The 2013 DJ’s manifesto

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[FONT=&quot]I’m 29 years old. I’ll be 30 in June. I came here when I was 19 years old. Lol I was here when we still had ****ing pagers I bull **** you not. And I mean let’s be honest; the landscape of dating has made a shift in the last 10 years. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]I’m not completely oblivious to what is going on around just because I’m hitched like I’m some AFC who is just “happy the game is over” and stops worrying about “that type of stuff” I still have a pulse on the game and I think I can offer some advice to some who are struggling with game in the technological age that we are in now. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]First of all, anyone who reads my post for a prolonged period of time knows that I don’t’ believe in playing defense. I believe the best defense in sports lol and in dating is a good offense. Too many guys go into a date or a relationship and sit there and just wait for **** tests and their entire mindset is “okay /… now how do I deal with this **** test. Now how do I deal with this one.. and this one.. and this one”. I want to put a woman on her heels. This takes her off her game and it ****s up any type of female game that she has planned, most women have very very little game they have never had to use any so the second you get them rattled they are done. So this brings to me to my first and most important point[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]1.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot]Technology is to be used as a method to inform, not to be informed, if at all.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Let me use this analogy. Say you go to the gym and you are there or what not and you see this chick there who goes to the gym everyday and you develop a mini crush on her. Bro I’ve been there lol. say this chick’s name is Julie.. she’s in peak condition, young 20’s, very pleasant always smiling, an unbelievable body, and you start to piece together the rest of the **** about Julie in your mind. Maybe you see a book she’s reading so you imagine what type of books she likes or you catch her eating subway so you imagine what type of foods she likes or you see her in non gym clothes so you imagine what she dresses like outside of the gym. You start to piece together this (imaginary) picture of Julie.[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]Now some are quick to say that’s oneitis, and yes this is true to some extent but that’s not the point I’m trying to make in this particular sub section. The point I’m trying to make is that.. lol, the information you piece together is never ****ty information. You don’t imagine she has ****ty credit or can’t cook or snores or can’t dance or cant’ dress or is currently ****ing 3 different guys or she has ****ty tastes in men. But this is the type of **** you find out when you friend someone on facebook or follow someone on twitter. You replace all the good imaginary **** with ****ty **** lol.[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]But more importantly than that, because women had ****ty **** 50 years ago women did not just start becoming ****ty now, is that you replace the ****ty **** in a woman at a faster rate than you can verify the good **** about a woman therefore everyone is now ****ty. It’s the dating equivalent to paralysis by analysis. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]My wife does not have a facebook page, thank god lol, she hates the **** as much as I do. but if she did, I can imagine what it would look like and I’m quite sure that I would have been turned off by it. And this is the love of my life. You know how turned off I would have been if I could have VERIFED that she was going on dates with 2 other dudes when I met her. I mean I’m not stupid I had a clue she’s hot and classy and was always busy but it’s another thing to see messages and **** and just get thoughts running my head. But I found this out after about a month of dating, the day she picked me up from the airport because she could not wait to see me and I found out she cancelled a date with someone else to come see me. That puts it all in another perspective now doesn’t it?[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]In short what I am trying to say is the less information you have about your girl’s activates the more effective your game is going to be because you aren’t’ stuck playing defense. Going back to my wife it was the sole fact that I honestly was too busy playing offense to give a **** if she was dating anyone else or not that eventually won the game. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]Don’t’ use technology to follow broads and ****. Don’t’ follow any female. I have a twitter account though I use it quite sparingly , and an ex of mine has a twitter account and we follow each other because we are both big horse racing fans so even though we don’t’ date I’m interested to see what she has to say about races from time to time.. half her ****ing posts are about dates she went on or how great a time she had the other night, etc. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]On the other hand, most guys are so busy playing defense, that they do not take the time to take advantage of the 2013 woman’s fatal flaw… women have to know everything. Something else I found out a few years ago by trial and error is that women, are a LOT more observant than men are as far as picking up signs and **** like that in dating. I would do **** like buy a cheap purse and put **** in it lol and leave it under my bathroom sink knowing good and well sooner or later she was going to go through it. Women do that **** they are curious. Or go meet a woman I have been on a few dates with dressed ot the 9 and tell her I have somewhere to go afterwards and not tell them were. That will rack a woman’s brain. The trick is to not come off as a player but at the same time give them the hint of competition. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]There is not a better avenue to do this than with facebook / twitter and most guys don’t’ have a clue how to do this . post **** about the great meal you had last night at the restaurant how you loved desert. Man I went to a great play last night .. lol guys don’t go to plays by themselves (they really don’t) she will know you are taking a broad to a play. Talk about how you are going tango dancing.. guys don’t’ tango dance with guys. Make the broad sense she has company but don’t come off as a player. Don’t post pictures of broad’s all on your **** that’s tactless. Don’t commit to anyone on facebook. Use facebook and **** as nothing more as an avenue to allow broads a selective window into your life of **** that you want them to see. [/FONT]

 

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[FONT=&quot]1.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot]Screen, Screen, Screen[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Anyone else who follows my posts at all know that I believe that screening will cure the vast majority of your problems with broads. You know I can’t sit here and tell you that all broads are the exact same way as they were 50 years ago. I believe there a lot that are, maybe a little more chatty and a little more fun loving but at the end of the day quite traditional with traditional values. The thing is, at least by my personal belief because of single parent households and parents who assumed being a good parent was buying’s **** for your kids that you didn’t have rather than being good parents and being a good role model, there are a lot of women who just aren’t good fits. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]The days of LBJ asking lady bird Johnson to marry him on the first date lol are long over. Back then you didn’t have to screen like that. You meet a good looking broad who acted nice it wasn’t that unreasonable of a stretch to assume she was of good moral standing if she handled herself in the correct manner especially if she was educated you assumed she came from good stock. You can’t do that now. This is the heel of most guys they are dating on a 1960’s time chart and not a 2013 time chart. Now bums go to college just like good people lol. now anyone can fake it for 2-3 weeks.[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]In 2013 you should not EXCLUSIVLY date a woman until[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]1.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot]You’ve met their parents (unless like in my case where doing so is quite impractical they lived in England. But my other real serious LTR as an adult I knew both her parents on a first name basis and her mom used to come over my house and drink daquari’s with me all the time BEFORE we started dating.. while trying to convince me to date her daughter lol)[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]2.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot]You know her credit score. It’s not even about debt credit shows a window into her level of responsibility. [/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]3.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot]You are 10000% positive she doesn’t have any negative habits such as hard drugs (I mean serious negative habits.. not like shopping too much and ****. Use common sense)[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]4.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot]You are 10000000% sure that there are no other guys in the picture. (there is a window in a relationship between when you meet a girl and you like her and you decide she has the potential to be something more and when you actually become exclusive. I will address this in another post)[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]5.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot]You completely understand what her ambitions are, as well as her expectations out of the relationship. She’s not going into the relationship hoping she can change **** about you.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]6.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot]You’ve met her female friends. This is the silent but deadly here. Her friends will dictate her dating life just as much if not more than her parents or anything else. You win over the friends you are home free. If the friends don’t like you, you are done before you start. The friends will eventually win. Maybe not at first, but you will never come out ahead in a relationship where the friends don’t like you. This isn’t that hard just don’t be a jerk. [/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Any girl that is not willing to let you find out this **** before her in time before agreeing to be exclusive, is on a time line or has ulterior motives. These aren’t unreasonable things. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]2-3 months is a good time frame at least. It may be longer. Eventually she will put pressure on you because she’s used to getting your way but understand ifs he really likes you and feels you are the am for her she will do what she needs to do (within reason) no questions asked. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]There is what ATTRACTS people and there is what KEEPS people. Again, take my wife. My wife loves me and I love her. She loves me because (I’m assuming here) I’m caring, I’m hard working, I provide a comfortable live style but at the same time there is no question about who runs my house and it’s not her. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]But, and this is a huge but… that’s not why she is ATTRACTED to me. She’s attracted to be me because I’m ****ing hot lol. I know I’m good looking she knows it. It’s verified when we go out and girls hit on me or I take my shirt off at a pool and everyone looks at my chest or I put on a polo shirt and my chest is budding out of it. She’s attracted to me because I have a sense of humor and I can go back and forth with her and make her laugh everyday, I still tickle her lol, she’s quite ticklish . I know I come off as serious and business like on this forum but in real life when I cut “that part” off I’m quite playful and I like to play around. That is an attractive quality. She’s attracted to me because rarely am I not the best dressed guy in the room. Usually overdressed but nevertheless. I’m always clean. Not only do I know HOW to dress I know how to dress uniquely for my tastes and I’m not afraid to wear **** I like to wear[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]Young guys who can get laid can attract a woman (at times) but can’t keep a woman. Older guys with careers and **** can KEEP a woman but can’t’ ATTRACT a woman. (let that last one sink in)[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Rare is the guy who can ATTRACT and KEEP a woman. And the bigger issue for the 2013 man is to attract a woman, I am running on the assumption for the sake of my sanity that most guys here have a good idea of what a man should be and have an idea of what they want to do career wise and have some type of future so we are going to focus on the ATTRACT part. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]The thing is, in 2013, you have to do more to ATTRACT a woman than you did 50 years ago. Do more does not mean actually doing more **** to attract, It means you have to be stand out more. 50 years ago the prospects of a comfortable life style with a decent looking guy was enough to attract a woman but that’s not the case in 2013 when women are more educated then men are. Women (at least think) they earn more than men so this boat isn’t gonna fly with most women. you have to give a woman to LOOK at you. Even if it is artificial. I would go so [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]The quickest and most efficient way you can do this is to eat right and go to the gym everyday . in a country where at least half of the country is overweight and maybe 1 out of 10 guys are actually what you would call “in great shape” putting yourself in the top 10% is really just as easy as taking your ass to the gym. It really is. I didn’t always get hit on as much as I do now and I am not excellent when I say I get hit on quite often. I spend probably 12-15 hours a week in the gym between swimming, the exercise bike and weights and have for all my 20’s. [/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]But you can do more to stand out. Develop a unique sense of style. Unique being the key, key word. Drive a unique car . I do understand that I was probably blessed with looks a lot of guys don’t have but I would still get attention when I go out because of the way I dress. It’s a conversation starter. Not only that because I dress the way I dress most women assume(d) I smoke (ironically enough I don’t) and I would be the first person anyone ever asked for a light. I got a few numbers like this.[/FONT]
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[Greasy Pig]

Solid post, BB.
Since taking the red pill, I had little trouble attracting women and banging them, but struggled to keep the good ones around.
The ones I did keep around turned out to be Class A cvnts.
Screening is crucial and why spinning plates is a good tactic.
And getting/keeping in shape will improve your dating tenfold.

 

[ArcBound]

The vast majority of problems can be eliminated if most guys screened as you describe.

It's like a girl complaining that the guy she was dating turned out to be using her for sex only. As guys we laugh and say it was so obvious based on the character of the guy, but the girl legitimately didn't see it, or chose not to see it coming. Guys do the exact same thing when we commit to someone who doesn't deserve commitment, we don't screen, we don't ACTIVELY try to find her faults and virtues. Then when we get burned by the fire, we say we "didn't see it coming".

Girls give sex too easily these days, but guys give commitment too easily these days.

 

[sageproduct]

Thank you for taking the time to write this out.

It was only very recently that I realized that Facebook can be a very useful tool. So useful that I might try using it as a part of my standard approach - after getting her number, try to get her on Facebook so that she can scope me out and know more about me so that I'm more than just a guy who talked to her for 5 min

Knew this was going to be gold the moment I saw the font, capitalization, and properly spelled words