AFC. Three simple letters: Another Frustrated Chump. But what do these words really mean?
Another: one more of that which someone already has; an extra, an unneeded; something that which is not unique.
Another, in essence, symbolizes someone that is boring. A robot. A totally predictable man that ekes his way through all his interactions with other people only following the rules and social norms that are prescribed to him without question. To be “another”, there is nothing unique about your presentation:
Female: “Hi!”
Another: “Hi! My name is _____! I go to _____ University! I major in _____! My hobbies are ____, ____, and ____!”
Female: “Oh! There are my friends!” starts to walk away, “Gotta go! See ya!”
Ugh! Fill in the blanks! There are plenty of “anothers” out there! Fill in anything for the hobbies, sure, they can be fun…but focus more on the person himself. He can go see the world, read astounding works, wear fancy clothes, work out and be muscular, play guitar, drive a Bentley…but he is still the same person! He must still display his personality to women. It is similar to earning a degree in college: the degree is meaningless if nothing was learned.
Same here. You are still boring to the women if you are not fun YOURSELF. The women already come across masses of BORING guys that fit this mold. Guys that must brag about their ‘busy and exiting’ lives because they are afraid to let their individuality--their emotions--truly shine. These guys do not let the exiting things that happen to them effect their personality; they do not bring their emotions into it. “Give us something different!” the women scream, “Give us Don Juan!”
Female: “Hi!”
DJ: “Hey! Do you like pickles? Cuz I do, but I had the WORST pickle EVER during lunch! It was crunchy on the outside, but REALLY soggy on the inside!”
Female: “Eww!” laughing “I hate those kind!”
DJ: “Yeah! You know what I LIKE though…”
And they walk off into the sunset…
See, your life should not be the focus of the conversation; it should be the fodder. You could live the most exciting life in the world; yet--if you are just doing it just to do it--you will merely be a passenger.
And you will still be…"another".
Frustrated: confused, bewildered; one that is blind to the ways of women (and the world.)
Common questions of "frustrated" males are “Why did she do that?”, “Why did she cheat on me?”, “Why did I get dumped?”, and the big one…“WHY CAN’T I GET THE CHICKS THAT I WANT!?!?”
How shall this frustrated male be answered? By conjectures and theories? (She LJBFed you because she was “testing” you.) By vain generalizations? (All women are bitches, just be a jerk.)
No. These will not get to the ROOT of his problems. He shall be answered thusly:
Question One, The Mind Behind the (oh so sexy) Eyes
“Why did she _____?”
In the end, it does not matter why women do the things that they do; the reasons are numerous and boring. Some will say that women act on feeling, unlike men who act on logic. Puhlease! There is a spectrum of logic and emotion that we ALL fall on, the majority of women falling on the side of emotion, and the majority of men falling nearest the logic side. To make such a rash generalization would be an error. There are logical girls just like there are emotional men. For sure, logic is considered a “masculine” trait, and emotion a “feminine” one; but who says the logic has to be stifling? Who says the emotion has to be mushy? I admire a girl that can use logic to say “I can’t get drunk tonight even though I REALLY want to…I have a test tomorrow!” Also, consider ENTHUSIASM and ANGER. Are these not emotions that a man can display regularly and still be considered “masculine”?
After all this cogitating, the fact remains that we are all STILL human; everyone uses a combination of feelings and logic to run their lives.
The REAL question that this frustrated male should ask is:
“Why didn’t I see it coming!?”
Good question guy! You have finally realized that crawling into the mind of a woman will not help you. Knowing WHY they do what they do will have no effect on your relations with them because YOU are the one that is participating in this reality. YOU--not your mind, not your knowledge, not your verbal wit or anything else—are the one that must face the test. Those things may help, but they will help VERY LITTLE once you have realized the CORE.
What is this elusive "core"?
Empathy.
No, not empathy as in "You feel bad so now I feel bad." It is more like understanding EMOTION. Why do you think the computer nerd cannot get girls while the crazy drunkard has women on his knob every night? They are both abject pieces of human filth!
The dork does not understand emotion, he tries to analyze it. It is what makes us HUMAN. The crazy drunk guy has emotion, but no control. While the nerd has his cold, calculating mind (with hidden underdeveloped emotions--which turn into embarassment/shyness when let out), the partygoer guy has a crazy emotional manner.
Girls communicate subtley. No wonder the nerd does not understand when women communicate. He doesn't understand when ANYONE trys to subtley communicate with him. He is out of touch with his emotion.
In the end, it is all just not being afraid of our own desires. Shutting off that logical, dehumanizing spirit that resides within us all. (After all, isn't sexuality a desire. When we let our emotion out, sexuality comes naturally.)
The key thing about emotions though is you have to NOT hide them from YOURSELF. Realize that they exist. When you do this, your natural intuition will jump to the forefront.
You will think, "I don't like that girl, I don't know WHY (she is cute)...but she seems...cold," and you will find out later that she has a boyfriend.
You will think, "Geez, she seems cold lately...I can't put my finger on it," and then find out that she has been cheating on you. (With ME
...but hey, I could TELL she was bored. Had to do something!)
Some people will seem strange to you (those people have hidden agendas), you will begin to SEE feelings in other people. You begin to read between the lines.
Then, you can follow your gut. You have a NATURAL read on BODY LANGUAGE. Communication with girls is ALL body language. You will know if they are into you or not.
Just STOP analyzing yourself, and realize your emotional side.
"But ice, that is AFC stuff like love, infatuation, wussiness, etc."
No. Those things have nothing to do with this. Falling head over heels for a girl is a sign that your emotional side is WEAK and needs to be built up. Look at the nerds, they TRY to act all logical and smart. But emotion DOES come out, we are not computers.
And when it DOES, it is usually childish. The unemotional guys have KEPT thier feelings from "growing up". You will have to let your emotions "grow up". This may take some time, it may take some work. However, you will be more human in the end.
Another: one more of that which someone already has; an extra, an unneeded; something that which is not unique.
Another, in essence, symbolizes someone that is boring. A robot. A totally predictable man that ekes his way through all his interactions with other people only following the rules and social norms that are prescribed to him without question. To be “another”, there is nothing unique about your presentation:
Female: “Hi!”
Another: “Hi! My name is _____! I go to _____ University! I major in _____! My hobbies are ____, ____, and ____!”
Female: “Oh! There are my friends!” starts to walk away, “Gotta go! See ya!”
Ugh! Fill in the blanks! There are plenty of “anothers” out there! Fill in anything for the hobbies, sure, they can be fun…but focus more on the person himself. He can go see the world, read astounding works, wear fancy clothes, work out and be muscular, play guitar, drive a Bentley…but he is still the same person! He must still display his personality to women. It is similar to earning a degree in college: the degree is meaningless if nothing was learned.
Same here. You are still boring to the women if you are not fun YOURSELF. The women already come across masses of BORING guys that fit this mold. Guys that must brag about their ‘busy and exiting’ lives because they are afraid to let their individuality--their emotions--truly shine. These guys do not let the exiting things that happen to them effect their personality; they do not bring their emotions into it. “Give us something different!” the women scream, “Give us Don Juan!”
Female: “Hi!”
DJ: “Hey! Do you like pickles? Cuz I do, but I had the WORST pickle EVER during lunch! It was crunchy on the outside, but REALLY soggy on the inside!”
Female: “Eww!” laughing “I hate those kind!”
DJ: “Yeah! You know what I LIKE though…”
And they walk off into the sunset…
See, your life should not be the focus of the conversation; it should be the fodder. You could live the most exciting life in the world; yet--if you are just doing it just to do it--you will merely be a passenger.
And you will still be…"another".
Frustrated: confused, bewildered; one that is blind to the ways of women (and the world.)
Common questions of "frustrated" males are “Why did she do that?”, “Why did she cheat on me?”, “Why did I get dumped?”, and the big one…“WHY CAN’T I GET THE CHICKS THAT I WANT!?!?”
How shall this frustrated male be answered? By conjectures and theories? (She LJBFed you because she was “testing” you.) By vain generalizations? (All women are bitches, just be a jerk.)
No. These will not get to the ROOT of his problems. He shall be answered thusly:
Question One, The Mind Behind the (oh so sexy) Eyes
“Why did she _____?”
In the end, it does not matter why women do the things that they do; the reasons are numerous and boring. Some will say that women act on feeling, unlike men who act on logic. Puhlease! There is a spectrum of logic and emotion that we ALL fall on, the majority of women falling on the side of emotion, and the majority of men falling nearest the logic side. To make such a rash generalization would be an error. There are logical girls just like there are emotional men. For sure, logic is considered a “masculine” trait, and emotion a “feminine” one; but who says the logic has to be stifling? Who says the emotion has to be mushy? I admire a girl that can use logic to say “I can’t get drunk tonight even though I REALLY want to…I have a test tomorrow!” Also, consider ENTHUSIASM and ANGER. Are these not emotions that a man can display regularly and still be considered “masculine”?
After all this cogitating, the fact remains that we are all STILL human; everyone uses a combination of feelings and logic to run their lives.
The REAL question that this frustrated male should ask is:
“Why didn’t I see it coming!?”
Good question guy! You have finally realized that crawling into the mind of a woman will not help you. Knowing WHY they do what they do will have no effect on your relations with them because YOU are the one that is participating in this reality. YOU--not your mind, not your knowledge, not your verbal wit or anything else—are the one that must face the test. Those things may help, but they will help VERY LITTLE once you have realized the CORE.
What is this elusive "core"?
Empathy.
No, not empathy as in "You feel bad so now I feel bad." It is more like understanding EMOTION. Why do you think the computer nerd cannot get girls while the crazy drunkard has women on his knob every night? They are both abject pieces of human filth!
The dork does not understand emotion, he tries to analyze it. It is what makes us HUMAN. The crazy drunk guy has emotion, but no control. While the nerd has his cold, calculating mind (with hidden underdeveloped emotions--which turn into embarassment/shyness when let out), the partygoer guy has a crazy emotional manner.
Girls communicate subtley. No wonder the nerd does not understand when women communicate. He doesn't understand when ANYONE trys to subtley communicate with him. He is out of touch with his emotion.
In the end, it is all just not being afraid of our own desires. Shutting off that logical, dehumanizing spirit that resides within us all. (After all, isn't sexuality a desire. When we let our emotion out, sexuality comes naturally.)
The key thing about emotions though is you have to NOT hide them from YOURSELF. Realize that they exist. When you do this, your natural intuition will jump to the forefront.
You will think, "I don't like that girl, I don't know WHY (she is cute)...but she seems...cold," and you will find out later that she has a boyfriend.
You will think, "Geez, she seems cold lately...I can't put my finger on it," and then find out that she has been cheating on you. (With ME
...but hey, I could TELL she was bored. Had to do something!)Some people will seem strange to you (those people have hidden agendas), you will begin to SEE feelings in other people. You begin to read between the lines.
Then, you can follow your gut. You have a NATURAL read on BODY LANGUAGE. Communication with girls is ALL body language. You will know if they are into you or not.
Just STOP analyzing yourself, and realize your emotional side.
"But ice, that is AFC stuff like love, infatuation, wussiness, etc."
No. Those things have nothing to do with this. Falling head over heels for a girl is a sign that your emotional side is WEAK and needs to be built up. Look at the nerds, they TRY to act all logical and smart. But emotion DOES come out, we are not computers.
And when it DOES, it is usually childish. The unemotional guys have KEPT thier feelings from "growing up". You will have to let your emotions "grow up". This may take some time, it may take some work. However, you will be more human in the end.
