The Beginning of True Power and Awareness.

[A-Unit]

When the mind begins to Supercede and Transcend the circumstances around itself, when the man begins to look beyond WHAT is currently here and create the reality he knows exists within himself, he begins to know His Power.

Man is not the creature of circumstances, Circumstances are the creatures of men. ~ Benjamin Disraeli

The first is a statement by me, the second by Benjamin Disraeli. I am not putting myself on par with Benjamin Disraeli, but I am using the quote to emphasize, a concept, an idea, and perhaps a belief.

At the first the idea of RESPONSIBILITY does not stick. Most liken it to paying bills, getting a good job, succeeding, etc. However, THOSE are byproducts OF your power to create the circumstances you exist in as well as YOUR reaction to the circumstance before you.

Picture a salesman with piles of potential leads before him, yet he is not making the income he desires. Why? There's a thousand little things we could nitpick. He doesn't followup fast enough. His skills aren't refined enough to close. Perhaps he doesn't prospect for the right people. But these are ALL byproducts of one missing ingredient...

HIS WILL TO CREATE WHAT IS his HIGHEST VALUE and DESIRE in his reality.

Will is a VERY strong word. Have you ever used it in a sentence?

I WILL go. Some people insert "might, may, probably", etc, which gets them off the hook of responsibility. However, using WILL is committment. If you reneg on your own word of WILL, you WILL feel tremendously bad. Obviously circumstances DO come up, but depending on our level of dedication and determination, WE CAN still do what it is we set forth. An IRON, UNSHAKABLE will is also a mark of POWER. Aside from death, there's few things that can stop a person from doing what they WILL do. Invariably it is that we CHOOSE. When people say I want, but don't do it, they should really replace it with CHOOSE not to, because they are in fact choosing NOT to.

This might all sound like semantics, however, it's also the bridge where people live as victims or as heroes. You can't ALWAYS control what happens around you, but as was pointed out in a post by Desdinova (I believe), the 90/10 rule is infallible, and could be 100/0 IF we were robots. CHOOSING to do something is much more POWERFUL and ATTRACTIVE. Conscious CHOICE by a woman is a turn on, more so than a reactive choice, or someone who's completely asleep. And by reactice I mean A occurs, so therefore B must occur. OR by someone who is asleep, it is their embedded beliefs that control them, and not their own PRESENT day control of themselves. It's easy to spot, when you listen, and truly listen. I make attempts to VISUALIZE the words I hear, which forces me to focus on what people say to a greater degree. It isn't perfect, but it certainly helps with keeping my mind here, and not wasting away on some reactionary emotion or thought.

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If we MUDDLE in our present circumstances like pigs in mud without considering WHY we are here and IF we want this, we'll wake up some day, hopefully and say I DID NOT CHOOSE THIS, which is what many people are now painfully coming to realize.

I believe we were given one GREAT gift.

What is that gift?

LIFE. Each person is unique, so utterly perfectly different, it is a complete DISSERVICE and an outright LIE if we deny anything else. Creation HAILS from who we are as unique individuals. The mantra of NOT being yourself is false. Most guys aren't themselves ANYWAYS. What this site, and any site positing improvement with women SHOULD be about is MAKING you more like yourself. Being true TO YOU brings gifts upon yourself and the world that no one has ever imagined.

If ANYONE great had ever denied who they were, this world would not be what it is, good or bad. Again. If ANYONE great had ever denied who they were, this world not be what it is, good or bad. If you don't like it as it is, then exert YOUR creative energies. If you do, then still exert your creative energies. But choose!

You can't honestly believe the Gates, the Trumps, The Tiger Wood's, and all the people who've aspired to be great did ANYTHING but be more like themselves EACH and everyday. Can you? I mean, where would you get the SECRET PLAYBOOK on being Warren Buffett? Or Donald Trump? Or Tiger Woods? Or Tom Brady? You couldn't. Sure, they might assimilate information that UNLOCKS blocked thoughts in their mind, but to be as great as they are MEANS that they are entirely uniquely themselves. If not, we'd just clone greatness, and nobody would be great, or happy, or successful, or wealthy. We'd have a society of possible perfect people, yet everyone would be alike so you wouldn't be able to tell or to appreciate it.

Trying to DO any job, ANY hobby, any career, read any book, for any other reason than YOU WANTING to do it is a complete denial of you. Now if your mantra is giving, and you choose to give by reading a book to a little boy, WONDERFUL! But doing it because you perceive you SHOULD be this person to get this or that is false. If your belief is to take a risky job in King Crab Fishing, and you choose to be an actuary with a good paycheck and a solid family life, will you be happy? No. Never. Your inner energy will rear its head in the form of negativity and restlessness. You might hold it in for awhile, but it WILL get out.

ALOT of people are afraid to BE or DO or SAY something because they're expected to BE something. Many people want to BE a friend, but won't say the truth, or deny plans, even if they don't like the plans, or the friend. Sacrificing your inner power to someone else's is negation of your own power and life.

