I moved to the Chicago area recently and noticed that it's very different than the South, where I moved from. People are incredibly antisocial here and act self-righteous. Neighborhoods are heavily segregated (i.e. Old Town-White people, Pilsen-Hispanic, Southside-Black)
If you go on the Chicago or CTA subreddits, you'll occasionally see women complain and describe their encounters with a "creep" that was just making basic conversation https://www.reddit.com/r/cta/s/faQOQiarNP
I've had numerous experiences where I get straight up ignored when attempting to make conversation. Times where I could be asking for directions, and girls rudely wave me off and say NO.
On a couple of occasions, I've smiled and said "hey, how you doing" to girls I was walking by on the sidewalk amoungst crowds, in broad daylight, and they looked at me and powerwalked in a different direction. Extreme reactions and kinda funny looking back
To make sure I wasn't crazy, I even tried asking a dude for directions in Wrigleyville on a day when it wasn't busy or cold and he just rudely brushed me off and kept walking.
Even the retail employees in Chicago are often rude and don't give a ****
This is by far the most rude and dismissive population I've had to live amoungst and I plan on moving to another state before the end of year. Many people do not have manners.
As you can imagine people RARELY initiate conversation. The only time someone initiated conversation with me here was some dude at Whole Foods. We exchanged numbers since he seemed pretty cool. Couple days later, he tries to reel me into an MLM scheme and I block him.
Any time I've spoken to friendly people that are willing to have a conversation, or co-workers, they agree that people here can be cold and distant.
What's hilarious is that reddit posts of girls complaining that they're not being approached occasionally pop up. Well, they're afraid of getting blasted on social media!
Moral of the story, don't move to Chicago. If you want the city life, consider moving into any other big city, unless you have a clique I guess, since this city is so damn cliquey. I'm sure New York is better. There are definitely friendly people here. I'd say it's probably 50/50, a mixed experience.
On the bright side, I've had normal, positive interactions with girls here that aren't ugly on the inside and are naturally polite/respectful.
I've also adjusted my approach, getting positive reactions most of the time now
Just sharing my experience.
Southern hospitality > Midwestern
If you go on the Chicago or CTA subreddits, you'll occasionally see women complain and describe their encounters with a "creep" that was just making basic conversation https://www.reddit.com/r/cta/s/faQOQiarNP
I've had numerous experiences where I get straight up ignored when attempting to make conversation. Times where I could be asking for directions, and girls rudely wave me off and say NO.
On a couple of occasions, I've smiled and said "hey, how you doing" to girls I was walking by on the sidewalk amoungst crowds, in broad daylight, and they looked at me and powerwalked in a different direction. Extreme reactions and kinda funny looking back
To make sure I wasn't crazy, I even tried asking a dude for directions in Wrigleyville on a day when it wasn't busy or cold and he just rudely brushed me off and kept walking.
Even the retail employees in Chicago are often rude and don't give a ****
This is by far the most rude and dismissive population I've had to live amoungst and I plan on moving to another state before the end of year. Many people do not have manners.
As you can imagine people RARELY initiate conversation. The only time someone initiated conversation with me here was some dude at Whole Foods. We exchanged numbers since he seemed pretty cool. Couple days later, he tries to reel me into an MLM scheme and I block him.
Any time I've spoken to friendly people that are willing to have a conversation, or co-workers, they agree that people here can be cold and distant.
What's hilarious is that reddit posts of girls complaining that they're not being approached occasionally pop up. Well, they're afraid of getting blasted on social media!
Moral of the story, don't move to Chicago. If you want the city life, consider moving into any other big city, unless you have a clique I guess, since this city is so damn cliquey. I'm sure New York is better. There are definitely friendly people here. I'd say it's probably 50/50, a mixed experience.
On the bright side, I've had normal, positive interactions with girls here that aren't ugly on the inside and are naturally polite/respectful.
I've also adjusted my approach, getting positive reactions most of the time now
Just sharing my experience.
Southern hospitality > Midwestern
