I have been hanging with women in their early 20s lately. No sexual contact yet. I am just observing. These women are chaos. Its ok that they are chaos. We should not take it personally.
One girl was planning an outing. The chaos that ensued from planning was hilarious. This was a simple outing that turned into tears, frustration and drama. Her indecisiveness was amazing. There was a lot of unnecessary people pleasing going on that contributed to the chaos. There was a lot of over complication going on with the menu. There was indecision with the type of venue. She didnt know who to invite etc etc blah blah.
The point of this story is that very feminine cute girls treat their love life in the same manner that they treat planning parties. It's chaos. It's not that they are bad people. It's just that most young females are bad at making decisions. They get anxiety, want to please too many people and are very bad at making a final call. Have you ever been bar hopping with women? Its confusion lol.
As men we should remind ourselves that this girl is rejecting you based on a lot of conflicting emotions. Women do not have an objective barometer of what is valuable in a man ( outside of looks). They were not designed to make big decisions. These creatures were designed to manage a home and raise loving children.
We have to constantly remind ourselves not to take the rejection, hot and cold behavior and impulsivity personally. It's just who they are. Dont let it effect your self esteem.
Women are considering 1 million factors about any given decision. If the decision is romantic they are considering 30 billion factors at one time. While hanging out with you these are the thoughts racing in their head.Some include:
1.) omg what if he is a player
2.) I dont want him to know I am on my period and cramping like crazy
3.) I am not ready for a relationship, but I am horny, but I dont want to feel like a slut
4.) Hes cute but short but cute
5.) I miss my ex
6.) He is so funny
7.) Does my outfit make me look fat
8.) I can probably do bettter
9.) Aww I love hanging with him, I better not get too attached
Now being very good looking or having extremely high status will override this internal chaos. She has to be 100% interested in you for her horniness to override her chaotic thinking. If you are 80% or below with her interest level, then you will get the full force of her chaos. Its ok. Just find that 100% interested girl.
One girl was planning an outing. The chaos that ensued from planning was hilarious. This was a simple outing that turned into tears, frustration and drama. Her indecisiveness was amazing. There was a lot of unnecessary people pleasing going on that contributed to the chaos. There was a lot of over complication going on with the menu. There was indecision with the type of venue. She didnt know who to invite etc etc blah blah.
The point of this story is that very feminine cute girls treat their love life in the same manner that they treat planning parties. It's chaos. It's not that they are bad people. It's just that most young females are bad at making decisions. They get anxiety, want to please too many people and are very bad at making a final call. Have you ever been bar hopping with women? Its confusion lol.
As men we should remind ourselves that this girl is rejecting you based on a lot of conflicting emotions. Women do not have an objective barometer of what is valuable in a man ( outside of looks). They were not designed to make big decisions. These creatures were designed to manage a home and raise loving children.
We have to constantly remind ourselves not to take the rejection, hot and cold behavior and impulsivity personally. It's just who they are. Dont let it effect your self esteem.
Women are considering 1 million factors about any given decision. If the decision is romantic they are considering 30 billion factors at one time. While hanging out with you these are the thoughts racing in their head.Some include:
1.) omg what if he is a player
2.) I dont want him to know I am on my period and cramping like crazy
3.) I am not ready for a relationship, but I am horny, but I dont want to feel like a slut
4.) Hes cute but short but cute
5.) I miss my ex
6.) He is so funny
7.) Does my outfit make me look fat
8.) I can probably do bettter
9.) Aww I love hanging with him, I better not get too attached
Now being very good looking or having extremely high status will override this internal chaos. She has to be 100% interested in you for her horniness to override her chaotic thinking. If you are 80% or below with her interest level, then you will get the full force of her chaos. Its ok. Just find that 100% interested girl.
