PeasantPlayer
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I heard it mentioned...what it the basis behind it? I want to see some examples or articles. I feel like I am doing it wrong, thanks
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Text as least as possible Bad texting kills relationships, and lets face it: there are more people that are bad at texting than there are good at it.
Only use it to get in contact for important things or to set up dates. The least you text the better.
Only use it to get in contact for important things or to set up dates. The least you text the better.
VladPatton
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Eph said:
^^This!
I'm very proficient at text game, and I can tell ya that Eph pretty much summed it up. That's really it. I guess a couple things to add would be...Eph said:
RESPONSE TIMES
Make sure it doesn't appear as if you are hanging by the phone, waiting for her text. It's best if you're actually busy, then you don't have to fake it. But if you don't have a lot going on at the moment, vary your response times: sometimes respond in ten minutes, other times take three hours. If I text a girl and she responds within a half hour or so, I'll text her back whenever I feel like... However, if she takes three hours, I'll take three to five hours to write back. After I do that, they'll usually respond within ten minutes
MESSAGE LENGTH
I generally try to keep my messages the same length as hers or shorter. Quite often I'll get a wall of text from a girl and I'll respond with a one or two-line message about making plans. Gabbing and rambling are feminine traits, we're men. If she's always sending walls of text I can't always send such short replies because it will come off as rude, so if I'm writing a longer text I'll just make sure it's never much longer than hers. It's okay to show equal text interest at times but it's never okay to write more than the girl.
No need to read any more articles on it. The rest is self-regulation. You are probably accustomed to endless fluff talk over text so if she tries to pull you in to those old behaviors, don't take the bait.
Here's how a text convo might look like for me these days.
ME INITIATING
Me: Hey, how was your weekend? Can't believe how crazy hot it is for September. Let's grab a drink later this week. What nights works for you?
Her: Hey! Weekend was great. I did blah blah blah. I can do Thursday or Friday
Me: Cool. Come by Friday at 8.
Her: See you then!
(Then I'll text her something the day of, like: "Hey can you pick up a bottle of red on your way over?")
HER INITIATING
Her: OMG! Did you see that episode of TV? I basically cried the entire time!
Me: It was crazy. Let's hang out later this week. What nights are you free?
Her: Thursday or Friday.
Me: Come by Friday at 8.
Her: Will do
COUPLE NOTES:
-Notice how I didn't engage in conversation about that TV show? Because that will give us something to talk about on the date.
-After a couple dates or whenever I know I have the hooks in this girl, I no longer ask "What nights work for you?" I just tell them, "Come over Friday at 8." If they're busy they'll counter-offer another night.
Uncharted
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Agree with all of the above. Only use texting to set up dates. Don't have long conversations.
Although I've reverted to using the phone and actually CALLING women. It helps weed out low interest. If she's at least somewhat interested she will answer the phone or call back. If not, I delete her number and move on.
Although I've reverted to using the phone and actually CALLING women. It helps weed out low interest. If she's at least somewhat interested she will answer the phone or call back. If not, I delete her number and move on.
I've had a different experience, so maybe you'd like to go a little more in depth: She answered the call immediately, even though I (now) know she really wasn't interested in the slightest. Granted we had been texting right before I (accidentally; back in those days I would have been much too nervous to call her) called her, so how does calling weed out low interest? I've had my moments of awesomeness with this ex-plate, but looking back she was never interested.Uncharted said:
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I have a whole eBook dedicated to this particular subject - and it's FREE! Just click on the link in my signature to get the eBook "Stop Texting: 10 Ways Texting Is KILLING Your Chances with Women!"
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Good to see a thread like this, I'm currently in a situation where my text game is pretty on point. She's usually the one to initiate, however I see myself slipping as far as the length of the conversation goes. I should check myself on this, only going to text to set up dates from now on. Hopefully not too much damage has been done lol. Thanks, guys.
