text messages = afc?

[bfl]

what is the rule on text messages, is it a good idea or bad one?

Cause in my case thats how me and my gurl communicate thru, texts, she dont even call me no more. wich pisses me off kinda cause it affects our communication and RL.

i mean to text any other females like friends or potential fukbuddies or whatnot its cool, but with your main LTR girl??

i dont know...

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

I think they're fine but they shouldn't replace real life convos.

I use text messaging for short notes and little things. When i want to talk, i pick up the phone.


The Bad Ass Canadian

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

A woman text messages a man because she wants to ONLY give him the specifics/details and not waste her time with anything that does not involve the topic at hand - she views that taliking to you would only complicate her life through added verbalizations and requests from your end and she feels you are not worth such complications

OR - she doesn't want you ro know where she is by the sounds in the backgrounfd (possibly club/ bar) - or she doesn't want you to hear other dudes voices pleading, "Come on baby - let's do it again"

Considering that it takes longer to type a text message than a voice reply, something is going on that she doesn't want you to know!!!

Ask for assistance from the C.I.A. and track down her location through her cell phone call and the truth will be revealed!! She may be at DJ Player_Supreme's house while she is texting you that she is at the Krispy Kreme's donut shop!!

 

[4afe]

If it pisses you off that she doesnt talk on the phone. the next time she messages you message her back with "call me" or "if you really want to know you have to call me" . Something I would do, if I was you.

 

[A-Unit]

Shoving life into a confined box.

I find "semantics" and "rules" to be funny topics.


I was driving by the office of a girl I casually see whom I hadn't seen in several months with:

"I want to see you this week."

To which she replied:

"Ok. Tell me when you want me."

Done and done. During a massive snowstorm we got held in and had sex for hours.

Do they work?

If you set the frame right.

I told a girl who recently got a new cellie with picture messaging that I'd send her pics of my c0ck (we'd already hooked up) . Later that same night she messaged:

"I'm still waiting for pics of your d!ck to put on my background."


What I'm illustrating here is that if you 'frame' the interaction right, there's no 'AFC' action possible. The only time something is 'AFC' is when you're second guessing yourself, because then, you're attempting to be conscious of your actions as if you can control what other people think, or even if you care what they think.




A-Unit

 

[Jariel]

I won't go into the pros and cons. The fact is, texting has always worked for me and really helped increase interest and strengthen relationships.

So if texting is AFC, then being AFC is a good way to get women.

 

[Bonhomme]

Yes, AFC

Unless one or both of you are in a situation such as a loud concert in which you know at least one of you can't be heard or she knows beforehand that you have very limited minutes to work with and texting is more practical. Or, as Bad Ass Canadian points out, you just want to get a quick message in, and don't want to talk.

Texting generally looks weak, but a different context changes everything. If it feels weak in a certain situation, it is weak: call instead.

 

[The Rake]

I am of the persuasion that all non-face-to-face encounters with chicks tend to dilute or diminish the DJ effect you're trying to project onto women whom you're interested in bang*ng. They're weak and passive. With your cell phone, just set up the date and hurriedly say to her "We'll go out this Tuesday night; 9:00 p.m. on the dot. I gotta go! Bye!". Brief and to the point, no lingering text message for her to re-read.

 

[Tweek_1984]

I personally think it's a slightly different situation in the UK, as text messaging is the no.1 form of electronic communication here.
Everybody has a mobile these days and everybody texts.

I know girls at uni who can text faster than you can believe and they do it alot. Especially for general chit chat.

However, I also have often wondered whether text messaging all the time is afc. And to some extent, I think it is. You need to call the girl if you are arranging a date or something important, or maybe something where you know you need to talk alot. If you find yourself texting these conversations, then yes, to a certain extent that is afc behaviour. I know, because I do it.

I'm usually too puss to ring a girl, especially if I have one-itis over her.

I'm trying to get into the habit of calling people when I can. I think it makes you alot more confident, and recieving calls in public makes you look popular, which in-turn could attract the attention of other chicks.

 

[Jariel]

Tweek makes a good point. I use text messaging a lot to keep in touch, chat and flirt, and it can be quite intimate and always brings women much closer. But when it comes to messaging as an easy way of asking her out/clarifying her interest or just anything important, then it's probably going to lose you respect.

 

[nw1512]

Txt messages if structured right in the communication can enhance any relationship you have with a women.

As theres only words to comunicate so you have to convey your body language through these words.

And you have time to reply on your side, to plan what your goin to say or what your comeback is goin to be.

I use txt messages as a kind of pre-foreplay, cause if you set the dymanic up before you see her you both know whats goin to happen.

The British send 55 billion txt messages last year.
Us Aussies send 7 billion.

I realise in the US it;s only kinda catching on but if used properly it can really enhance your game.

 

[AMF]

Text messages can allow you to be creative, punchy, succinct and mysterious so long as you use them as they were intended - as a SHORT Message Service.

No rambling, no "stream of consciousness", no endless confirmation of details and arrangements.

Light-hearted, c+f, intriguing texts only, or at the very worst just SHORT and SWEET.