The Don Juan Paradox

[Jester]

When i first started becoming a Don Juan, I realised the consequences of this path. I realised once my infatuation with my last girl of AFCism was ended, there would be no other incidents of it. And so that has happened, a relationship of almost 2 years, during which i transformed myself from AFC to DJ has ended and the infatuation ended with it.


When i was AFC, i went from infatuation to infatuation, but atleast that gave me motivation. Now that motivation is lost. The only thing i persue now is sex, and that driving force simply is not enough to compell me to do the work necessary to date a girl. I just dont care enough. I was once captivated by beauty, now i see only the flaws of her character and personality. I would be wrong to use some of these techniques i know to raise girls interest levels. It would be wrong because it would make them infatuated with me, and I, at this moment, only want sex.

Definitely interesting. After ive studied for years on how girls mind's work and how to manipulate them and make them like me. I find myself totally unmotivated to do so because i am incapable of infatuation. Quite the paradox indeed.

Perhaps this will change with the different girls i meet, perhaps i will discover something more, i hope it will. Sex and fun is only fun for so long.

 

[crimsonclockwork]

Im in just about the same predicament as you are. I have no motivation to go for girls anymore. Some, but not many. It gets boring after awhile, and I sit here without alot of motivation to do anything.

 

[blienk]

Think of it this way: no matter how good you are, someone is always going to be better than you. This is true for everyone of us - except for The Best DJ in the World.

So ask yourself: are you The Best DJ in the World? If you really think so, you better have some serious sh-it to back it up. If not, then do whatever you have to do to move ahead of the guy one notch ahead of you. Never be content with what you have, self-improvement never ends.

 

[Ares]

you got a good point blienk, but self improvment and dating can be two wery seperate things.....Now jester this is not meant to discourage you but.....it only gets worse.....I was at the same crossroad as you, only wanting sex and never falling in love, but those days are over.....I have no motivation to date girls, no girl is good enough to spend time with(in the romantical sense). and dont give me that bull-sh#t that I just havent dated enough....Im not saying this to brag, but I've had about 21 girls, I've dated about 50, I've even had a couple of meaningful realsonships, I've been there, I've done that and Im tired of it.....
you can lable me a misogynist if you want, but what I got left in my life is one single thing, self improvement.....and most of the time it is enough.....
other times, well we all have our bad days....

 

[Ares]

ok, now Im gonna contradict myself....but I think this might work....Im setting a goal for myself here....I will get to know(both in the normal and nasty meaning of the word) every girl I find attractive....I will make a list, ok more of a journal of every "conquest" be this rejection, p#ssy or plain macking...I know this sounds reeaally shallow but I think its the only way I can motivate myself....I mean loocking for "the one" is simply not enough.....I will "dissect" the feamle gender until I understand every little thing about them......
dont know if this helps any of you, but i think its worth a try....

 

[Jester]

Hrmm, i should have clarifyed some things.


I'm deliriously happy, and im motivated to persue my other goals in life. I just found it a bit funny that after i did so much work to be able to get girls, i really dont want them anymore. Which is a shame, because i recall liking that feeling. But o well we'll all see what happens eh?

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Originally posted by Jester
Hrmm, i should have clarifyed some things.


I'm deliriously happy, and im motivated to persue my other goals in life. I just found it a bit funny that after i did so much work to be able to get girls, i really dont want them anymore. Which is a shame, because i recall liking that feeling. But o well we'll all see what happens eh?

I still find it ego pleasing... that'll pass in a few weeks

 

[LikRetsam]

You've simply realised that girls don't matter. That's all.

All your "infatuation" and ability to "love" has been directed at yourself. Your love is completly directed at yourself (and hobbies). It takes a mighty awesome chick to make even part of that go her way.

Alot of us are in the same whole. Just patient.

Lik

 

[Brazilian_Blues_Boy]

Oh I know that !
Suddenly, you can't find girls that shine like rainbows...

You'd give everything to feel that naive, strong dominating feeling of infatuation, like the guys who go after girls in the 80's teenage movies...

Yet... you just can't let yourself do that...you know better to let yourself get hurt/ego driven by your silly desires...

I don't know Jester, I'm feeling the same... there's not INTEREST like there used to be before...no more DESPERATION....

It's all sailing over calm waters... but you know, one of these days, I saw a girl that belonged to the past... I didn't even think about her in months.... in fact, when I went to school, I forgot to see her... but a gut feeling took me over, and I felt it, all over again... I choke... beyond this girl that I'd say anything to a couple months ago...

So, I believe... there must be some women out there, for every man like us, who breaks all the barriers of our "hard-times grown shell" and makes us feel like a 13 year old seeing the hottest chick in class...

