the "busy" woman, how do you get around this?

[solo1]

Honestly i think the insecure woman uses this line. I know generally people that use this line attempt to appear to be important, by trying to look scarce and that their time is too valuable to be wasted with the "im busy" line. Apparently girls use this more than guys.

In the past, a girl i was interested in used the line about 50% of the time. But when i lost interest and moved on, if she ran into me she suggests something to do together. And if i ask what she's been up to, she says either "bored" or "nothing".

And then there's the she-friend who ends up falling for you. All of a sudden she's not as available anymore, and it's hard to reach her. Pretending to be busy, while making herself appear scarce and important.

Is this some kind of thing they do to make guys do the chasing to earn their time? Is it even worth pursuing her if she spits you that line?
If a girl had a high IL, would she still be using that line?

 

[solo1]

im not saying always, im saying occasionally they spit you that line to make themselves appear like they have better things to do. Yet at the same time they do appear to reciprocate interest.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by solo1
im not saying always, im saying occasionally they spit you that line to make themselves appear like they have better things to do. Yet at the same time they do appear to reciprocate interest.

doesnt really happen too often, interested women will make a dash to see you. you guys are the ones that always want to seem more busy than you are.

 

[AmIAFC]

Originally posted by penkitten
you guys are the ones that always want to seem more busy than you are.

Gee, I wonder why...

 

[solo1]

Originally posted by penkitten
doesnt really happen too often, interested women will make a dash to see you. you guys are the ones that always want to seem more busy than you are.

that's cause women like ambitious guys! you cant deny that

 

[TxCowboy]

Originally posted by penkitten
doesnt really happen too often, interested women will make a dash to see you. you guys are the ones that always want to seem more busy than you are.

HAH ! If that isnt the pot calling the kettle black ... And if we didnt maintain our "busy" persona , call you females less, then , we all know what that means ...

not busy = no IL from chick = more ho games = no pu$$y

Simple

 

[Cougar10033]

Nah the chick i am working on is seriously busy all the freakin time... She leaves for work at 4 in the morning gets home at 5-7 at night depending on if she has to coach or not.. Then she teaches spinning class at the gym until about 830... SO during the week its rare to see her.

 

[GuitarOnFire]

I know generally people that use this line attempt to appear to be important, by trying to look scarce and that their time is too valuable to be wasted with the "im busy" line.

Next her.

Girls that give you a "I'm busy" or anything similar without a counter-offer are in fact helping you.

When a girl doesn't want to be with a Don Juan, it's a win-win situation for the guy. Who wants to be with a girl/guy unwilling to put any effort into a relationship?

Leave them with their hand. It's what they deserve.

 

[solo1]

Originally posted by GuitarOnFire
Next her.

Girls that give you a "I'm busy" or anything similar without a counter-offer are in fact helping you.

When a girl doesn't want to be with a Don Juan, it's a win-win situation for the guy. Who wants to be with a girl/guy unwilling to put any effort into a relationship?

Leave them with their hand. It's what they deserve.

hm, well i guess that # close i got today is useless then.
"how'd you like to get together sometime this week? whats your #"
"im busy this week"
"yea thats fine, i got a lot of stuff to work on ."

well i got the number anyway heh

 

[GuitarOnFire]

Hmm... That situation might be a bit different. It's up to you as a developing DJ to decide.

However, confident persistence DOES payoff in spades.

Btw, don't ask her out AND a number at the same time. It comes across as desperate. Be casual, be suave, and then you'll be on your way to Don Juan-ville.

 

[solo1]

Originally posted by GuitarOnFire
Hmm... That situation might be a bit different. It's up to you as a developing DJ to decide.

However, confident persistence DOES payoff in spades.

Btw, don't ask her out AND a number at the same time. It comes across as desperate. Be casual, be suave, and then you'll be on your way to Don Juan-ville.

you're right, i shouldve said "lets get together sometime, whats your #?"

But thanks for the insight. And from the looks of it i shouldnt bother setting up a date this week.

 

[EquityPrivate]

You: "I'm going to the monster tractor pull on Wednesday and I'm robbing a bank on Thursday. Which would you like to go to?"
Her: "Aren't there hicks at tractor pulls?"
You: "Ok, so the bank robbery. Bring a mask."
Her: "Wait, I really am not free on Thursday."
You: "Ok, hmmm. Well, I have a cocaine buy on Friday..."
Her: "Friday is not good either."
You: "Ok, well I will give you a call when you have more free time."
Her: "...but..."
-click-

Don't call back.

I don't have time for women who don't have time for me.

Why do you?

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I believe your best option in this situation would be to just move on for several reasons.

1) If her life if in such shambles that she's genuinely too busy then she will be unavailable for anything with you.

2) People who are truly interested in you will MAKE time for you. Think about it, if some smoking hot babe wanted to go out with you would you reject her because you had more important things to do? Even the "worlds busiest man" Donald Trump still has time to date and get married.