The pick-up line: one of the greatest urban myths there is. Adolescent boys everywhere are on constant quests to find that one magic phrase that is going to get a girl to instantly find you sexy/intelligent/charismatic/etc.
The pick-up line is a myth. If you are using pick-up lines, if you are sharing pick-up lines with your friends, if you are wasting a nanosecond of your time trying to think up new pick-up lines, then you are doing yourself a great disservice.
Girls don't get much credit amongst us guys. For some reason we think that because they're so emotional they're also easily fooled by dramatics. Listen: any half-attractive girl out there is sick of fakeness. Fakeness is a disguise that unconfident men don when they try to feign confidence. Girls get approached by insecure, needy guys with god awful pickup lines and horrible pickup tactics all the time. It gets to the point where they won't a guy the benefit of the doubt when he approaches, where every new guy coming up to her is a loser until proven otherwise.
Listen: I live in the gay district of my city. I moved here by accident, not knowing exactly where my new apartment was until my first day, when I walked out my front door to get breakfast and got hit on my two men with bleach-blonde hair by the time I came back with my food. I'm 6'4'', slim, with a boyish face. In the gay world that makes me a HB. I get hit on almost every time I leave my house. This in many ways is a gift. Now I know what it's like to be a female HB, to be pursued instead of to pursue.
Having almost every man when you walk down the street drooling at you lustingly will put your guard up. Being aggressively pursued by obnoxious idiots will make you mad. Hearing awful pick-up lines from insecure men trying to come off as something they aren't will make you cry out for someone REAL.
Listen: my sister is a tall HB, and she gets pick-up lines all the time. Here's one she got when I was sitting next to her in a bar:
Nerd: "Hey, how much does a polar bear weigh?"
Sister: "I dunno."
Nerd: "Enough to break the ice. Hi, my name's Mark."
Mark did not sleep with my sister, Mark did not get a date with my sister, Mark did not get my sister's number, Mark didn't even get a 2-minute conversation with her. Mark showed her that he thought he needed a clever line to get a chance with her, Mark struck out.
Girls HATE this stuff. Girls cry out for someone who is confident, yes, but someone who is REAL too. An attractive man doesn't need a pick-up line. An attractive man doesn't need any tricks. An attractive man will say "hello" and go from there, secure that once the girl gets to know him she will automatically like him.
This is why I shudder when I see "Is this DJ? Is This AFC?" postings in the forums. Becoming a DJ is about SELF-DISCOVERY. It is about becoming the best version of yourself you can be. That is why Pook says work out at the gym, why others say dress sharp. Why other still say overcome your fear of rejection, and it will seem to girls like you never get rejected.
The girl I'm dating right now, another HB, told me the best pickup line of all a few nights ago:
"Hi, my name's ______".
DJ'ing, my friends, is about long-term tactics, not quick fixes. Long-term tactics means seducing a girl by talking to her for five minutes instead of trying to do the same with one phrase. Long-term tactics also means focusing on your passions, not girls, improving yourself mentally and physically at the gym, working to become the person you know you can be.
Thanks for reading.
The pick-up line is a myth. If you are using pick-up lines, if you are sharing pick-up lines with your friends, if you are wasting a nanosecond of your time trying to think up new pick-up lines, then you are doing yourself a great disservice.
Girls don't get much credit amongst us guys. For some reason we think that because they're so emotional they're also easily fooled by dramatics. Listen: any half-attractive girl out there is sick of fakeness. Fakeness is a disguise that unconfident men don when they try to feign confidence. Girls get approached by insecure, needy guys with god awful pickup lines and horrible pickup tactics all the time. It gets to the point where they won't a guy the benefit of the doubt when he approaches, where every new guy coming up to her is a loser until proven otherwise.
Listen: I live in the gay district of my city. I moved here by accident, not knowing exactly where my new apartment was until my first day, when I walked out my front door to get breakfast and got hit on my two men with bleach-blonde hair by the time I came back with my food. I'm 6'4'', slim, with a boyish face. In the gay world that makes me a HB. I get hit on almost every time I leave my house. This in many ways is a gift. Now I know what it's like to be a female HB, to be pursued instead of to pursue.
Having almost every man when you walk down the street drooling at you lustingly will put your guard up. Being aggressively pursued by obnoxious idiots will make you mad. Hearing awful pick-up lines from insecure men trying to come off as something they aren't will make you cry out for someone REAL.
Listen: my sister is a tall HB, and she gets pick-up lines all the time. Here's one she got when I was sitting next to her in a bar:
Nerd: "Hey, how much does a polar bear weigh?"
Sister: "I dunno."
Nerd: "Enough to break the ice. Hi, my name's Mark."
Mark did not sleep with my sister, Mark did not get a date with my sister, Mark did not get my sister's number, Mark didn't even get a 2-minute conversation with her. Mark showed her that he thought he needed a clever line to get a chance with her, Mark struck out.
Girls HATE this stuff. Girls cry out for someone who is confident, yes, but someone who is REAL too. An attractive man doesn't need a pick-up line. An attractive man doesn't need any tricks. An attractive man will say "hello" and go from there, secure that once the girl gets to know him she will automatically like him.
This is why I shudder when I see "Is this DJ? Is This AFC?" postings in the forums. Becoming a DJ is about SELF-DISCOVERY. It is about becoming the best version of yourself you can be. That is why Pook says work out at the gym, why others say dress sharp. Why other still say overcome your fear of rejection, and it will seem to girls like you never get rejected.
The girl I'm dating right now, another HB, told me the best pickup line of all a few nights ago:
"Hi, my name's ______".
DJ'ing, my friends, is about long-term tactics, not quick fixes. Long-term tactics means seducing a girl by talking to her for five minutes instead of trying to do the same with one phrase. Long-term tactics also means focusing on your passions, not girls, improving yourself mentally and physically at the gym, working to become the person you know you can be.
Thanks for reading.