This is all good advice. I used to send my ex "walls of text" and sometimes multiple texts before he would even answer the first. I basically said whatever came to my mind. Now I just keep texts to a minimum and the shorter the better. Calling is the way to go.
instantnoodles
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Huh? I'm still Noodles! I'd never use a name like Petra ew.TheCWord said:
And actually, I don't do what Petra does. I just imitate the guy. If the guy sends me lots of texts, i'll sends lots. Little? I'll send little.
instantnoodles
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TheCWord said:I'm very proficient at text game, and I can tell ya that Eph pretty much summed it up. That's really it. I guess a couple things to add would be...
RESPONSE TIMES
Make sure it doesn't appear as if you are hanging by the phone, waiting for her text. It's best if you're actually busy, then you don't have to fake it. But if you don't have a lot going on at the moment, vary your response times: sometimes respond in ten minutes, other times take three hours. If I text a girl and she responds within a half hour or so, I'll text her back whenever I feel like... However, if she takes three hours, I'll take three to five hours to write back. After I do that, they'll usually respond within ten minutes
MESSAGE LENGTH
I generally try to keep my messages the same length as hers or shorter. Quite often I'll get a wall of text from a girl and I'll respond with a one or two-line message about making plans. Gabbing and rambling are feminine traits, we're men. If she's always sending walls of text I can't always send such short replies because it will come off as rude, so if I'm writing a longer text I'll just make sure it's never much longer than hers. It's okay to show equal text interest at times but it's never okay to write more than the girl.
No need to read any more articles on it. The rest is self-regulation. You are probably accustomed to endless fluff talk over text so if she tries to pull you in to those old behaviors, don't take the bait.
Here's how a text convo might look like for me these days.
ME INITIATING
Me: Hey, how was your weekend? Can't believe how crazy hot it is for September. Let's grab a drink later this week. What nights works for you?
Her: Hey! Weekend was great. I did blah blah blah. I can do Thursday or Friday
Me: Cool. Come by Friday at 8.
Her: See you then!
(Then I'll text her something the day of, like: "Hey can you pick up a bottle of red on your way over?")
HER INITIATING
Her: OMG! Did you see that episode of TV? I basically cried the entire time!
Me: It was crazy. Let's hang out later this week. What nights are you free?
Her: Thursday or Friday.
Me: Come by Friday at 8.
Her: Will do
COUPLE NOTES:
-Notice how I didn't engage in conversation about that TV show? Because that will give us something to talk about on the date.
-After a couple dates or whenever I know I have the hooks in this girl, I no longer ask "What nights work for you?" I just tell them, "Come over Friday at 8." If they're busy they'll counter-offer another night.
Proficient?? :crackup:
Maybe you were in the beginning. After that, she realized your tricks. Notice how her responses are brief towards the end?
Something I would do
I never let ANYONE -repeat- ANYONE sh1t me! IDGF who you are!
Up your Text Game, my Son!
Um, it was a made up conversation to show how my side of the conversation would go.instantnoodles said:Proficient?? :crackup:
Maybe you were in the beginning. After that, she realized your tricks. Notice how her responses are brief towards the end?
Something I would do
I never let ANYONE -repeat- ANYONE sh1t me! IDGF who you are!
Up your Text Game, my Son!
You really need to start making sense.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
Eph said:
Here's why I call:
1. If she doesn't answer (or doesn't call back) she is obviously not interested.
2. I can find out IMMEDIATELY whether or not she can make a date. If she isn't directly accepting a date then she's not interested. I'm not texting and waiting minutes (or hours) for her to text back.
3. I can tell by her voice if she's actually interested and can gauge whether or not she will flake.
4. I usually start the conversation on another topic, that way she enters my "good" frame" and it demonstrates that I'm fun to be with. I get her laughing then transition to "so hey let's do..."
instantnoodles
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TheCWord said:
No you do. What kind of made up conversation is THAT? :crackup: