 3 groups. D!cks, pvssies and azzholes....watch Team America for more details....eyes opening movie and funny.

But (yeah be a little skeptic)
people can be similar on some level but when you go deeper they tend to be different. That's why not even your father understands you on that deep level...you are individual, because of your neuron cells in your brain....so many variants how to operate, I guess.

And you need to know yourself on that deep level. When you use only generalizations like 9 or even 999 types, to compare yourself to, it is just not enough. You need to dig deeper.

And the problem with psychology is it is sort of empiric science...they love to put people to boxes...not that they label them wrong but they lack the answers how did one get in the wrong box and how to get out. And they lack it, because it is highly individual.

The best book with some psychology answers I read was "No more Mr. Nice guy" by Glover (???).I just regret I haven't read it like in 18 and had to learn the hard way. But maybe if I read it back then I wouldn't appreciate it.

Well, thanks for your tip and just don't get over enthusiastic. Being absolutely honest to oneself is the key, I believe.