Texting Frequency with new chicks

[Bwub60]

Ok I am a noob AFC who is trying so bare with me. I have 1 girl I like more than the rest(I am seeing 2 others). She is getting a divorce and we have been seeing each other for a few weeks. No sex yet but everything else. I am getting sexual in person and over the phone and its about to happen.

That being said we text every day. I try to keep it to a minimum but she keeps coming. Should I space out how long it takes to respond? Take a day off from time to time? I am lost and looking for guidance.

 

[Clamslammer]

Are you texting her first or is she texting you first.?

 

[Bwub60]

Most of the time her first but not always.

 

[CBear]

Here for advice as well. When I meet a new chick and everything is going well, they always reach out and text nonstop. I reply twice or 3 times a day since I tend to be busy but at the same time I want to keep interest high but this constant texting gets annoying after a while and I just flat out ignore. Some times, these are chicks from OLD whom I've never even went on a date with or haven't been able to yet, especially now since I'm too focused on my major as well as bodybuilding. My guess is its probably something we have to deal with. Just make sure to never overdue it and set things up as soon as you can.

 

[greatsnake]

You can text but keep it at a minimum and when you text, your goal should be to get laid.

By you reaching out, it gives her the satisfaction that she has your attention. The less attention you give her, thr probability of her reaching out increases.

 

[flowtheory]

From my understanding it’s okay to do a couple messages a day, but the goal is to be setting up date within those messages. Mystery is kept alive that way and contact is still intact.

I don’t ever think that should change either, if she wants to talk that bad she can call to talk or then set up a date with the man

 

[MrWood]

ignore Thursday evenings until late, and Fri-Sun night...
the # of messages you get from X,Y,Z chix reveal the interest if you can deal with flakes and low interest fades

its a good honeypot on your firewall

 

[Mr Wright]

I wouldn't read too much into messaging habits, I find it's not where things are won and lost. But since you asked, all the girls I'm seeing know they may not hear back from me for up to 24 hours and not one of them has ever kicked up a fuss about it. If I get a text after 8pm, chances are unless it's particularly interesting to me I won't reply until the next day in the late morning. 4 messages a day is manageable. But of course you want to be getting her alone so that should be the aim of your messages.

 

[Clamslammer]

Quit this texting back and forth all day crap, she is not your girlfriend. You should be setting the date. If she is texting you first her interest level must be high as hell but most likely she is an emotional train wreck due to her divorce and is looking for a quick emotional fix so be careful and protect yourself.

When she texts send a few messages back and forth and set the date. Do not contact again, then go see her on the date and talk then. Her interest level will be sky high when she sees you because you didnt sit there texting throughout the week like most guys do trying to keep her interest because your scared she might lose it. If she reaches out after you set the date then answer her and also tell her "I can't wait to see you on such and such date." This will do two things: 1. You replied to her text message and were not a **** by not answering. 2. You reassured her about the date you set up.

 

[Bwub60]

Appreciate the advice guys.

 

[ohrein]

Quit this texting back and forth all day crap, she is not your girlfriend.

I go days without texting my girlfriend. I'm convinced texting too often kills so much mystery and attraction. When you haven't seen or spoken to someone in a week, it makes the time you spend together way more meaningful. Thankfully she's not much of a social media or texter either so that works.

 

[Glassguy]

Its situational. Some women want warmed up through building rapport or they will flake on the date.

Some dont require as much pre date texting. I'm a fan of responding back when they initiate yet I try to keep it short, light and fun, as well as making my response time random.

If she opens the door for some sexting I will test the waters.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Keep texting to a minimum. Easiest way is to always make it logistical. If she talks to you about pointless ****, redirect it to the setting or going on a date.

Her: hey! how r u today?
Me: Great. Save it for <date day>.

Always try to text about the same or less length than she does. It subconsciously shows the level of investment

 

[Bwub60]

Appreciate all the info. Im trying to back off but she does text pretty regularly. She is getting to the point where she is calling quite a bit too. We have hung out 4 or 5 times now. Everything is played by ear though because of kids and her ex. Its complicated to say the least. Should I start trying to space the texting out more? I am apprehensive about this because I have been an over texter in the past. I get anxiety when dealing with women at this point if I like them. I have my issues but trying to conquer them. Its why I am here.

 

[NSX-R]

Text her an hour long read . It might work .

Duuuuuuuuude text her as you like and as you normally do . Women are not computers to use certain paterns to work . They completely the opposite of it . Have fun .