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The guys merely weak with women are WEAK with themselves. They're like casper the ghost; they're faded men, because their consciousness is just BARELY there. It fades in and out BASED on how cognizant they are to NOW and if they are making DECISIONS or just going on for the ride. And it's ok to be IN THE FLOW, so long as you choose the FLOW. However, to be along with the flow JUST to have people is foolish. Or to have things is even dumber. Those "nice guys" even unsuccessful ones just need to WAKE up. Sure, a ripped might might attract fish, but it's how you skin and prepare them that matters, not that you caught them. Heck, I can't fish, so even if I bought the BEST equipment, found the best location, and had the best boat and the best weather, I STILL probably wouldn't catch a damn fish. And even if I got the fish, I'd probably get a guppy, and wouldn't now how to prepare or eat it. I'd probably eat bones. Alot of guys do that in dating, and in life. They try to accumulate EXTERNAL trappings of importance, and figure it will bring the PERFECT inner peace they seek.

Maybe if they had the perfect job, they'd feel more worthy, or earn more peer or familial respect. Or perhaps if they had more money, they'd invest more cash, and become a wise investor. Or if they had more time and money, they'd read more books. But it's all BS, but those people are ASLEEP anyways. They're deluding themselves. It men do that alot. We have a sense that PERFECTION will come someday, yet men ARE the perfection in a chaotic world. We provide BALANCE and CONTROL mechanisms to the women in our lives. Who do they run to first and foremost when work, family or friends blow up on them??

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I've run around in circles here, so I will restate my opening statement:

When the mind begins to Supercede and Transcend the circumstances around itself, when the man begins to look beyond WHAT is currently here and create the reality he knows exists within himself, he begins to know His Power.


A-Unit

 

[squirrels]

There's a LOT to this. A lot more than most of us believe because a lot of us make the mistake of thinking our consciousness out of existence.

Many of you noticed having success when you first came on to this site and started to adopt the techniques and ideas here. But it wasn't those techniques and ideas that gave you success.

Rather, what happened was you started to try to accept a system of thought completely different from your own.

During that time, and this is key, there is a period where your existing standard social thought system begins to break down, but the new, "Don Juan" system is not fully installed. During this time, you experience brief moments of TOTAL FREEDOM from ANY system.

When you are free from any system of thought, your mind is unbounded and starts believing it can do ANYTHING...things that the old system told you you can't do. As a result, you start to deliberately CREATE your reality, believing or thinking things you couldn't before.

The reason it doesn't last is because inevitably, you run up against resistance trying to do certain things and you assume that there's a problem, so you turn back to the system for "corrections" instead of making them yourself. The new system manifests itself and you again become bounded until something else shakes your cage again and reminds you that there's a world outside of it.

Oh, you're still creating your reality, but now that the new system has taken root, you have created boundaries for yourself...those boundaries are now telling you again what WILL and WON'T work.

What A-Unit has posted here isn't some magic voodoo principle that will suddenly hypontize women and bring them crawling to you. It is, however, THE sole source of power and creative energy in the human existence.

It's very hard to write a long-winded post about, because honestly, it's so simple that the complicated way we're taught to think has us all convinced that it CAN'T be the case, that there has to be more to it and that our lives are ultimately out of our control.

 

[Donsing]

Hi A-unit, I'm sorry but I did not read your post because I knew the massage overall and I got to do otherthings. But before I leave, I would like all of you to look at this. I hope you would understand it's merit like I have. Read one paragraphy per day because it takes time to sink this feeling of inspiration.
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all timed and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticise others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear; and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but in great deeds. To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

Man is ever in search of strength. It is the strong man that wins. It is the man with power that scales the heights. To be strong is to be great; and it is the privilege of greatness to satisfy every desire, every aspiration, every need. But strength is not for the few alone; it is for all, and the way to strength is simple. Proceed this very moment to the mountain tops of the strength you now possess, and whatever may happen do not come down. Do not weaken under adversity. Resolve to remain as strong, as determined and as highly enthused during the darkest night of adversity as you are during the sunniest day of prosperity. Do not feel disappointed when things seem disappointing. Keep the eye single upon the same brilliant future regardless of circumstances, conditions or events. Do not lose heart when things go wrong. Continue undisturbed in your original resolve to make all things go right. To be overcome by adversity and threatening failure is to lose strength; to always remain in the same lofty, determined mood is to constantly grow in strength. The man who never weakens when things are against him will grow stronger and stronger until all things will delight to be for him. He will finally have all the strength he may desire or need. Be always strong and you will always be stronger.

Man lives to move forward, To move forward is to live more. To live more is to be more and do more; and it is being and doing that constitutes the path to happiness. The more you are the more you do, the richer your life, the greater your joy. But being and doing must always live together as one. To try to be much and not try to do much is to find life a barren waste. To try to do much and not try to be much is to find life a burden too heavy and wearisome to bear. The being of much gives the necessary inspiration and the necessary power to the doing of much. The doing of much gives the necessary expression to the being of much. And it is the bringing forth of being through the act of doing that produces happiness that is happiness. Being much gives capacity for doing much. Doing much gives expression to the richest and the best that is within us. And the more we increase the richness of that which is within us, the more we increase our happiness, provided we increase, in the same proportion, the expression of that greater richness. The first essential is provided for by the being of much; the second, by the doing of much; and the secret of both may be found by him who lives to move forward.

