Alphathree
Senior Don Juan
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The art of "pick up" will not solve any of the problems that anyone here has. How do you know if you're doing "pick up?" If interacting with women feels:
-- intimidating
-- cold
-- calculated
-- standoff-ish
-- anxious
-- tricky
"Natural" game feels like this:
-- relaxing
-- fun
-- interesting
-- centered (hard to explain)
-- warm and fuzzy
-- physical
So long as you are doing things in the first category and not the second, you might score more women occasionally, but you will never "feel" it.
I've been at this every day for almost two years now, and I come to this site to try to share my experiences in the hopes that they might help one or two other people.
There is a state you can reach. It takes a lot of effort. It's like there's this force that lets you glide through life on a cloud. You'll simply do what you want to do in each moment and you won't need anything from anyone. You won't have any tactics or techniques or canned lines. You won't even _care_.
Women will just smell this on you and they'll approach you, introduce themselves, make excuses to talk to you. And you'll find your standards just going higher and higher and higher. You'll love all of the women for who they are, but you'll choose the ones you really dig.
You see, all of these times when people tell you "you need to be unattached to outcome", "you need to qualify", "you need to lead", "you need to be confident."
Yeah, try remembering all of that. It has to be internalized. When you believe, you will see, it will all fall into place. You won't need to 'remember' these things. You will just be them.
It's all so clear in retrospect.
You guys are chasing after p ussy, and that's great, that's what you were built to do. But there's a greater pursuit, a greater goal, and that goal is to not need things outside of yourself.
The irony is that once you give it up, you will get it without effort.
Let me tell you that it feels better to have most women you meet be attracted to you than it does to sleep with 1 attractive woman by tricking her into bed with you. It feels good all the time, every day, and when you pick the woman you want, it'll feel just great with her.
-- intimidating
-- cold
-- calculated
-- standoff-ish
-- anxious
-- tricky
"Natural" game feels like this:
-- relaxing
-- fun
-- interesting
-- centered (hard to explain)
-- warm and fuzzy
-- physical
So long as you are doing things in the first category and not the second, you might score more women occasionally, but you will never "feel" it.
I've been at this every day for almost two years now, and I come to this site to try to share my experiences in the hopes that they might help one or two other people.
There is a state you can reach. It takes a lot of effort. It's like there's this force that lets you glide through life on a cloud. You'll simply do what you want to do in each moment and you won't need anything from anyone. You won't have any tactics or techniques or canned lines. You won't even _care_.
Women will just smell this on you and they'll approach you, introduce themselves, make excuses to talk to you. And you'll find your standards just going higher and higher and higher. You'll love all of the women for who they are, but you'll choose the ones you really dig.
You see, all of these times when people tell you "you need to be unattached to outcome", "you need to qualify", "you need to lead", "you need to be confident."
Yeah, try remembering all of that. It has to be internalized. When you believe, you will see, it will all fall into place. You won't need to 'remember' these things. You will just be them.
It's all so clear in retrospect.
You guys are chasing after p ussy, and that's great, that's what you were built to do. But there's a greater pursuit, a greater goal, and that goal is to not need things outside of yourself.
The irony is that once you give it up, you will get it without effort.
Let me tell you that it feels better to have most women you meet be attracted to you than it does to sleep with 1 attractive woman by tricking her into bed with you. It feels good all the time, every day, and when you pick the woman you want, it'll feel just great with her.
