The Alpha Male, and changing my role.

[red sky30]

When I'm not paying attention to my surroundings, or just preoccupied with something else, I usually act however i want, around whoever i'm with.

But if I start analizing who's around me, and I sense out an Alpha -Male type person, I immedialtly clam up, and notice his presence.

I put great emphasis on "winning" the eye contact game, like thats gonna make me better or something. I hate the alpha males because they make me feel like that.



Now i might sound like a beta male or whatever, and thats because my whole life was spent in that f*cking position until I came to college.

Then I learned that I'm actually a very cool person, and I have a lot of things going for me.



Now instead of submitting to their "power", I am yearning to fight it. I want to throw fists, I want to scream, I want to scowl...

I am sick of feeling intimidated, when the kid probably doesn't even give a **** about me at all.

What Can i do to erase these feelings of inferiority that I have when i cross these select few's paths?


Its only with the Alpha males, noone else.


*Sounds insanely animalistic don't it?*

 

[gav]

bump.

i don't give a sh!t what others think, in general, but when alphas are in my presence, i start to behave in such a controlled manner.

Maybe it's because i fear their power and that by doing something "wrong" i will be attacked - which is often the case (verbally), infact there's one guy that i hang around with that does nothing but attack everything i do and say. Every time he speaks to me it's "why, why why? why did u do this? why are u telling me this?" although i can fairly easily answer these questions, it's the fact that i feel i am being asked them and thathave to answer them

 

[Jay Gatsby]

Originally posted by red sky30
But if I start analyzing who's around me, and I sense out an Alpha-Male type person, I immedialtly clam up, and notice his presence.

Of course you should notice his presence -- no one should be beneath your notice. It is the sign of a wise and cautious man to be aware of his surroundings so that he can adapt to them, or adapt them to him.

I put great emphasis on "winning" the eye contact game, like thats gonna make me better or something. I hate the alpha males because they make me feel like that.

You need to realize two things. One, there is nothing to "win," except for a false sense of superiority. Two, "they" don't make you feel like that -- you do.

Now i might sound like a beta male or whatever, and thats because my whole life was spent in that f*cking position until I came to college.

Yes, you do. Your whole life was spent feeling inferior, and you still do.

Then I learned that I'm actually a very cool person, and I have a lot of things going for me.

If you truly believed you were a very cool person, and that you have a lot of things going for you, how you react to others -- particularly alpha males -- would be completely different. You wouldn't feel the need to compete with them, nor inferior while in their presence.

Now instead of submitting to their "power", I am yearning to fight it. I want to throw fists, I want to scream, I want to scowl...

Of course you want to fight -- you're angry, hurt, frustrated and most of all, inferior. The problem is that "they" are not causing you to feel inferior. You are.

I am sick of feeling intimidated, when the kid probably doesn't even give a **** about me at all.

Now you finally see the light. The other alpha males around you really don't care about you. So I ask you, why do you care about them? Do you need, desire or crave their approval? Of course you do -- they're alpha, and you're not. By getting their approval, you can keep up the facade in your own mind that you're alpha too, even though deep down you know you're not.

So, now you ask, how do you solve your problem? There's no simple answer, but the solution starts with you, not with them. Take yourself out of circulation for a while; out of the environments where you encounter alpha males. Spend some time alone -- and I mean truly alone.

Take an honest assessment of yourself and where you are. Don't hold anything back. Well-placed criticism is to be learned from, not to be feared. After breaking down each area of your life in which you want to improve, set out systematically to transform those areas into the ideal you have in your mind.

When you return from your self-imposed exile, you won't feel the need to compete with alpha males. You will be one, and they will acknowledge your presence.

 

[red sky30]

Thanks for tellin it like it is man, I appreciate the honesty.


Now you're suggestion about being alone... I think i've already spent enough time running away. Like in January I took a greyhound bus cross country and stayed in youth hostels. Now if THATS not the definition of spending time "truely alone" then I don't know what is.

I've actually started to do the opposite. I've started to STOP running and start confronting my issues and problems here at school.


So basically time will tell i suppose, but it seems the answers need to be sorted out in my own mind.....

 

[Jay Gatsby]

Originally posted by red sky30
Now you're suggestion about being alone... I think i've already spent enough time running away. Like in January I took a greyhound bus cross country and stayed in youth hostels. Now if THATS not the definition of spending time "truely alone" then I don't know what is.

I've actually started to do the opposite. I've started to STOP running and start confronting my issues and problems here at school.

So basically time will tell i suppose, but it seems the answers need to be sorted out in my own mind.....

I'm not so sure you understand my posting. By telling you that you need to be "truly alone," I meant that you needed to take yourself out of the environment where you encounter alpha males. Seeing such individuals will only reinforce your inferiority complex. I did not mean that you should become truly alone by running away. Your youth hostel trip, perhaps good for your spirit and opening your mind through travel, was a mistake if your intent was to transform yourself.

Contrary to your posting, however, I don't believe that you're truly willing to confront your issues and problems. You're still at the anger/frustration stage. Anger doesn't solve problems -- it only exacerbates them. Emotions, especially anger, only cloud your judgment and your ability to think clearly.

You need to look in the mirror -- really look -- and see yourself for who you really are, flaws and all. Then, decide what you want to change about yourself, and set out systematically to change those things.

 

[squirrels]

In the presence of an Alpha, Betas:

-Try to win the Alpha's favor
-Try to show the Alpha up
-Become concerned about their own Beta status

Alphas:

-Simply don't give a f**k.

I used to exhibit typical beta behavior. Now if I see an Alpha, I just kind of laugh and give him a heads up or "props." I have no reason to be intimidated or threatened by him.

 

[italostud]

Originally posted by red sky30


But if I start analizing who's around me,

Jesus LMAO I just about spit my drink all over my keyboard.