When you think of yourself do not think of that part of yourself that appears on the surface. That part is the smaller part and the lesser should not be pictured in mind. Think of your larger self, the immense subconscious self that is limitless both in power and in possibility. Believe in yourself but not simply in a part of yourself. Give constant recognition to all that is in you, and, in that all have full faith and confidence. Give the bigger being on the inside full right of way. Believe thoroughly in your greater interior self. Know that you have something within you that is greater than any obstacle, circumstance or difficulty that you can possibly meet. Then in the full faith in this greater something, proceed with your work.

When you have made up your mind what you want to do, say to yourself a thousand times a day that you will do it. The best way will soon open. You will have the opportunity you desire. If you would be greater in the future than you are now, be all that you can be now. He who is his best develops the power to be better. He who lives his ideals is creating a life that actually is ideal. There is nothing in your life that you cannot modify, change or improve when you learn to regulate your thought. Our destiny is not mapped out for us by some exterior power; we map it out for ourselves. What we think and do in the present determines what shall happen to us in the future.

Dream constantly of the ideal; work ceaselessly to perfect the real. Believe in yourself; believe in everybody; believe in all that has existence. Give the body added strength; give the mind added brilliancy; give the soul added inspiration. Do your best under every circumstance, and believe that every circumstance will give its best to you. Live for the realization of more life and for the more efficient use of everything that proceeds from life. Desire eternally what you want; and act always as if every expectation were coming true.

Life is growth and the object of right thinking is to promote that growth. Give less time trying to change the opinions of others, and more time trying to improve your own life. Life becomes the way it is lived; and man may live the way he wants to live when he learns to think what he wants to think. Create your own thought and you become what you want to become because your thought creates you. We all know that man is as he thinks. Then we must think only such thoughts as tend to make us what we wish to be. The secret of right thinking is found in always keeping the mind's eye stayed upon the greater and the better in all things. All of this by: Christian D. Larson

 

[Donsing]

The greatest remedy in the world is change; and change implies the passing from the old to the new. It is also the only path that leads from the lesser to the greater, from the dream to the reality, from the wish to the heart's desire fulfilled. It is change that brings us everything we want. It is the opposite of change that holds us back from that which we want. But change is not always external. Real change, or rather the cause of all change, is always internal. It is the change in the within that first produces the change in the without. To go from place to place is not a change unless it produces a change of mind a renewal of mind. It is the change of mind that is the change desired. It is the renewal of mind that produces better health, more happiness, greater power, the increase of life, and the consequent increase of all that is good in life. And the constant renewal of mind -- the daily change of mind -- is possible regardless of times, circumstances or places. He who can change his mind every day and think the new about everything every day, will always be well; he will always have happiness; he will always be free; his life will always be interesting; he will constantly move forward into the larger, the richer and the better; and whatever is needed for his welfare today, of that he shall surely have abundance.

When failure comes be more determined than ever to succeed. The more feeling there is in your thought the greater its power. You steadily and surely become in the real what you constantly and clearly think that you are in the ideal. The more you believe in yourself the more of your latent powers and possibilities you place in action. And the more you believe in your purpose the more of your power you apply in promoting that purpose. To him who thinks he can, everything is an opportunity. Depend only upon yourself but work in harmony with all things. Thus you call forth the best that is in yourself and secure the best that external sources have to give.

The fact that you have failed to get the lesser proves conclusively that you deserve the greater. So therefore, dry those tears and go in search of the worthier prize. Count nothing lost; even the day that sees “no worthy action done” may be a day of preparation and accumulation that will add greatly to the achievements of tomorrow. Many a day was made famous because nothing was done the day before. Know what you want and continue to want it. You will get it if you combine desire with faith. The power of desire when combined with faith becomes invincible. Some of the principal reasons why so many fail to get what they want is because they do not definifely know what they want or because they change their wants almost every day.

The optimist lives under a clear sky; the pessimist lives in a fog. The pessimist hesitates, and loses both time and opportunity; the optimist makes the best use of everything now, and builds themselves up, steadily and surely, until all adversity is overcome and the object in view realized. The pessimist curbs their energies and concentrates their whole attention upon failure; the optimist gives all their thought and power to the attainment of success, and arouses their faculties and forces to the highest point of efficiency. The pessimist waits for better times, and expects to keep on waiting; the optimist goes to work with the best that is at hand now, and proceeds to create better times. The pessimist pours cold water on the fires of their own ability; the optimist adds fuel to those fires. The pessimist links their mind to everything that is losing ground; the optimist lives, thinks and works with everything that is determined to press on. The pessimist places a damper on everything; the optimist gives life, fire and go to everything. The optimist is a building force; the pessimist is always an obstacle in the way of progress. The pessimist lives in a dark, soggy unproductive world, the optimist lives in that mental sunshine that makes all things grow.

Say to yourself a hundred times every day, and mean it with all your heart: I will become more than I am. I will achieve more and more every day because I know that I can. I will recognize only that which is good in myself, only that which is good in others; only that in all things and places that I know should live and grow. When adversity threatens I will be more determined than ever in my life to prove that I can turn all things to good account. And when those whom I have trusted seem to fail me, I will have a thousand times more faith in the honour and nobleness of man. I will think only of that which has virtue and worth. I will wish only for that which can give freedom and truth. 1 will expect only that which can add to the welfare of the race. I will live to live more. I will speak to give encouragement, inspiration and joy. I will work to be of service to an ever-increasing number. And in every thought, word and action my ruling desire shall be, to enrich, ennoble and beautify existence for all who come my way

He who would become great must live a great life. Happiness adds life, power, and worth to all your talents and powers. It is most important, therefore, that every moment should be full of joy. However much you may do, always remember you have the abilily to do more. No one has as yet applied all the ability in their possession. But all of us should learn to apply a greater measure every year. While you are waiting for an opportunity to improve your time, improve yourself. The man or woman who never weakens when things are against them, will grow stronger and stronger until they will have the power to cause all things to be for them. Christian D. Larson

 

[Donsing]

Remove the sting; remove the whine; remove the sigh. They are your enemies. They are never conducive to happiness; and we all live to gain happiness, to give happiness. From every word remove the sting. Speak kindly. To speak kindly and gently to everybody is the mark of a great soul. And it is your privilege to be a great soul. From the tone of your voice remove the whine. Speak with joy. Never complain. The more you complain, the smaller you become, and the fewer will be your friends and opportunities. Speak tenderly, speak sweetly, speak with love. From all the outpourings of your heart, remove the sigh. Be happy and contented always. Let your spirit sing, let your heart dance, let your soul declare the glory of existence, for truly life is beautiful. Every sigh is a burden, a self-inflicted burden. Every whine is a maker of trouble, a forerunner of failure. Every sting is a destroyer of happiness, a dispenser of bitterness. To live in the world of sighs is to be blind to everything that is rich and beautiful. The more we sigh, the less we live, for every sigh leads to weakness, defeat, and death. Remove the sting, remove the whine, remove the sigh. They are not your friends. There is better company waiting for you.

Be good and kind to everybody and the world will be kind to you. There may be occasional exceptions to this rule, but when they come pass them by and they will not come again. Ideals need the best of care. Weeds can grow without attention, but not so with the roses. Not all minds are pure that think they are. Many of them are simply dwarfed. It does not pay to lose faith in anybody. It is better to have faith in everybody and be deceived occasionally than to mistrust everybody and be deceived almost constantly. When you meet a person who does not look well, call their attention to the sunny side of things, and aim to say something that will give them new interest and new life. You will thereby nip in the bud many a threatening evil, and carry healing with you wherever you go.

When the creative energies are daily transmuted, and turned into muscle, brain and mind, a virtuous life can be lived without inconvenience. Besides, the body will be healthier, the personality stronger and the mind more brilliant. Hold yourself constantly in a positive, masterful attitude, and fill that attitude with kindness. The result will be that remarkable something that people call personal magnetism. Creative energy when retained in the system will give vigour to the body, sparkle to the eye, and genius to the brain. There is enough power in any man to enable him to realize all his desires and reach the highest good he has in view. It is only necessary that all of this power be constructively applied.

Never think or speak of that which you do not wish to happen.
The whine, the sting, and the sigh -- these three must never appear in a single thought or a single word.
You can win ten times as many friends by talking happiness as you can by talking trouble. And the more real friends you have the less trouble you will have.
Speak well of everything good you find and mean it. When you find what you do not like keep quiet. The less you think or speak of what you do not like the more you have of what you do like.
Magnify the good; emphasize that which has worth; and talk only of those things that should live and grow.
When you have something good to say, say it. When you have something ill to say, say something else.

The first mark of a master mind is that he is able to promote his own perpetual improvement. The second is that he is able to be strong, joyous and serene under every circumstance.
The imagining faculty is the creative faculty of the mind, the faculty that creates plans, methods and ideas. Our imagination therefore must always be clear, lofty, wholesome, and constructive if we would create superior ideas and build for greater things.
Before you can have greater success you must become a greater man. Before you can become a greater man you must reach out toward the new and the greater along all lines; and this is possible only through the constructive use of imagination.
You get your best ideas when your mind acts in the upper story. And in all fields of action it is the best ideas that win.

Follow the vision of the soul. Be true to your ideals no matter what may happen now. Then things will take a turn and the very things you wanted to happen will happen.
The ideal has a positive drawing power towards the higher, the greater, and the superior. Whoever gives his attention constantly to the ideal, therefore, will steadily rise in the scale.
Take things as they are today and proceed at once to make them better.
Expect every change to lead you to something better and it will. As your faith is so shall it be.
To be human as not to be weak. To be human is to be all that there is in man, and the greatness that as contained in the whole of man is marvellous indeed.

Thus sings the poet, and we call him sentimental; that is, at first thought we do. But upon second thought we change our minds. We then find that faults and defects are always in the minority, and that the larger part of human nature is so wonderful and so beautiful that it needs must inspire admiration and love in everybody. With all their defects there is nothing more interesting than human beings; and the reason is that for every shortcoming in man there are a thousand admirable qualities. The poet, being inspired by the sublime vision of truth, can see this; therefore, what can he do but love? Whenever his eyes are lifted and whenever his thoughts take wings, his soul declares with greater eloguence than ever before, " What a piece of work is man!" Thus every moment renews his admiration, and every thought rekindles the fire of his love. By Chrisitan D. Larson

 

[A-Unit]

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Excellent input and addition, squirrels.

