texting before asking her out

[pyros]

So I read here over and over that you should not be texting a girl trying to build rapport before you ask her out. Uhm, well.

I talk to girls everyday and more often than not, when they're 'dating' a guy, I ask how he asked her out etc, and they always tell me something along the lines:

her: "well, he texted me once blah blah, we talked blah blah. Then we kept texting for a week (or more) and then he asked me out"

I normally just text them once and ask them out, or maybe I text twice and ask them out, but it happened to me a few times that when the girl barely knows me and I ask her out she freezes. She may like me, she may be interested in getting to know me but since we barely know each other, the idea of going on a date with me is a bit too much for her, she feels uneasy, so she either rejects you, or flakes in the end.

However, all these women that told me what I wrote above, texted these guys a few times...got some information about them...created some rapport, and then the date came naturally.

Now, I met a chick that I'd like to ask her out, but we've talked 10 minutes in real life. Besides, she's 20, so I dont know if I should proceed as usual: text her once and ask her out, or go with the second approach: build some rapport via text, then ask her out.

I know this is a hot topic here but just wondering.

What are your experiences?

 

[marmel75]

Yes, that probably IS what they did because 90% of guys are dumbasses and scared to ask a woman out. So yes, its easier to text her to try and "build rapport" than it is to actually force her to make a decision.

Bottom line, if she is interested she will go out with you. If she isn't she won't.

The more you text, the worse your chances get.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Here's the Problem with Your Threads

Aside from the fact that you just keep asking the remixed version of the question. Aside from the fact that you've been on this site for four years and you've seem to picked up absolutely nothing. Aside from the fact that you claim to be f*cking other girls, but you're wondering about the random chick that isn't giving you attention. Aside from the fact that I personally, think that you're threads are "ducktales." Here's the biggest problem with your threads.

You always give us a truncated version of your dates. Here's a shorten version of a typical pryos thread.

I hit a chick up on Facebook. We corresponded for a few days and agreed to the date. Now these things happen

1) The chick never confirms the date.

2) She flakes.

3) You eff her, then you're wondering why her interest wanes.

What you did at the beginning of the interaction is going to determine what happens later in the interaction. However, with you, we never know what happens at the beginning of the interaction or during the date. Assuming that you're not lying, you're obviously doing something right, because you get to women to go out with you and you sometimes f*ck them, but we only hear about your momentary oneitis.

If you truly want cogent, good, and reliable advice, you're going to have to provide a little bit more detail as it pertains to how you met these chicks and those initial conversations. You're also going to have to say more about what happen during the date, and most importantly, you're going to have to talk about your success, so that the reader can analysis where you went right, and apply it to your current situation so you can make the right move.

As of right now, you're threads read as if you're reading from the middle of a book and you have to figure out what's going on.

 

[LMFAO]

In my book there's nothing wrong with sending her a couple of quick raport or flirty sort of texts beforehand, but the point of texting is to ask her out, so you can meet her and ultimately F*CK her. You do not want to end up as her virtual pen pal.

 

[pyros]

MaximusRex,

just stop reading my posts from now on man, you're tiring.

 

[marmel75]

Pyros, you have to admit you are still asking some pretty basic questions for having been posting for so long...

 

[Leif_Johnson]

How hard is it to say let's go out tomorrow?

 

[Comatozed]

When dealing with girls i have got numbers of through tinder, I find a slightly slower, rapport based text game works better to get dates.

When you got the number IRL i'd assume at least a bit of rapport had already been established and be more direct.

I think it can make them wonder whether you are going to ask them out. For example one girl, who i text once every 3 or 4 days but only quick exchanges, said to me 'youve had two weeks to ask me out..im not being your sloppy sevenths' after I did get round to asking her out. But she was. I could tell it was irritating her and she probably viewed me as a busy man who was trying to keep her sweet inbetween the time i got her number and the time i was available to go out, which i was.

 

[skinnyguy]

I think you will still get a higher rejection rate if you go for the kill first without building rapport. The ones I build rapport with go out with me 100% of the time

 

[Comatozed]

Also, I'd like to add... it seems to viewed as being alpha and fearless to just dive straight in and go for the date...but i don't really think women see it like that...there's nothing brave about sending a text.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is just completely false. They will meet you if they are interested in you. All that other stuff you are doing is in your mind.

Yeah you might build a little rapport and get a girl who isn't interested in you to go out, but you are wasting your time because they still won't be interested while out with you. But you run a far greater risk of saying something she doesn't like and never getting her out.

And don't text for the date...call her. It makes a huge difference in flake rates, trust me. You will stick out in a very good way because most guys will not do it.