 

[Chemistry]

Chill with them...

I mean, think of what one alpha male can get... now imagine two alpha males workin as a team... they've got the world at their feet, well almost...

Personally, I've been fed up of chillin with betas and the rest of the pack... I'd much rather be out with a bunch of alpha males an just clown and do my thing...

 

[ScrewIt]

this post reminded me of something.

my AFC friend who tries to be alpha when me + other friends are around. he contradicts stuff that i say just so he can seem all htat to others. but i know he's all AFC underneath and everything he says is trash talk (either highly exaggerates or lies).

when it's just me and him, he's back to beta.

stuff like this doesnt get to me. there's nothing to fear about him. and i just ignore what he says. he fakes his confidence, when in reality i know he has low self-esteem. so that's how it is.

the alpha wannabe's u can smell if they're being fake, dont need to give jack **** about them

 

[Player_Supreme]

http://www.sacscene.com/pn1/modules...ame=gallery&file=index&include=view_photo.php


Boo!

 

[joey37]

What: it's supposed to impress us that you have some ugly beotch grabbing your nut sack?

 

[jakethasnake]

Man.... she honestly isn't too attractive. I'm not just saying that coz I don't see eye to eye with P_S - that ho' is trailer-trash to tha core.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Originally posted by joey37
What: it's supposed to impress us that you have some ugly beotch grabbing your nut sack?

You see just like a symp you make it about the byatch. It's not about the biatch. Take another look. I'm not even touching her. She is touching me little joey.

Now look into my eyes. Feel my aura. Look at how I present myself. Now ask yourself would we even be having this convo if you and I were face to face.

If you heads go out looking for trouble you will definately find it. Being intimidated by alpha males and trying to act hard will only get you an ass-whoopin.

Alpha's have cornered the market on tough. Just be who you are. Don't trip cause you sense an apha's presence. This is your own insecurities coming to the surface.

Don't make it about other men. And definately do not make it about women. Make it about you...you dig little joey and the rest of the skurred!

Alpha's can sense fear in other males. Just as females can smell if you are the right mate for her. Our senses still work over time despite you grain eaters society trying to breed us out.



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yeah jake sure ya right! I think I may have to re-enact my ignore list again. You still haven't learned your lesson yet.

Oh who has been pulling at your clothes lately for attention. When I posted my picture I stated that I was at a grown folks club with folks my own age and I'm still pimpin...now what about you?

Still pimpin that wrist on over time? Still posting these weird assed links to unknown sites? You have too much time on your hands to be out their really DJing.

Let's get real ok.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Now look at all of my photo's and see if there is any difference in my energy or aura or look.

Once again the lesson went right over some of ya's heads.

http://www.villagephotos.com/pubbrowse.asp?selected=583617

Don't fake being an alpha. Just be who you are.

Don't hate cause your not alpha...be happy who you are...

Even if your only Korean.

Oh the guy who posted this to you:

Jake,

Do you have a program that searches the internet for any derogatory mention of asians so that you can sweep down from the sky and defend all that is good and yellow?

If not then I am very impressed with your trolling...er browsing abilities.

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Why do they always think asians have yellow skin? I called you yellow cause your afraid to come out of the dark. Asians have some of the whitest skin I've seen. They are whiter than white folks sometimes...

 

[jakethasnake]

Dude, I'm not even gonna bother. But I love your bikini bottoms, though.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
Dude, I'm not even gonna bother. But I love your bikini bottoms, though.

1. Those are body building posing trunks.. you must be gay cause you must of blew the photo up to see my 9 inches bulging out too. I kinda thought you were after a while anyways.

2. I would back at ya but that is what women do. As well as use lots of emoticons.

3. I will bet you love going to musicals now don't you.

 

[jakethasnake]

LOL!

you don't have 9 inches. It's one of my pet peeves when people use stereotypes only when it suits them.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Re: LOL!

Originally posted by jakethasnake
you don't have 9 inches. It's one of my pet peeves when people use stereotypes only when it suits them.

Ok give me your email address and I will email a photo to you. I'm only average amongst my black friends. In the one photo the one brother with the glasses is 9 and 1/2. My girl I'm dating now her ex husband is 6'4 stone cold black and 10 inches.

I'm kinda on the small side. Almost gave me a complex until I met some white dudes who said they had 5 inches and then I realized you need to give blessings for what ever you've been give...cause there is always worse.

Now this is the truth the smallest dyck I've ever seen was on an asian guy. Remember I used to teach fitness classes and practice martial arts.


But thanks for inquiring about the validity of the size of my wang...very gay of you.

And you must be learking on this site again cause I JUST posted my last reply.

So send me the email and I will mail you proof...just like when I ased for YOUR proof

9'' by 7'' circumference. I call it the blacktower. lol

 

[Player_Supreme]

Oh jakie I'm boning this much much older woman than I am and she measured it last friday soft at 6 inches bruh. So don't trip...look at my photo's....I shoulda had more like my little brother who is 6'8 and my older brother who is 5'9 but more hung than I am...I am the wee one in my family.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Lastly Jakie. You will probably never experience this, but you can check with the fellas on here who are on the larger side:

when you bone a woman who has had a kid most fellas never find the 2nd cave in the back of her vagina. There is a wall or hole that you tear through and it opens up into a 2nd area deep in the back. Tearing through hurts ya dyck alittle and the 2nd cave isn't all that either...check around.

and remember the doctor that I posted about whinning about how I would GIVE HER FAWKING CERVIX A HEADACHE

Well the cervix is this thing that is way DOWN IN A WOMANS VAGINA

It opens up into her UTERUS . You know where babies are concieved....where you were spawned...get it.

You gotta be on the slightly larger side to knock a womans cervix back into the uterus you fool!

lol@ya jackie