Most people that come here, or to any self-improvement site, book, program, or guru are just fed up. They've realized the beliefs and actions they've long held onto aren't yielding what they want. Big problem is, they don't know what THEY want. They know what they are told to want, but they don't know how to be true to THEM. To what's inside themselves. They're told to give that power away, to guru's, to sites, to women, to ideas, groups, parties, and so on. Inside of prizing the individual, society prizes easily understood and measurable groups. This works to the benefit of a productive nation, however, it leads to a mass of people, especially men, who are aimless, unsettled wanderers.

ANY system can trap a man if he doesn't honestly CHOOSE it for himself. We jump looking for the latest and greatest workout program and lifting instructor, or sex guru, or PUA, or woman, or job, thinking that "this is it, I'm complete, I've found Nirvana." However, all those things are steps in your control of the circumstances around you.

If you truly want what you want, you have to live next to the values and ideals held inside your mind and heart. One particular way to decipher this is to write down on paper ALL the people and characters you admire, fiction or not, and then pick a one word adjective to describe what it is you admire about them. In a way, this reveals what you respect and value. It certainly isn't something that happens immediately, since people are so long conditioned to only think of others to the detriment of themselves, they don't even know who they are or what they want.

Let's say as a hypothetical example...

You've long been trying to meet some classy ladies and also stop drinking so much because it's packing on weight and fvcking up your game while you're intoxicated. Yet, the friends you socialize with regularly hit up the local saloon, pound down a 30, and then go home, or get into brawls. In the past, when you didn't want to go out, your friends probably had every objection in the world to get you out, and they knew the "hot" buttons. You figured they're your friends and they're not easy to replace, so what's the harm. BUT, what's to say you're not meant for a different group of friends? If your current friends don't respect you, don't like what you like, and don't want to do what you do, why would you be friends with them?

I had many experiences like the aforementioned experience, and out of some weird duty or obligation, I went along with friends who ONLY went drinking on the weekends. Hey, shyt, I love it, too. But as we all know, pounding down booze Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, pretty much erases not only bank accounts, but all work put in at the gym, and possibly most chances with women given our own stupidity under the influence. I'm no longer friends who 'those' guys, and while they're fun guys, making THOSE choices did hold me back from the things I really wanted to do.

In a grander scale, such things apply to all facets of life. Work. Women. Where you live. Whether you go to school or not. What you study. And so on. It's truly YOUR LIFE. Certainly the people around you "think" they know, so they react to you and RECREATE reality AROUND you. And when you try to buck away from who they perceive you to be, they try to force you back, unknowingly. They might say things like "you're changing," or they can't understand certain actions. That's because the IMAGE and IDEA of who they think you are is now changing and they're not grasping this. The mind wants to place a fixed label around ever-changing beings, and it wrestles with this confusion.

I posted the FIRST quote because your CURRENT reality will try to suck you back in while you're aiming to create the one your mind sees and feels. And why shouldn't you? Most people, as kids, didn't create what they wanted. Their parents did it for them, good or bad. They fed them a bunch of beliefs about the world, perceptions, like attaching lenses or goggles, and the kids NEVER question them. Maybe not ever. Not until someone figures out how to dissolve one of their beliefs. If they can do that, the parent might have a chance. If not, then they will be only a small fraction of an independent self, and more completely the offspring of their parents.

"The World is Whatever we Think It is. We can find anything we WANT in the world to confirm OUR beliefs, that's why it's so important to question what believe and if it's OUR belief or someone else's."

If you choose to believe racism exists, you'll find it. I'm not a racist; I love all equally, but you will find bigots and racists.

If you choose to believe women are evil, you'll find it. There are plenty of messed up women. However, all the women in my family are wonderful, and so is my gf. I've known many great women.

If you choose to believe riches are abundant, you'll find it. Plenty of people start businesses and faily, but that's because 9/10 do. Try 10 times and hopefully you succeed. Many people make money in the market; those that don't are afraid of immersing themselves in understanding it.

If you choose to believe you can be successful with women, you'll persist at meeting women until you meet women who confirm this reality.

Do you see why beliefs are so important? They're like the program which directs the computer. And you know this. But you are more than your beliefs.

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This is why I say the reason guys comes here is for more than just women. It's a great community to chat about women, about guy stuff, observations, and perhaps new ideas. I never get why someone leaves. If you leave, fine. But it seems more to me that someone CAME because they wanted to be more complete and now feel that they are. But that isn't entirely true. The person only installed DIFFERENT beliefs to replace the old ones. Do you recall how Rollo talks about married, grown up, AFC's? Well, that's where the beginning of the path starts.

