The biggest mistake i ever did

[NSX-R]

Been quite a while since i last posted. A small update , been focused 100% on my business for the past few years and that caused me to slow down on the dating scene and chose to enter into a ltr for the time being with a single mother in her early 30s.I did a very huge renovation of my building it costed lots of time , money and stress. I used play sometimes on the side during that time . Anyway don’t want to write an essay. I’ll jump right next to the topic .
i found out she initiated some talk with a dude that she’s saying that he has a girlfriend and she was very warm to him , they were sending hearts kisses, she would usually suggest him to go to some concerts together . I confronted her , she lied and even swear on her kid that she didn’t texted him , and the next day she eventually admitted that she did texted him and tried to show me a deleted chat lmfao . Anyway that was not the worst ,cause i didn’t want anything more from her other than fcking her till my renovation of my business if finishes and then i can be more flexible. She was drunk and she flirted with a very close friend of mine . That friend of mine used to take drugs , (i don’t take anything, i hate drugs) and they came into that topic with her . She confessed to him that she did take all drugs and even Heroine. My friend was so shocked that he asked her 3 times if she really did take heroine and she completely proud said that she did . I was shocked when he told me about it even though we were already not together anymore.
How should i take revenge for it , what to do ?
Many would say i should do nothing but that kid is small and i can’t allow that . I’m thinking to contact it’s father and see what can be done . Or is there something else you would do differently to hit her feelings and make her feel pain?
We have each other completely blocked everywhere, no numbers nothing.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

These are not the droids you are looking for…

 

[Clockwerk50]

She is giving you the trickle truth. I will bet you if you pressure her more you will get additional information regarding her texting this guy. It sounds like emotional cheating.

Anyways, she obviously doesn’t respect you and the whole heroine abuse is a big red flag as it can be. I would just break up with her and be indifferent about the whole situation. The kid is not your problem, try to stay away from all this drama, and continue working towards your goals.

 

[Dr.Suave]

I agree bro, getting involved with a single mom was your biggest mistake,

 

[johnrambo]

Many would say i should do nothing but that kid is small and i can’t allow that . I’m thinking to contact it’s father and see what can be done . Or is there something else you would do differently to hit her feelings and make her feel pain?
We have each other completely blocked everywhere, no numbers nothing.

Jiraiya-Sama: So many red flags! 1) Single Mom; 2) Junkie; 3) Seeing/Flirting with guys behind your back. Not LTR material.

 

[Bigpapa]

Been quite a while since i last posted. A small update , been focused 100% on my business for the past few years and that caused me to slow down on the dating scene and chose to enter into a ltr for the time being with a single mother in her early 30s.I did a very huge renovation of my building it costed lots of time , money and stress. I used play sometimes on the side during that time . Anyway don’t want to write an essay. I’ll jump right next to the topic .
i found out she initiated some talk with a dude that she’s saying that he has a girlfriend and she was very warm to him , they were sending hearts kisses, she would usually suggest him to go to some concerts together . I confronted her , she lied and even swear on her kid that she didn’t texted him , and the next day she eventually admitted that she did texted him and tried to show me a deleted chat lmfao . Anyway that was not the worst ,cause i didn’t want anything more from her other than fcking her till my renovation of my business if finishes and then i can be more flexible. She was drunk and she flirted with a very close friend of mine . That friend of mine used to take drugs , (i don’t take anything, i hate drugs) and they came into that topic with her . She confessed to him that she did take all drugs and even Heroine. My friend was so shocked that he asked her 3 times if she really did take heroine and she completely proud said that she did . I was shocked when he told me about it even though we were already not together anymore.
How should i take revenge for it , what to do ?
Many would say i should do nothing but that kid is small and i can’t allow that . I’m thinking to contact it’s father and see what can be done . Or is there something else you would do differently to hit her feelings and make her feel pain?
We have each other completely blocked everywhere, no numbers nothing.

Quick question what happened with the father?

For how long she knew him before they had a child and how long they were after the child was born?

By the looks of the story you did very bad screening, as since she is a former junkie and also young I would say that she had little to no proper LTRs before

You should not take revenge or something. Just have the dignity and just leave. Is just your ego speaking now

If you want to be upset on anyone it should be with you. Poor screening + white knight syndrome. Pathetic mix if you ask me

 

[Solomon]

Focus on your renovation and afterward find a woman that's worthy of your time and space
In the meantime focus on your renovation, your mental health and you're self-worth as a man so you're not dealing with crack*****s

 

[soulforge]

Anything Heroin related is a massive red flag.

Even if I find out a girl has smoked weed in the past, I quiz her about other drug use like cocaine. Any hard drugs use and I am out.

 

[NSX-R]

Quick question what happened with the father?

For how long she knew him before they had a child and how long they were after the child was born?

