It seems over the past year, as I’ve made more and more progress with women and figuring all this stuff out, that success seems to go up and down, almost like clockwork. I swear, one week I will be doing great, and then the next week I feel like I’m back to where I was years ago, before I hade even made any kind of progress at all. I used to hold the belief that once you started making progress, you would continue to do so over time and you could almost forget about where you used to be. But now, I’m of the belief that just when you get on a roll with women and progress with them in general, be prepared for things to change or for something to go wrong. Is this just negative thinking? Can anyone else relate to this “ebb and flow” I’m talking about here? If so, does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with it and not keep falling back into a slump mentally as well as in your skills?
The ebb and flow of success...how do you deal with it?
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This sounds familiar. First let's address a few issues that I can infer from your posts.Originally posted by otr4
It seems over the past year, as I’ve made more and more progress with women and figuring all this stuff out, that success seems to go up and down, almost like clockwork. I swear, one week I will be doing great, and then the next week I feel like I’m back to where I was years ago, before I hade even made any kind of progress at all. I used to hold the belief that once you started making progress, you would continue to do so over time and you could almost forget about where you used to be. But now, I’m of the belief that just when you get on a roll with women and progress with them in general, be prepared for things to change or for something to go wrong. Is this just negative thinking? Can anyone else relate to this “ebb and flow” I’m talking about here? If so, does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with it and not keep falling back into a slump mentally as well as in your skills?
1. You said you are on an emotional rollercoaster that goes up and down from week to week. This is femmine behavior. Men are constant. Stop being so dependent on results all the time.
2. If you truely change yourself for the beter then your results will get better on average.
3. Expecting things to go wrong is a self-fulling prophsy. Yes it is negative thinking. There is no reason to think like this.
Now, the "ebb and flow" you are talking about is just a characteristic of dating reality that is entirely independent of your actions. You can not control the up and down, it happons to everyone no matter who they are or what they say. Now you can increase your chances with women but there will always be variation in success.
What you can do is realize that it is not your faught if the next few chicks you come across don't like you. Again, this is just the way it is. Hopefully this puts it in perspective and will help keep your spirits up.