The world you see before you is the result of PAST choices YOUR past, unawakened self made. Made they were good or bad financial choices, or good or bad women choices, or good or bad friend choices. Regardless, if you continue to affirm that THIS reality is who you are and what you want, YOU'll KEEP getting it. Moreover, if you DENY what's inside you, believing this reality is who you are, you'll never awaken the inner power lying dormant inside. The WILL energy of who you TRULY are. Just because aren't doing something or having something you desire now DOES NOT mean you can't have it. You have only TO WANT AND WILL it and DO it from that place of you, and you WILL have it.



A-Unit


Kudos to squirrels on getting my oft convoluted writing so easily.

 

[squirrels]

Kudos to squirrels on getting my oft convoluted writing so easily.

It's only because I'm following the "WSA reading list" too. Though I think I understand it, keeping it internalized, keeping the faith that drives it, has been a huge challenge for me.

Growing up and being taught to think analytically, I've always proceeded from the assumption that the thoughts and feelings in my head were the EFFECT of circumstances in my life, not the CAUSE of them. It's a complete reversal of the way one thinks about the universe and the flow of personal energy.

When we're kids, we're taught to imagine, to play, to enjoy ourselves and follow our dreams. Then at some point the whole process gets reversed. We get out there in the "real world" and people start telling us to "get real", be serious, follow the rules, don't imagine, just play along, do this, do that, buy this, have sex with that, and you'll be happy. We learn to make the outside world, what we see with our senses, stronger than our inner frame of mind, and suddenly we're being driven by the world, instead of driving it. We become characters in someone else's story, rather than making THEM characters in our OWN.

Men were men once...they sought adventure, followed their hearts, and took risks.

I think every single person on this forum should ask himself, "why do I seek to be with women?"

And answer honestly...are you being driven to be with women because:

1) You've got your education, job, and house, and a woman is the next logical thing to "acquire".
2) Being able to lay women increases your sense of self-worth.
3) Being able to lay women makes you seem more socially capable or worthwhile in the eyes of your friends or family.
4) You have nothing better to pursue.
5) You enjoy experiencing the company and intimacy of a beautiful woman.

#5 is the only real reason to be here. If you answered any of the others (and be honest with yourself...we don't CARE, and lying to yourself doesn't help anything), then you're not ready for a woman...you have other lessons to learn.

This is your story and you're holding the pen. Stop scribbling aimlessly and start choosing your next adventure.

 

[Yankee.Hotel.Foxtrot]

Great post A-Unit. Also a great follow up squirrels.

During that time, and this is key, there is a period where your existing standard social thought system begins to break down, but the new, "Don Juan" system is not fully installed. During this time, you experience brief moments of TOTAL FREEDOM from ANY system.

I understand what you're saying all to well. I can recall those periods of time when I've been inbetween systems so vividly because quite frankly there hasn't been much like it. It's like day and night. The power you feel is immense, you mind knows no limitations, obstacles maybe, but limitations aren't even given any thought. You feel so in control of yourself and your life, as you should. Something else that really stuck with me was the awareness, the sense of being completley present where you were, without the worry or the doubts because you knew that you were more powerful than the circumstance you percieved.

The problem that occurs, as you mentioned, is that the integration of a new system brings limitations, limitations that just reinforce that lack of control that one feels. And once again doubts return and spread from one thought to the other. However once you've realized that you are indeed more than your old belief system or the new limitations you find, it is entirely your choice to take back your power.

To quote a man I respect due in part to his incredible will power and wisdom

Knowledge in martial arts actually means self-knowledge. A martial artist has to take responsibility for himself and accept the consequences of his own doing. The understanding of JKD is through personal feeling from movement to movement in the mirror of the relationship and not through a process of isolation. To be is to be related. To isolate is death. To me, ultimately, martial arts means honestly expressing yourself. Now, it is very difficult to do. It has always been very easy for me to put on a show and be ****y, and be flooded with a ****y feeling and feel pretty cool and all that. I can make all kinds of phoney things. Blinded by it. Or I can show some really fancy movement. But to experience oneself honestly, not lying to oneself, and to express myself honestly, now that is very hard to do. - Bruce Lee

Though centered on martial arts the lesson is clear. Honest Expression of oneself.

 

[brewbaron]

A-Unit. another great post. I don't post much here but your post touches on a deeper truth. essentially you are speaking of enlightenment, when one ceases to live in the past/future (mind) and begins to live in the present (self). like you say, only when one transcends his circumstances, or rather what he believes are the circumstances based on his mind, can he truly deal with what is happening. this, as you speak of it, is the ultimate truth. when one can master the state of no mind, or "mind like water" as bruce lee called it, you come into alignment with your true self.

This is one of those red pill, blue pill moments. Here is the red one:
http://www.ecomall.com/greenshopping/powerofnow.htm

 

[Faca]

Great post, both of you!

I'll read it later at another time, cause it's too much to gasp in one time. When i came to this site, i was searching how to get better with woman.. in order that my friends or other people would be proud of me. I later found on my own out how bad it was ofcourse, and i asked myself exactly the same question, Why do i want a woman in my life?.. and the "#5. You enjoy experiencing the company and intimacy of a beautiful woman" came out!

This is something what has been lately on my mind, so maybe one of you can give me and answer. I have times, with a great mindset.. and where i have great awareness about my situations and the things around me. My mind is clear, and bright.. and very positive. But this changes sometimes, some kind of cycles. The good then the bad etc. So is how can i improve this, and be more with the positive attitude, and awareness.