By the looks of the story you did very bad screening, as since she is a former junkie and also young I would say that she had little to no proper LTRs before

You should not take revenge or something. Just have the dignity and just leave. Is just your ego speaking now

If you want to be upset on anyone it should be with you. Poor screening + white knight syndrome. Pathetic mix if you ask me

They were together with the father for like 8 years and they were 3 years married. They got married as soon as she got pregnant with him . Then she broke up with him because she said he wasn’t attentive enough after the kid was born , something that was always for me very hard to believe because considering my experience, he was always there for his kid and he would do anything for it .She also said that sexually were incompatible and she never had any orgasm from him . She was with him since she was 17 yo.
The drug abuse i suspect was after the break up from her ex husband, she got together with some dude for 2 years and that dude broke up with her because he wanted to be transgender. That time i guess started doing all the drugs to mask the pain i don’t know . As long as we were together, she was always telling me that she never did drugs and even promised on her kid .

Anyway , lots of red flags ,all those years we were together was like a completely different person. I feel ashamed that i fell so low ,i did the mistake and comforted myself that i found a noble and traditional woman with emotions . That’s what i thought but that was the blue pill mentality i allowed myself swallowing slowly without noticing it . That’s what women do if they see a successful man. They are opportunistic to the core .

I’m in a much better place right now .I read my Op and i can see how frustrated i was and that’s fine by me . She has blocked me in every single form of communication available. I deleted all of our pictures, deleted her number , messages, everything. There is not a single sign on my phone that she existed. I see her occasionally on the road driving the other way pretending she did not see me or parking her car in front of my business deliberately.
I found her best friend since he’s working for me for some project, never mentioned her except for once . He actually said himself that he thinks she doesn’t show her real face and that he doesn’t have the same beliefs about her as sometime ago . He also admitted that in the dating pool I’m higher valued cause I’m attractive, young , know how to talk and i don’t have kids or divorced in comparison to her that she’s older divorced with kid . I told him he should tell her that she should find what she needs from a different man and that i have already moved on . During that interaction i didn’t bad mouthed her , i just made it clear that i have different beliefs and more traditional values and I’m a core believer, if a couple come so far to get married and make kids , it should be till death takes us apart, something that her friend also believed and adding that he believes she’s nit the type of person to be committed in a long term serious relationship.

Anyway , i got out of it almost unscathed considering i lost all the potential plates or better relationship prospects i had with other females but got out a much much better man and i really appreciate her for it . No Ill feelings anymore for her , as i said , I’m already a better man and no need to hate those who made us better the hard way .

 

[Solomon]

Anything Heroin related is a massive red flag.

Even if I find out a girl has smoked weed in the past, I quiz her about other drug use like cocaine. Any hard drugs use and I am out.

Not to sound pessimistic but that would eliminate 80% of hot women (8+s) the amount of hot chicks that smoke weed or do coke or have done it is crazy high, especially for women who partake in the nightlife scene

 

[Gamisch]

Been quite a while since i last posted. A small update , been focused 100% on my business for the past few years and that caused me to slow down on the dating scene and chose to enter into a ltr for the time being with a single mother in her early 30s.I did a very huge renovation of my building it costed lots of time , money and stress. I used play sometimes on the side during that time . Anyway don’t want to write an essay. I’ll jump right next to the topic .
i found out she initiated some talk with a dude that she’s saying that he has a girlfriend and she was very warm to him , they were sending hearts kisses, she would usually suggest him to go to some concerts together . I confronted her , she lied and even swear on her kid that she didn’t texted him , and the next day she eventually admitted that she did texted him and tried to show me a deleted chat lmfao . Anyway that was not the worst ,cause i didn’t want anything more from her other than fcking her till my renovation of my business if finishes and then i can be more flexible. She was drunk and she flirted with a very close friend of mine . That friend of mine used to take drugs , (i don’t take anything, i hate drugs) and they came into that topic with her . She confessed to him that she did take all drugs and even Heroine. My friend was so shocked that he asked her 3 times if she really did take heroine and she completely proud said that she did . I was shocked when he told me about it even though we were already not together anymore.
How should i take revenge for it , what to do ?
Many would say i should do nothing but that kid is small and i can’t allow that . I’m thinking to contact it’s father and see what can be done . Or is there something else you would do differently to hit her feelings and make her feel pain?
We have each other completely blocked everywhere, no numbers nothing.

Its crazy when we're looking from afar to OTHER'S their situation how...fecked yo it really is.

I mean ,in this ppst there are at very least 5 major parts where the story should end, period. Yet ..the story continues.

What can I say? I know all about how hard it isto let go. It's due to other's their shytty and embarrassing situations we dee how idiotic we are when we VOLUNTARY keep these women in out environments...

 

[Bokanovsky]

Been quite a while since i last posted. A small update , been focused 100% on my business for the past few years and that caused me to slow down on the dating scene and chose to enter into a ltr for the time being with a single mother in her early 30s.

Sorry man, I stopped reading here. LTR with a single mom = you lost.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Not to sound pessimistic but that would eliminate 80% of hot women (8+s) the amount of hot chicks that smoke weed or do coke or have done it is crazy high, especially for women who partake in the nightlife scene

Try finding a fashion model who hasn't snorted Bolivian Marching Powder.

 

[soulforge]

I love single moms.

I can use them for sex only, without feeling bad about it.

 

[soulforge]

Try finding a fashion model who hasn't snorted Bolivian Marching Powder.

True, I dated a fashion/nude model, and yeh coke is just standard for these people.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

True, I dated a fashion/nude model, and yeh coke is just standard for these people.

Some of them 'chase the dragon' as well, because it keeps them thin.