People are always saying "be indifferent, be a challenge, make the girl chase you" etc. So how do you go about being a challenge and the prize while showing that you're interested. I can't find the right balance to use. Making eye contact, smiling and showing a lot of interest doesn't work out well and neither does making eye contact but acting like the girl doesn't phase you or get your attention. I guess what I'm saying is when is the best time to use indifference? when you first see the girl and gradually show a little interest or do you show interest and then start being more of a challenge? please explain
IMO
You can not be indifferent from the beginning as your indifference can be mistaken for simple disinterest or even egoism or arrogance if you are physically attractive and if you are not physically attractive you are simply unnoticed and/or ignored...
The key when I was in the field was to approach and establish attraction first and once she's displaying positive signs, touching, asking questions, laughing, stabalize with rapport/trust and then withdraw your attention to a normal level as if she was just an average girl you are not physically attracted to...
First time you see her, approach get BT very high and just amp attraction as high as you can get it, maybe rinse and repeat for the next few times you see her and then stabalize this attraction with general rapport by learning something about her no one else knows or sharing something with her to make her seem special to you... once she's attracted and trusts you, just pull back your rewards... that can be in the form of...
1. Your presence
- if u work or have class with her, talk about having lunch tommorow or telling her something important tommorow and then just don't show up
2. Your attention
- Don't be a **** and ignore her, but say 'hey' but tone down the humor and the touching, speak to her as if she was a female friend... No interesting topics, no kino, no funny jokes to make her smile, just regular boring talk and smiles to let her know you're not mad at her... confuse her into thinking all day what in the hell changed in ur relationship
3. Your undivided attention
- Switch into giving your 'attraction game' to another female or even another male (not meaning be gay) but tell stories and joke around and generally show high energy to someone else in her venue so she notices. Trust me, it even works with guys... If you usually come in and you and her are the high value people, give your high value to another girl or guy...
4. Let sexual tension build
- This depends on how much game you have. Simply if you have no game or experience, just leave this one alone. When I was in the field, I'd run all sorts of 'attraction game' on a female and use kino to display sexual fondness but I'd never say
ANYTHING remotely sexual or ask her to do anything with me at anytime... I'd give her good feelings in class or work ect... and then when our time was up, I'd say 'bye you' and just up and leave....
This led to girls asking me out to lunch and a girl even stealing my phone to insert her number into it. I never used to ask for dates, I'd always get invited out by them, maybe its hard for some of you to believe but it's possible.
-Cod3r
