Thanks for everything, Goodbye.

[Slickster]

I've only been here a short while but have learned a ton of great stuff.

Have been getting bored with the forum lately (too repetitive and misleading) and have been wondering how these guys with 500-1000 posts do it.

I just read Master of the Universe's post "My current Thoughts on Seduction" and that pretty much sealed the deal. READ THAT POST IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY. That guy has rewritten the Bible.
And from the sounds of it he has the experience to do it.

Face it the reason 90% of the people are here is due to a lack of confidence in themselves. If it weren't then why would you be here?

My confidence was low when I arrived (was dumped by LTR of 3 years) but I bounced back quickly. Why did I stick around? Well this place is ADDICTIVE!

I know there are many of you here who have Low Confidence. Or are like me Addicted to this site.

My advice is get OUT! You are wasting your time here. Learn what you can but realize that this DJ game is not magic or a complicated thing. It is simple. (Read the post mentioned above)

Once you realize that, get out before you become a 1000+ post Super Deluxe Almighty Grandmaster DJ. Those "Master DJ's" though some seem very wise must have sad lives. How could you spend that much time here and lead a normal life? You have to be either unemployed, really bored, or very stupid as to not have this stuff sink in before you reach that point. The tendency here is to overanalyze and debate every little thing, and that is just sad.

The only way to become a DJ/Man is to get out and experience life. That is where Confidence comes from.

You want to improve yourself? This place may be a catalyst but it won't get the job done.

Challenge yourself everyday.

Good Luck!



Slick

 

[matius]

So what!?

I have a hard time understanding why people post to say they're leaving. Farewell darling, couldn't give a shyte less.

Can somebody tell me why?

Matius

 

[krd]

I think the reason is the same as when people quit smoking--they say to tell as many people as you can. That way, you're less likely to go back on your word.

 

[Quick]

One last cry for attention perhaps, matius?

I don't understand why someone would feel the need to tell everyone else to leave just because they decided. If people hang around, it's because they're getting something they want or need from this place.

As far of Master of the Universe's post, I happen to agree with him. But I also realize that there were steps he took to get to that point of realization. Many people who just got here need steps and rules to follow in order to change the way they look at life.

As far as the Master DJs, you forgot that some stick around to help others, not because they don't get it themselves. If everyone leaves as soon as they get it, the people that came after would be in trouble. I got everything I needed from here in the first week, but I stick around to help others who need more help than I did, and because it's fun. There are aslso some thought provoking topics on here. As far as having to be unemployed to post here, you forgot that some people post here as a way to pass time at work. If you want to leave, fine. Please don't feel the need to tear down others on your way out.

 

[Ronin I]

If you want to leave, fine. Please don't feel the need to tear down others on your way out.

I concur.

Anyway I must admit that I felt the same way as Slickster a couple of weeks ago. I internalized a lot of this board and was doing quite well with women and my life in general. I stopped reading the board at all for a couple of weeks.


Then I hit a bump in the road with one of the girls I'm seeing and I am right back on this board with a vengeance.

The moral for me is - take what you can get from the board and use it. Work on improving your life as a whole. That may mean coming to the board less. There's always a balance to be struck in anything that you do.

Personally we should be glad to have the board as a resource but must be sure to not let it become a hinderance.

 

[Bonhomme]

Reasons for not leaving...

I've learned a lot, too.

But all the better to advise others.

Why leave when the stuff I have to contribute is *so much better* than before?

And there are always new things to learn.

 

[CLOONEY]

Slickster, take care, and I am glad you have come to your own conclusions.

I also said I was leaving, and I did for a few months, because this site has a lot of insecure little boys (that may include 40 year old "men"). A lot of bitter people, and my advice to them through LOTS of experience just gets flamed most of the time, because they are bitter. With the break I got my sh*t together, and now I am back trying to help those who are willing to listen. Although I only read the site a few minutes every couple of days and look for worthy posts. As I can ususally tell someone who is bitter and has the narrow mindset.

Good luck, and hope everything goes well in life. Take care of yourself mate.

