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Senior Don Juan
This first part is an overview of the success I've been having lately. Those inclined to do so may skip that. The question comes at the end.
History
The more I've been getting all of this stuff, the more my success has been growing. I've gone out with 7 different girls over the last month and have come to the place where I chose to stop seeing all of them except 3, despite all but 1 still really wanting to see me. I'm still seeing 2 of the girls with another one on the horizon, but I'm starting to really like one. She's one of the first one's I met... we've been talking since early June and went out our first date 3 weeks ago. We've have 3 total dates. Our next one is planned for Saturday.
BTW, this Saturday I've got a great date planned. We're meeting a nature preserve with a huge field next to a lake at dusk to grill out and watch the sunset. She just moved to my area from the other side of the country, and loves sweet corn... something they never have fresh along the Mexican border. So we'll have that and watch the sunset over the lake. Take a night hike through the woods. And lay out on a blanket with her favorite Belgium beer she told me about at the beach last weekend (Stella Artrois... and I don't think she's expecting I'll remember that because she said it in passing) and look for constellations. I also have a telescope I can bring so we can watch some of the Perseids meteor shower. She's a very outdoorsy, adventurous, wanderlust type of girl, which is awesome. And she'll love this.
I realize I have historically been a primary candidate for the deadly illness of "oneitits", and so I'm trying to take measures to ensure that doesn't happen. Notwithstanding all of that though, I really like this girl. It's not me putting her up on a pedestal or anything like that, I genuinely feel good about the time we spend together, I think she has a wonderful personality, and I would like to develop a deeper relationship with her. I am still going on with my life without being paralyzed, continuously thinking about this woman. But I am drawn to her. And as the selector, she is someone I select.
And so the obvious response to all of that in my mind is then, "well, dude, go do it!". And that's what I want to do. But often times, statements like that sound great when your bros are surrounded by a bunch of alcohol, but on a practical level, they aren't much help.
Question
She's a different girl than I'm used to, because quite unfortunately for me, I've tended to date a bunch of loser girls because it's all I thought I could get. She's also several years older... I'm 24 and she'll be 30 next month. This girl has a great career, a life, and tons going for her. I believe she's also dealing with the baggage of previous relational hurt and feels trepidations about surrendering her feelings to a man. And yet, the things she says to me indicates that she is starting to do so with me.
And I want this to happen. Think of the song The Music of the Night from Phantom of the Opera - I want her to lost in a sea of passion over me bound to the presence I have and to be willing to "let her soul give in" as the song says. And it's starting... but too slow for my tastes.
She's made a couple of comments that have led me to modify my game with her, particularly that when she first meets a guy, she let's them go immediately if they text her continuously because it tells her they don't have a life. She wants someone who already has a life and doesn't need her to become theirs. And so I have been overly cautious communicating with her. I don't communicate with every day, sometimes for a few days in a row. In all of my previous relationships though, I'd usually say something, no matter how small each day to keep her thinking about me.
What would you all do about this? What would be a good game plan to maintain communication with this girl on a decent level to keep my game good, but to also ensure that she misses me. Based on the things she says to me, I have a pretty good idea that I have been on her mind. And I want that to only continue to intensify. Is playing it back like I've been doing and maintaining a fairly high level of scarcity the right move, or should I be a little more aggressive. I feel like if I was anymore conservative, we wouldn't be talking at all. It all comes down to communication anyways... developing that sacred emotional connection that makes her soul lust for you.
Ideas, suggestions, commentary? Any would be welcome.
History
The more I've been getting all of this stuff, the more my success has been growing. I've gone out with 7 different girls over the last month and have come to the place where I chose to stop seeing all of them except 3, despite all but 1 still really wanting to see me. I'm still seeing 2 of the girls with another one on the horizon, but I'm starting to really like one. She's one of the first one's I met... we've been talking since early June and went out our first date 3 weeks ago. We've have 3 total dates. Our next one is planned for Saturday.
BTW, this Saturday I've got a great date planned. We're meeting a nature preserve with a huge field next to a lake at dusk to grill out and watch the sunset. She just moved to my area from the other side of the country, and loves sweet corn... something they never have fresh along the Mexican border. So we'll have that and watch the sunset over the lake. Take a night hike through the woods. And lay out on a blanket with her favorite Belgium beer she told me about at the beach last weekend (Stella Artrois... and I don't think she's expecting I'll remember that because she said it in passing) and look for constellations. I also have a telescope I can bring so we can watch some of the Perseids meteor shower. She's a very outdoorsy, adventurous, wanderlust type of girl, which is awesome. And she'll love this.
I realize I have historically been a primary candidate for the deadly illness of "oneitits", and so I'm trying to take measures to ensure that doesn't happen. Notwithstanding all of that though, I really like this girl. It's not me putting her up on a pedestal or anything like that, I genuinely feel good about the time we spend together, I think she has a wonderful personality, and I would like to develop a deeper relationship with her. I am still going on with my life without being paralyzed, continuously thinking about this woman. But I am drawn to her. And as the selector, she is someone I select.
And so the obvious response to all of that in my mind is then, "well, dude, go do it!". And that's what I want to do. But often times, statements like that sound great when your bros are surrounded by a bunch of alcohol, but on a practical level, they aren't much help.
Question
She's a different girl than I'm used to, because quite unfortunately for me, I've tended to date a bunch of loser girls because it's all I thought I could get. She's also several years older... I'm 24 and she'll be 30 next month. This girl has a great career, a life, and tons going for her. I believe she's also dealing with the baggage of previous relational hurt and feels trepidations about surrendering her feelings to a man. And yet, the things she says to me indicates that she is starting to do so with me.
And I want this to happen. Think of the song The Music of the Night from Phantom of the Opera - I want her to lost in a sea of passion over me bound to the presence I have and to be willing to "let her soul give in" as the song says. And it's starting... but too slow for my tastes.
She's made a couple of comments that have led me to modify my game with her, particularly that when she first meets a guy, she let's them go immediately if they text her continuously because it tells her they don't have a life. She wants someone who already has a life and doesn't need her to become theirs. And so I have been overly cautious communicating with her. I don't communicate with every day, sometimes for a few days in a row. In all of my previous relationships though, I'd usually say something, no matter how small each day to keep her thinking about me.
What would you all do about this? What would be a good game plan to maintain communication with this girl on a decent level to keep my game good, but to also ensure that she misses me. Based on the things she says to me, I have a pretty good idea that I have been on her mind. And I want that to only continue to intensify. Is playing it back like I've been doing and maintaining a fairly high level of scarcity the right move, or should I be a little more aggressive. I feel like if I was anymore conservative, we wouldn't be talking at all. It all comes down to communication anyways... developing that sacred emotional connection that makes her soul lust for you.
Ideas, suggestions, commentary? Any would be welcome.
mg the craziest thing just happened! have a good story to tell when she responds.