For example, a general one! A guy sees the world around him clear, and he sees the woman how they actually are. Just creatures, nothing better than him, nothing less. He know all the bad things and the good things, and he chooses to let her enter his reality. But then he sees that his reality begins to change, and that somewhat she is shaping his reality. That he becomes the AFC and starts to give up on things, on his own believes. How could this guy, have had this awareness to not let this happen.. and to have the willpower.

How can i read more about this stuff?.. anything that is a must read..

- Faca

 

[squirrels]

The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.

I think you may have answered your own question, there.

I'm starting to think the reason that I and other people just haven't been able to get our heads around these concepts is because they just can't be grasped by logical thought. They just can't be put into words...in fact, the thinking mind can't even GRASP what's going on with the "higher self"...it lacks the language.

You remember in Contact where Jodie Foster goes through the wormhole and says, "They should've sent a poet!"? It's because she as a scientist lacks the language to describe the awesomeness of what she's seeing. That's how it feels when I read these kinds of things...my conscious mind immediately wants to grasp the concept and build a new system of thinking around it, but in doing so, critical pieces of the idea are left out. Our language is one of static-ness, so trying to describe something like consciousness, which is different "now" than it is "now" (changes every second) is almost impossible.

In fact...if you think about it enough, things like time lose meaning. Hell...things like "you" start to lose meaning. And I guess that's what makes it scary...what makes it so hard to grasp. It's essentially eating a psychological bullet...it means the death of the ego. The lack of distinct existence, the very idea on which our mental so-called "reality" is based.

The ability to understand this power...is beyond the rational mind. In fact, as soon as consciousness starts to awaken, as soon as "no-mind" reveals itself, the conscious mind is enthralled with this power and wants to claim it as its own. But when it tries, it actually works AGAINST the awakening and the new-found consciousness scatters. Like a magic-eye picture, as soon as your mind tries to snap your eyes onto the image to capture it, it vanishes. Only by completely relaxing and looking THROUGH the image is the meaning able to be seen.

We keep dancing around it as a result. We never quite grasp it...it's like trying to grab your right wrist with your right hand.

The ego, whose primary function is self-preservation, is seeking a way to destroy itself. Even if it found it, is it likely to exercise it?

These problems can't be solved through thought, because conscious thought is integral to the problem.

You have to imagine your way out. You honestly have to believe that you are not YOU, the consequence of your past life, but you are whoever you imagine yourself to be in the present moment.

LOL sometimes when I think about these things, I have trouble sleeping, and get that feeling like I just wanna puke.

To this day, a lot of people don't understand what the end of Fight Club is all about...a lot of people think it's just anti-establishment-ism. But there's a powerful message about duality that most people dismiss as theatrics.

 

[Faca]

You have to imagine your way out. You honestly have to believe that you are not YOU, the consequence of your past life, but you are whoever you imagine yourself to be in the present moment.

But aren't you then dishonest with yourself? You can imagine to be somebody else, but in this reality you are not. And then we come to the realization that reality is that what you make of it. My brain would say, that reality is that which i percieve to be true and aware at the time. And then again there are things that cannot be seen with the eyes.

One thing i don't understand but read a lot about is this:that the circumstances are created by man. How can a man create a circumstance? Just positive thinking, and thinking a lot about something will not create a circumstance.

To this day, a lot of people don't understand what the end of Fight Club is all about...a lot of people think it's just anti-establishment-ism. But there's a powerful message about duality that most people dismiss as theatrics

Which message about duality did you get out of it?

But as already said, with rational thinking you cannot understand this completely. Maybe philosophy is just mental masturbation and has no further goal or function.

- Faca

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

How men create circumstances.

If I could draw on the boards, I would. However, for lack of such materials, I will post it as visually as I can...

Circumstances, meaning the situations and events of your life, are the product of YOU. And as a product of YOU, they're a product of your mental state. If you believe that the circumstances before you, such as improving with women, in life, in a job or career, are haphazard, your actions will be to REACT and AWAIT a change in circumstances WHICH WILL happen. In a career, perhaps your job is downsized, or by default you receive a promotion because someone leaves or a new position opens. With women, you may just FALL into some average woman, or meet some zany beautiful woman with a history of cutting and illegitimate children. REACTIONARY circumstances are rarely good and rarely what we want, because people just wait around LETTING things happen to them, rather than increase their odds of a positive result by TAKING action.

By ACTING and thereby controlling the circumstances before you, you EMBODY what it is you seek to create before you. The world right now might not reflect the PRESENT situation you desire, but it will. The process isn't QUICK, because if it was, this world would be cluttered with MANY things people don't want. You see, we all have TONS of wants, and they change constantly. If these wants just fell from the sky, it'd be cluttered, and we also wouldn't appreciate what it is we receive either. Reading "The Game," a fantastic quote was uttered by one of the characters about committment...

Without Committment, you Cannot have Depth in Anything.