Matt

 

[tracy Jaks]

if your leaving why post? your gunna see the replies.
a second thought,
yea you might want to leave, you may be a better person for it. You may get some girls, you may meet the love f your life.

but

You will be back, the moment you go through a barron patch, you will be right back her looking for the answers.

And the answers are here.

i challenge anybody to find me somebody who has left this site and not came back. At least once. Except people who have been sent down for life or sold ther computer.

This site is a lifeline for people like you Slick,like me,even eople like universe. Get out what you can from this site yes, and put it back in. The moderators spend a lot of time giving us information.

Information that is vital for us to become better people.

 

[matius]

Close the thread already.

 

[es_mer8]

I've learned so much from this site its almost uncanny. Within a few days I turned from AFC chump to getting ****loads of numbers (6 in a week and a half is a ****load to me) from hot girls that I never thought I would get. Its helped me become a better person in general.

As for MOTU, I didn't feel he rewrote the bible. He just offered a different approach that I now officially disagree with but thats in the respective thread and I'm awaiting his reply.

My advice is get OUT! You are wasting your time here. Learn what you can but realize that this DJ game is not magic or a complicated thing

I realized this much but why tell us that? We can do other things besides talk to women and work. For the most part when I'm on this site, I'm downloading music so I'm almost always doing something productive online. I agree about weekend nights going out.

Those "Master DJ's" though some seem very wise must have sad lives. How could you spend that much time here and lead a normal life

I never understood the correlation between post count and having a life. I spend maybe about an hour here a day (unless I got something long to post) but my posts per day make it look like I'm here at least 3 hours a day. You're assuming a lot with this statement.

 

[RKTek]

Those "Master DJ's" though some seem very wise must have sad lives. How could you spend that much time here and lead a normal life? You have to be either unemployed, really bored, or very stupid as to not have this stuff sink in before you reach that point. The tendency here is to overanalyze and debate every little thing, and that is just sad.

Yes...the pain. The PAIN of sadness, which permeates every time I post here. And my so-called life. I have my laptop connected to my cel-phone so that wherever I go, I am connected to this site 100% of the time. It's a good thing my unemployment compensation covers "Chronic Stupidity" for the rest of my life. 'Sigh'. As far as overanalyzing, what do you mean by that? Are you saying that analysis is a bad thing? Or do you really want overanalysis so subconsciously deride it yet want it for yourself? Hmmm, let me analyze this some more....


LOL.

Actually, I'm grateful to the crowd here for lifting me up not only in the beginning when I first lurked, then began posting here, but for those times in the recent past when I stumbled. To me, posting to answer even the most clueless 'newbie' is simply 'giving back'. If my own experience is an indicator, most newbies are completely bewildered. As we've discussed numerous times, the ideas and "DJ Way" are often 180 degrees out of sync with modern feminist society. New guys coming here have a LOT to digest. Even reading the DJ Bible is so new as to be unbelievable, so they post here as a reassurance. At least I did.

As far as my job, which I do have, I'm lucky enough to have access to a computer and the luxury of occasionally taking a small break to visit this and other sites* to read, post and visit. As with most people, I'm occasionally sad in my life, but for the most part lead a full and happy one.

* my other interests, which include visiting other Internet bulletin boards to read and post, includes: 4x4 Jeep backwoods exploring, match rifle target shooting, photography, carpentry, machine-metal working.

Good luck in your life, too.

 

[georgie24]

its a good site, just dont post if you dont want.

 

[Chrispy]

You can't just go to piano lessons without practicing and expect to play like a superstar.

So use this site for lessons/advice, unplug from it and go out there and practice and apply.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Normally I ignore the "goodbye and farewell" type posts (70%+ of the time they come back chastened, btw..)

I lurked a long time.

Then I had to post, had to ask a question. So I had to register.

I posted occaisionally and really relied on a number of MDJs and SDJs and just a bunch of other DJs. Invaluable. I mixed it up with a few people in flames (I hate doing that usually since it's dumb-ass posturing mostly---but state a coherent disagreement and you get my attention.)

