"thanks friend"

[aballer2323]

So there's a girl that I dated a while back.. We were both going through some things and broke up and haven't talked in a while. She recently started initiating again.. I've been keeping conversations light/friendly when she initiates.. Anyway, something happened to her and i said something to cheer her up, to which she responded with "thanks friend." I acted like I didn't even notice it. But it got me thinking. I'm not actively pursuing it, but I wouldnt be 100% against getting back with her (she's the one initiating everything anyways). But now that she dropped that phrase, is getting back with her 100% out of the question?

 

[Heisenberg]

But now that she dropped that phrase, is getting back with her 100% out of the question?

Yup

 

[aballer2323]

well, the thing is that im talking to some girls too and i'd only think about getting back with her if she brings that up. (remember: shes the one that started the initiating after a ~2-3 months period of little/no contact). i just ask because if she wants to be JUST friends, then i wont even bother wasting time talking her at all..

OR she is tossing the bailt out to see how you react - guage your interest/intent.
How the hell would she gauge my interest by saying something like that? It almost sounds like a pre-emptive rejection to me.. I reacted by acting like I didnt even notice it..

also FYI, the first time when i started dating, she also wanted to start off slow and as friends first. So... am I just reading too much into it?

 

[Heisenberg]

So... am I just reading too much into it?

Dunno. As was recommended to you above, ask her out. Then you'll have your answer and won't have to go all Sherlock Holmes over this mystery.

Shoot her a message now, ask her out for something that's clearly a date. Come back and tell us what she says.

 

[zekko]

But now that she dropped that phrase, is getting back with her 100% out of the question?

No, it's not 100% out of the question. It COULD be that she's setting the boundary at being friends, but not necessarily. Like Mauser says, the only way you can find out is by making a move. I hate going back to exes though, I don't really believe in it.

How the hell would she gauge my interest by saying something like that? It almost sounds like a pre-emptive rejection to me.. I reacted by acting like I didnt even notice it..

If you objected to her calling you a friend, she would know you are interested. Regardless, you reacted correctly.

Rather than ask her out for something that's clearly a date, I would just ask her to do something/anything. Then when you are with her, you can escalate. That way, if she just thinks of you as a friend, you get your opportunity to get her excited and change her mind.

 

[Tomo]

Don't read into phrases used and said by woman. I've been called friend, mate and even told 'I don't think there could ever be anything between us really' only for the woman to back track down the track lips locked at a club or waking up in my bed. Always observe their behavior and actions and proceed from there.
Be indifferent and agree and escalate. Don't be afraid to call them 'friend' or 'mate' back. It gets their hamster wheels spinning as to why with all her orbiters, why you don't see her just as sexually attractive.

 

[DragonBlood]

I had a women I was friends with who would call me "my love" all the time. I asked her out and she was confused as to why I did that. She calls everyone "my love" apparently and got furious Another one I meet would refer to her passing acquaintances as "my darlings", although she was not a native speaker.

Dont read too much into what a women has to say. The more attention you pay to their games (aka words) the less likely you will man up, escalate and go after what you want. If your interested go for it and get your answer. Dont over think it dude.