The dark side of being a playa'

[BeExcellent]

Not sure I agree. Being a ‘playa’ can be just taking advantage of opportunities that present themselves. I love women, but I don’t have any understanding of them. My ‘seduction skills’ are a nice face. I’m a nerdy dork. However, I can be witty and charming. My job requires that of me. I am addicted to the dopamine rush of female validation. I suppose it is moot now as I am (mostly) a good boy in a LTR & I’ll probably marry her.

Kid in a candy store post divorce is kinda along the lines I'm talking about. Less the calculated player & more the opportunist/playboy. Those are the better quality men of the archetype honestly.

My husband is/was similar to you. Very handsome; LA rocker look. Stylish. Women approached him constantly so why not right? And my husband is an engineering/programming/gamer dude too. Spectrum but still knew how to flirt as he has been approached by girls all his life. So he took advantage of the opportunities but also came to understand about some serious clingers and crazies too. He ultimately got tired of crazy women. So he wanted beautiful but sane (well, more sane, lol).

 

[Sophisticator]

What is a bigger win - a high count but always being on the high/low while chasing silly pleasures, or having a really quality woman besides you, and living like a Man with purpose?

Is that genuinely the question? Who do you have a notch count for? Bragging to the bros?

Chasing skirts is a shallow pursuit.

 

[Solomon]

Chasing skirts is a shallow pursuit.

It is very shallow and I agree, even in my own pursuit of a partner I never cared for casual sex even though I have done it many times
Not saying this to be proud
But it's harder to keep a woman than get one

 

[Sophisticator]

But it's harder to keep a woman than get one

Ultimately more rewarding to be truly loved than to just get some nookie.