And I heard the same question or the same issue addressed repeatedly.

The repitition is important. It drills the info into your head, and this is invaluable, especially when an MDJ or SDJ or any ol' DJ takes the time to answer honestly with what he knows.

I often read the old posts and the new posts on an old issue and appreciate the nuance and the variety with which various DJs speak on a subject.

For newbies that haven't even bothered to lurk long enough to figure basic shyt out, I get annoyed just like the next guy ("what's an "AFC"....) and I refer them to the bible. I'm not going to be the solution to your laziness...and no one else here will either.

But I will answer newbie questions when the guy has worked at it, puts it up honestly and I'm not seeing the issue discussed (or the obvious stated) like it had in the past.

This "giving back" I didn't understand when I read it before, but now I do---because I can think of the MDJs and the SDJs and the other DJs that answered my basic questions (or questions someone else asked that I said "me too!" when reading in the past.)

So, sure, Slickster, you're better than us. You don't have a sad life. You get everything the first time. You don't need to give back. And we appreciate the heartfelt "guhbye losers!", too.

It's been sweet knowin' ya. I fully back up RKTek's and Georgie's take (and others) on this...and see you in 2 months when you return.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Something else I noticed...

The MDJ or SDJ status used to be based on the number of posts. Then the Mods switched to the quality and type of participation and the number of posts that a register contributed here (I don't think they have a formula, it's probably a consensus decision thru informal discussion and they haven't really revealed how they determine this...)

But lately jealous and resentful sorts will take swipes at posters here for "1000+ posters" etc.

WTF?

Or we're called "know it alls" etc. (some retard poster tossed this out recently...to which I would reply--I say what I want and how I want to say it and I don't like equivocating or qualifying it so no one gets offended--fvck you if you can't handle it.)

The MDJ / SDJ status really means nothing in context of what is posted. An MDJ / SDJ / DJ offers what he / she thinks.

That's it. Period.

The title or number of posts doesn't add or subtract from what they say. I see MDJs and Mods ask "how did I get so fvcked in this situation and what do I do about it"-type questions just the same as any newbie.

And I've seen newbies with 8 posts to their credit offer great advice.

Some MDJ / SDJs I love reading, even if I don't agree with their posts. Others never really get my attention, and we've both been posting here 2+ years. Certain DJs will always say something engaging and interesting, others I skim thru at light speed.

What does that mean? If you pay attention to the "MDJ" or "SDJ" or even newbie status, that's your problem. And it is a problem---you have your head up your ass and are not hearing clearly what people have to offer here.

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If this continues, I would suggest to the Mods that we remove the number of posts and ranking. This would force it back to what is said, not who says it. That would be a pity since I generally love seeing that sort of data...

 

[Demon]

lol

 

[trajhenkhet]

This site, as I mentioned in an earlier post, was the starting point of change for me. I feel it in myself to help others with what I know. I would not post if I didn't see it with my own eyes the difference it made in my social life. I can see the results. It is the least I can do to help my fellow man and thank this site. If one likes what I post thats dandy like candy, if not thats fine like wine. Ultimately it is oneself that does the change but I think it would be a great disservice to forget where it started...

Happy hunting

 

[drZaius09]

I wish I had a dime for every "I'm leaving this board" cry-for-attention post.

I got news for you, Slick. Life is a constant learning process. If you ever think you've discovered all there is to know, then you are even more ignorant than those who've discovered nothing. Yes, you DO have to go out there and experience life for yourself. Speaking purely from my own standpoint, I have more than enough time to post here AND work AND get out in the field on a regular basis. How long do you think the average poster spends on this forum every day? For me it's less than an hour, sometimes more because I might stay logged on while I'm working. You make it seem as if this board is a tedious, prohibitive monster which consumes all time and energy for further activity.

This is a community. I enjoy the comaraderie and the wit and the genuine concern to help others. Maybe you are just a selfish pr1ck, but for me, even if I were a friggin' zen DJ Master I would still come here to help others achieve the same.