Who knows?

BBB

 

[Smoothflow]

I am the best DJ in the world and I plan to make a DJ in all of us to my level. I have found love so deeply ingrained in myself that I radiate it to others, my body language is so smooth and vigrant that I get looks from everyone, I hypnotise the crowd. My voice penetrates through everyone and makes them listen to what I have to say. I do not conform to society, instead I make them conform to me and what I want. Ofcourse this is self centeredism if their was ever such a word, my new way of DJism is not only for my self, but for society as well. Which lights up every face in the crowd. I plan to teach those who want to learn this way. This way of drumming to the sound of your own beat.

 

[Jester]

Originally posted by Smoothflow
I am the best DJ in the world and I plan to make a DJ in all of us to my level. I have found love so deeply ingrained in myself that I radiate it to others, my body language is so smooth and vigrant that I get looks from everyone, I hypnotise the crowd. My voice penetrates through everyone and makes them listen to what I have to say. I do not conform to society, instead I make them conform to me and what I want. Ofcourse this is self centeredism if their was ever such a word, my new way of DJism is not only for my self, but for society as well. Which lights up every face in the crowd. I plan to teach those who want to learn this way. This way of drumming to the sound of your own beat.

Anybody else not see the relevance to this thread?

 

[LikRetsam]

absolutly.

 

[Cloud-uk]

That is actually the most anal self worshiping crap I have ever seen! Respect !

 

[WaRpEd]

Sounds to me like you guys tried way to hard. Kinda like when your studying for a big test for a very hard class in highschool, and you study and study and study...then out of nowere your brain shoots, you just can't take anymore!, so you go to bed with a numb brain.

It sounds to me like you guys need a hel! of a vacation.

 

[Smoothflow]

Ok WaRpEd, I will take your advice and vacate myself from this site forever and live life to the fullest and be as happy as I can be. So no more sitting around and writing all this crap that I write but instead preach my wisdom to the public society. You will hear from me again. Not throught this site, but from the outside world.
One more thing I gotta say. On your path to happiness, ask this question yourself.

" Are you truly happy with yourself? To the bone in your heart? Be very honest to yourself. No? well find a way to fix it and face reality!. FcuK embracing masculinity, Embrace EMOTION first then the masculinity will follow. "

I will leave you now, and experience the wonderful gift a life. I will find more inspiration there then here which will make me even more happier and elevated. Good luck my fellow comrades on your quest to true happiness and bliss, and let GOD find and lift you up into the sky and learn a way to escalate yourself to the level of the stars! and remember freedom of speech now days is so much more powerful then 30-40years ago, use it to your advantage.

 

[Jester]

Originally posted by WaRpEd
Sounds to me like you guys tried way to hard. Kinda like when your studying for a big test for a very hard class in highschool, and you study and study and study...then out of nowere your brain shoots, you just can't take anymore!, so you go to bed with a numb brain.

It sounds to me like you guys need a hel! of a vacation.

nah bro, isnt quite like that.


likretsam was right on target with his analysis, BBB too.

 

[TheMinistered]

You know, this sounds like just another excuse pulled out of the ass-bag. I use to use excuses, at an incredible rate, so that I wouldn't have to do something. It sounds to me that you've been **** out of luck for too long, and are making up excuses as too why you have striken such bad luck. that's my observation, but I could be wrong.

Oh, there could be one flaw to my observation... I might not have factored in the percentile of homosexuality conversions... So, either your homosexual or you have had bad luck lately and want something to pin the blame on.

 

[JSH]

Originally posted by TheMinistered
You know, this sounds like just another excuse pulled out of the ass-bag. I use to use excuses, at an incredible rate, so that I wouldn't have to do something. It sounds to me that you've been **** out of luck for too long, and are making up excuses as too why you have striken such bad luck. that's my observation, but I could be wrong.

Oh, there could be one flaw to my observation... I might not have factored in the percentile of homosexuality conversions... So, either your homosexual or you have had bad luck lately and want something to pin the blame on.

well observed

 

[Jester]

Originally posted by TheMinistered
You know, this sounds like just another excuse pulled out of the ass-bag. I use to use excuses, at an incredible rate, so that I wouldn't have to do something. It sounds to me that you've been **** out of luck for too long, and are making up excuses as too why you have striken such bad luck. that's my observation, but I could be wrong.

Oh, there could be one flaw to my observation... I might not have factored in the percentile of homosexuality conversions... So, either your homosexual or you have had bad luck lately and want something to pin the blame on.

you have some kinda grudge man?

 

[Smoothflow]

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