Without time, and committment to THIS want, one cannot say if it's a WANT, or some FLEETING desire of the mind. Because if you use this FRAME around the world, you'll see, few, if anything people HAVE what they want. They don't committ to anything they want for very long. Exercise programs are discarded in weeks, and we expect supra physical changes in 12 weeks or less! Marriages are dumped, in years, maybe months, when you knew upon entering such a vow, it's for life; why didn't you check under the hood and anticipate every conceivable problem?! Careers are kept for decades, just because people BUY things, things they only temporarily WANT because they don't actually have what it is they TRULY want. They can't fathom committing themselves for years to see and endeavor develop. They have to be a pimp, a DJ, a PUA in weeks, or by some holiday date. Not because they WANT to, but because some artificial date has arisen, like the Prom is upon a senior HS student and he wants to be all daper @ the prom. Rather than seeing this ahead of time, he waits until it's "oh shyt time." Why?

Because we don't know what we want, and what we THINK we want, we don't. It's normally hiding deeper below that level.

Your circumstances today, if they aren't what you want, are the result of other people, and your own sonambulistic state of ignorance. Now you know. You've taken the pill to realize, YOU are awake, and that's frightening to people because some have gone decades or near centuries ASLEEP, and now have to develop new powers and habits. I could sit here today, typing, and desire to live overseas and wealthy. The path MIGHT not be perfect and ideal, but if I work at it, it will inevitably happen, regardless.

I remember years ago "wanting" a flag football team. From that date, it took 3years. I long desired just to compete AT SOMETHING again, and in a way, attracted it or planned for it. My buddy initially offered me a spot on a team he was on. I played their ok for 2 seasons. I've since split, created my own team, with my own friends, and we're embarking on our 1st season together. Were the details perfect? No. Not at all. But because I LAID out the circumstances of it, and made the rules so-to-speak, what came into my life flowed with that. Now we have snazy jerseys, playbooks, and committed players who want to win AND have fun. It might not have manifested THEN, but am I pissed? Heck no. It came when *I* was ready for it.

A-Unit

 

[Faca]

Would be kinda cool to have a writing board here

I believe that this is just a part of the main question: Do we really choose our destiny?

Is there free will, or does the universe fools us in thinking so...

Because we don't know what we want, and what we THINK we want, we don't. It's normally hiding deeper below that level.

If that what we think we want is actually which we don't, why do we put so much effort to achieve something we really don't want.
Is being desire-less the answer to this?

They have to be a pimp, a DJ, a PUA in weeks, or by some holiday date. Not because they WANT to, but because some artificial date has arisen, like the Prom is upon a senior HS student and he wants to be all daper @ the prom. Rather than seeing this ahead of time, he waits until it's "oh shyt time." Why?

Isn't this which has led us to improve most area's of our life? Something arises, and we are aware that we aren't good enough..
So we do everything to improve that in our life. Later finding out that this is a cycle which nevers stop, and we keep improving all our lives.

You could say, i don't want to improve now with something in my life cause i won't have to deal with it right now. But is this really effective..

Your circumstances today, if they aren't what you want, are the result of other people, and your own sonambulistic state of ignorance. Now you know. You've taken the pill to realize, YOU are awake, and that's frightening to people because some have gone decades or near centuries ASLEEP, and now have to develop new powers and habits.

The longer you are ASLEEP, the more difficult it is to AWAKEN.. You commit to your sleep and ignorance in your reality, and will do almost everything not to lose this.

Just like in the Matrix, when Morpheus tells Neo that the people who are in the Matrix aren't ready to be awaken.. and most of them will do everything to defend their reality.
Even if it's not the truth, for them it is.. Awakening only happens, when you're ready to leave everything behind which was close to you.
It's only after you have lost everything, that you free to do anything.. -fight club




Destiny
I think that when we form our belief about 'if we really choose our destiny', that the question about do we really influence our circumstances
is only an reaction to this. My belief of destiny is this: We can influence the simple things in our lives, can improve ourselves..
but when it's our time to die.. we cannot cheat death.

I can see it as some kind of "sub-destiny's", ex. how you handle you're life, dating, financial, health etc. On this you have influence.. but
how your life ends.. you have no influence.

In 'The Secret', the author says that there is no blackboard where stands.. who you are, and what you're supposed to do..
But i just can't believe that all the achievements of great people of our history where just coincidences.. The effect of chance!

The Matrix triology, made me also thinking about; do we really have a choice. And more the question,
If we know now what we will know in about 20 / 30 years, how much will that influence that our lives. You could say that i'm afraid of making
the wrong choice.

Succes
The universe will test you, to see if you're ready to get what you want. This can be a bad situation,
fall back to your old situation or anything else that will influence you.

I always liked the idea about realizing your goals, that it is the universe that will test you.. if you're
really ready to accept that which you want.

Creating circumstances, situations in your life.. is actually about setting it up so that your chances of succes are
improved. The same goes for DJ-ing, working on your physical apperance.. your social conversation etc.. you only improve
you chance of being succesful. You can NEVER be 100% sure that you will achieve that which you want, and this is what
drives us.

To quote Martin Luther King:
"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."

 

[kickureface]

bump!

this sounds a lot like "as you think you shall become!"
just lots more detailed for us to understand
great thread!