OnTheWayUp
Senior Don Juan
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- Oct 13, 2010
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Let's leave the day-to-day SS squabbles over how to arrange a perfect first date, whether to leave your gf, and how to escalate to one side for a moment. Let's look at the bigger picture and look into the future.
Most of us came to SS because we were a work in progress. We were rejected by "that one girl" and wanted to get her at all costs. The longer you stay on here and work at the philosophy of self-improvement this board advocates, the more you realise it's not about the one girl who rejected you in high school or college. It's about building a way of life which is successful and happy- and a by-product of that lifestyle is success with the ladies.
So as I said at the beginning of the post, let's gaze into the future for a moment. Let's imagine that you've become one of the top guys around in whatever field you've chosen. If you want to go into politics, you've become a flashy ambassador or a high-ranking minister. If you want to be a musician, you've finally made it into the public eye in the band or your dreams. You might have started your own business about your passion, and things have finally taken off. You have a body most men would kill for after years of hard work in the gym and in your diet. I'm exaggerating for effect, but you get the picture.
Here's the dilemma. Your success and high social status means that women in their sexual prime are falling over themselves trying to pursue you. You have more female options than ever before in your life. At the same time, you want to start a family. Social pressure to be monogamous (publically at least) means that doing this outside a monogamous family unit might be detrimental to your career and reputation. You want to sleep with all the girls that are making moves on you, but appreciate that doing so risks jeopardising all your hard work. Look at what happened to Tiger Woods or Congressman Weiner.
The kings of old had it easy. They had one special girl (the queen) who they elevated above all others, and could sleep with as many young concubines as they wished- without jeopardising their social status for the most part. To summarise: in the age of democracy and egalitarianism- both political and sexual- successful men in the public limelight face a dilemma:
How do successful men best monopolise the sexuality of the most fertile girls, whilst simultaneously preserving their career, a relationship with a traditional-style "life partner" that they love, and a functional family?
Most of us came to SS because we were a work in progress. We were rejected by "that one girl" and wanted to get her at all costs. The longer you stay on here and work at the philosophy of self-improvement this board advocates, the more you realise it's not about the one girl who rejected you in high school or college. It's about building a way of life which is successful and happy- and a by-product of that lifestyle is success with the ladies.
So as I said at the beginning of the post, let's gaze into the future for a moment. Let's imagine that you've become one of the top guys around in whatever field you've chosen. If you want to go into politics, you've become a flashy ambassador or a high-ranking minister. If you want to be a musician, you've finally made it into the public eye in the band or your dreams. You might have started your own business about your passion, and things have finally taken off. You have a body most men would kill for after years of hard work in the gym and in your diet. I'm exaggerating for effect, but you get the picture.
Here's the dilemma. Your success and high social status means that women in their sexual prime are falling over themselves trying to pursue you. You have more female options than ever before in your life. At the same time, you want to start a family. Social pressure to be monogamous (publically at least) means that doing this outside a monogamous family unit might be detrimental to your career and reputation. You want to sleep with all the girls that are making moves on you, but appreciate that doing so risks jeopardising all your hard work. Look at what happened to Tiger Woods or Congressman Weiner.
The kings of old had it easy. They had one special girl (the queen) who they elevated above all others, and could sleep with as many young concubines as they wished- without jeopardising their social status for the most part. To summarise: in the age of democracy and egalitarianism- both political and sexual- successful men in the public limelight face a dilemma:
How do successful men best monopolise the sexuality of the most fertile girls, whilst simultaneously preserving their career, a relationship with a traditional-style "life partner" that they love, and a functional family?