The art of walking away

[WestCoaster]

I took a good year and a half off this board and have returned. Still a wealth of great information here, especially the DJ Bible and articles.

Most of these articles say walk away and if a girl dumps you, don't come crawling back, walk away; and if you're rejected for a date, smile and walk away.

After not even lurking on this site for a long time, upon my return I still see the same needy guys on all the message boards. The main theme is: How can I get this girl back, the girl who dumped me, cheated on me, and treated me like the scum of the earth?

I'm just wondering why any DJ, or DJ-in-training, or anyone who has read the articles on this site would subscribe to this theory?

I'm still puzzled as to why this is still the predominant theme on this board.

* Second popular theme: This girl is weird, why did she do this, that, what is going on? How do I figure this out? Answer: You don't. Read the "Kiss of Death" article on this site and figure out why trying to understand the emotions of women is mental suicide. Are people reading the articles and DJ Bible here?

 

[joekerr31]

i continue to espouse that being a man really comes down to standing up for yourself. having enough respect and caring enough about yourself not to let anyone sh*t on you and to KNOW that you are the prize and you're life will rock with or without a woman.

Too many guys once they grow up are looking to replace the attention they got as a child (or something, who knows). Point being they THINK they need a woman to be happy. So when a woman dumps them, rejects them, whatever, they start thinking that maybe something is wrong with them and ALL women might treat them this way.

The only REAL psychological difference between a REAL man and a women is that a real man doesn't look to anyone else to validate his worth. Almost all women validate themselves by whether or not they are able to attract and hook men.

In this sense, many men act like women when they put the woman on a pedastal and spend years on their tippy toes trying to reach her.

It's quite funny when they realize that all they have to do is kick the pedastal over and all her glory and awe inspiring beauty counts for nothing.

J

 

[guitaronfire411]

This is a HS story, but the same thing applies:

One of my friends in high school was dating an absolute attention *****. She would kiss me infront of him, give me hugs so I could feel her nice and very ample breasts, etc. She would make a big deal out of every situation, so she was often a drama queen. She split up with him after a few months and this really shook my friend up. Since I had the experiences of others from sosuave.com, I told my friend to just ignore her and let her go. Days later, she was begging and pleading for him to forgive her and that she made a HUGE mistake. She was crying, even.

So folks, if all else fails, always walk away if you feel shortchanged in a situation.

 

[WestCoaster]

Comic Relief, as I've noted many times, you're so far ahead of the high school game it's not even funny. You're wise beyond your years. DJism will pay off greatly for you in the future.

Wish I had this website many years ago in my teens and 20's, then I wouldn't have been such a puss-face AFC!

 

[Aaron B]

Yes, it works, almost every single time.

I recently had to move for my job and my girl is having a really hard time with it. She is coming to visit me this weekend. She doesn't have a cell so we communicate thru txts (she has my old pre-paid cell but can't afford enough to minutes to talk to me on it).

She starts giving me a bunch of **** about how I just left her with no notice, blah blah blah.

Me: What is this BS?

Her: I'm glad you think its BS. *more BS*

Me: Yes, it is BS. You aren't exactly making me want to see you this weekend.

Her: I don't know if I want to see you.

Me: (no hesitation, immediate response) Don't come then.

After about a 30 minute lull:

Her: I'm so sorry. I've just been missing you blah blah blah. I can't wait to see you.

 

[bullmoose]

I was working a chick a few weeks ago at a club, and at one point she looked me in the eye and said, "You can't handle me." I laughed.

We danced, and she was a total AW, butting up against every other guy around us and letting them grind on her. I just went back to the edge of the dance floor, picked up my drink, and watched. She came back over to me halfway through the song and said, "Told you you can't handle me."

"Nobody should have to," I said, and walked out of the club.

I caught her reflection in the window of a car -- she was standing in the doorway of the club watching me go.

The *only* card that we can play against women is that they need our attention. They need our attention as badly as we men need pvssy -- just like us, it's a constant itch, and on their minds all day. Deny them that -- especially a girl who's used to getting it -- and you'll drive her nuts. See, now she thinks there's something wrong with HER. There can't be anything wrong with YOU, because she was interested in you.

Further, women often confuse their strong emotions; breaking her heart or p1ssing her off is as powerful as making her laugh all night -- IF you're willing to walk away. When she's frustrated/mad/upset/shattered, she'll eventually think, "I must really care about that guy if I'm this upset about it." Then she'll think, "He must be a prize if *I* care about him," because she doesn't date losers. (They all think this, whether they date losers in actuality or not. No girl thinks she's falling for a loser. They'll look far and wide to find some redeeming quality in their boyfriends.)

A month, a season, maybe a year later she'll see you and she won't remember what it was she was upset about, just that you stirred something powerful in her. Then get ready to have the shirt ripped from your back.

 

[joekerr31]

you should have said with a smile...

"no, i can't handle clamidia."

and then walked away.

the worst insult you can give a woman is to basically call her a slut. it taps into their worst fears that their need for attention is being seen as slutty behavior.

by the way, it also works if you want to break up with a girl. if you say "you know, sometimes you act like a total slut." she'll end the relationship that moment.

J

 

[Bonhomme]

24-karat gold

Deserves the sticky.

Bullmoose, you said exactly the right thing to the AW. "Nobody should have to. Beautiful! :crackup: