Text game and younger girls

[bacchus]

I've been working on my text game because it sucks. I'm single in my 30s after ending a 7 year relationship. The last time I was single, we actually used to CALL a woman for dates and there wasn't this back and forth texting bullshyte after you meet her. Unfortunately, as a gentleman who prefers ladies in the early 20s age bracket, I've been finding it's a hard transition from a bar meet to a first date without texting in between. So as much as texting can be a time waster for a busy guy like myself, I feel that becoming proficient at it has become pretty important. Thoughts?

Also as an aside I met this HB8 last night that is right up my wheelhouse (21 years old, tight body, cute smile, perky). I'll post pics of her and a field report after our first date if anyone can help me craft a killer text message reply to this mild sh1t test I just got thrown. My hungover brain can't think right now lol:


Bacchus (2 minutes after meeting her in the bar and leaving to go to another bar): So I met this cute girl named Isabella tonight and she couldn't stop flirting with me

Isabella: I met a cute guy but I forgot his name

Bacchus: Haha we're off to a good start little lady!! It's Bacchus

Isabella: I was actually thinking it was something like that! Sorry

Isabella: My friend said that you work tomorrow, you're gonna be tired

Bacchus: Lol nope I'm off tomorrow

Bacchus: And you should be very sorry for forgetting my name!! That'll be two fancy dinners that you'll have to take me to now

(while flirting with her in the bar, I was joking with her that she'll have to wine and dine me before she gets anywhere with me)

Isabella: Lucky you, I have to be up at 10 for work! I am sorry though, I didn't mean to You're the one that should be taking me to a fancy dinner though, and then maybeeee I will take you

What do I text back fellas????

 

[Married Buried]

I've been working on my text game because it sucks. I'm single in my 30s after ending a 7 year relationship. The last time I was single, we actually used to CALL a woman for dates and there wasn't this back and forth texting bullshyte after you meet her. Unfortunately, as a gentleman who prefers ladies in the early 20s age bracket, I've been finding it's a hard transition from a bar meet to a first date without texting in between. So as much as texting can be a time waster for a busy guy like myself, I feel that becoming proficient at it has become pretty important. Thoughts?

Also as an aside I met this HB8 last night that is right up my wheelhouse (21 years old, tight body, cute smile, perky). I'll post pics of her and a field report after our first date if anyone can help me craft a killer text message reply to this mild sh1t test I just got thrown. My hungover brain can't think right now lol:


Bacchus (2 minutes after meeting her in the bar and leaving to go to another bar): So I met this cute girl named Isabella tonight and she couldn't stop flirting with me

Isabella: I met a cute guy but I forgot his name

Bacchus: Haha we're off to a good start little lady!! It's Bacchus

Isabella: I was actually thinking it was something like that! Sorry

Isabella: My friend said that you work tomorrow, you're gonna be tired

Bacchus: Lol nope I'm off tomorrow

Bacchus: And you should be very sorry for forgetting my name!! That'll be two fancy dinners that you'll have to take me to now

(while flirting with her in the bar, I was joking with her that she'll have to wine and dine me before she gets anywhere with me)

Isabella: Lucky you, I have to be up at 10 for work! I am sorry though, I didn't mean to You're the one that should be taking me to a fancy dinner though, and then maybeeee I will take you

What do I text back fellas????

You are doing good. ENOUGH texting at this point. Name a restaurant/bar and a time tomorrow and tell her to meet you there.

 

[cordoncordon]

You: We will see about that. Meet me at xxx place at xxx time on xxx day. Don't be late cause' it's a date! See you then Izzy.

Her: Okkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

 

[TheCWord]

Yeah it seems to be going well though, for future ref, texting so much - especially same night of meet - can be treacherous waters.

I like to send the "ice breaker" text same night of meet and not text again for a couple of days, regardless of if she replies to the ice breaker.

The goal, as always, is to stick to using texts as a means of setting up plans only (or, as much as possible). You can only do damage in text message convos. There's no story out there of a guy building attraction via text (unless you've done so by ignoring her texts and never initiating, but that's a story for another thread).

 

[zekko]

There's no story out there of a guy building attraction via text

I've done it. I'm good at it though - it's just a matter of putting your personality through via the texting.

If you're not good at it, you can always just not do it. Many guys on here advise not to use texting, so I don't think it's a necessary thing. I do think it's the most common way people communicate these days, however (aside from in person), so you may be putting yourself at a slight disadvantage.

Usually there is no such thing as only one right answer. Everybody doesn't have to take the same path. Some guys are good at playful texting (like myself), some are good at playing colder and not texting at all. Or you can only use text to make plans, like CWord says.

 

[evan12]

Text is good for some one have lack of social skills it give him a time to prepaire a good answer , it also good start with strange girls because they feel more comfortable texting than talking .
in general be light and dont answer every text , give impression you are busy , or esle theyll think you are sitting on your bed all the day texting .
a lot of time women text me at work time I never reply and wait until night and I never seen one of them upset because that . saying I was/am busy is DHV for a man

 

[bacchus]

Used Cordoncordon's reply yesterday and still no reply. Ah well... younger girls are frustratingly flaky. It's too bad because I do quite well once I get them on that first date. Unfortunately in my experience I'm finding it's hard to get that date with the HB8s and up without wasting time I don't have on pointless text banter...

The price I pay for going after hot young poon I suppose...

 

[Married Buried]

Used Cordoncordon's reply yesterday and still no reply. Ah well... younger girls are frustratingly flaky. It's too bad because I do quite well once I get them on that first date. Unfortunately in my experience I'm finding it's hard to get that date with the HB8s and up without wasting time I don't have on pointless text banter...

The price I pay for going after hot young poon I suppose...

I wouldn't give up this easy. Sure, she is riding 5 other ****s right now but try to give her a call and see what's up. No more texting and waiting for a reply though

If she answers, just make the convo brief.

Tell her that you're busy, you can't talk but you want to see her and tell her when, where and what you're going to do. Tell her that you need an answer now. The whole thing should take you 10 seconds, 15 tops.

 

[Crissco]

You: We will see about that. Meet me at xxx place at xxx time on xxx day. Don't be late cause' it's a date! See you then Izzy.

Her: Okkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

On younger girls, never use the word "date" Girls would rather it be a "hang out" instead of a date. Date is to much pressure :rockon:

 

[cordoncordon]

On younger girls, never use the word "date" Girls would rather it be a "hang out" instead of a date. Date is to much pressure :rockon:

I agree with that but in this case I used it because it's a fun little saying that rhymes and might appeal to her younger, girlish persona. The line before that more or less explained that it was just a hangout.

Regardless, the reason she didn't respond wasn't because of that. If she was really into it she would be jumping at the chance to go out with OP even if he said they were going to walk a fire pit together. The reason why she didn't respond? Who the hell knows what goes through these little girls minds. Probably broke a nail that day or had to watch Glee.

I would try one more time OP, maybe in a week or so. Don't text before that. Just ask how she is doing. IF she responds, try to work that into getting together with her. IF she doesn't, delete her from your life.

 

[tryst type]

The best approach to texting is to create light tension in the sense of teasing/pushing her away as to make her want more.

Most of the guys she's texting is doing the opposite. They're being pushy and unoriginal. Communicate you're having fun with her out of boredom (to create a sense that you don't really care how she responds, you're not attached you're just entertaining yourself.) Don't be explicit. Answer questions without answering them directly.

When you're at the peak of texting and its fun, strike. The best way to get a girl to hang out is misinterpreting. I've said this before and ill say it again, turn any text around into a misunderstood question or statement.

Her last text about suggesting you taking her out to dinner
You: Look if you want to cook for me just say so, just don't kidnap me because you think Im extremely attractive. We should meet somewhere for drinks first so I have an easy escape just in case

 

[Married Buried]

Looks like good old cordon bombed with his attempt at giving the OP a good text message.

Don't send it so fast next time OP, we could have made it much better.

 

[Crissco]

I noticed, since im 25, and date in all age ranges from 18-40..The younger onces respond the best to push/pull...Give her a little bit, take some back...Tease her, bust on her, give her nick names...

She sends you a picture, dont respond right away, wait 10 min, im positive she'll text you in 5 asking if you like it or not.


Edit ^^Thyst hit the nail on the head, haha.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I've done it. I'm good at it though - it's just a matter of putting your personality through via the texting.

If you're not good at it, you can always just not do it. Many guys on here advise not to use texting, so I don't think it's a necessary thing. I do think it's the most common way people communicate these days, however (aside from in person), so you may be putting yourself at a slight disadvantage.

Usually there is no such thing as only one right answer. Everybody doesn't have to take the same path. Some guys are good at playful texting (like myself), some are good at playing colder and not texting at all. Or you can only use text to make plans, like CWord says.

I basically agree with Zekko here, although I will add that it seems that older men are far better at playing with fire than younger guys, simply because we have lived a lot more and are able to nuance it.

Texting is an extremely dangerous game because it puts her under zero pressure (inviting her moods to come into play), it is open to misinterpretation, and it makes you common, just like her girlfriends.

Generally speaking, long texting exchanges diminish your value in her eyes extremely rapidly. Don't be her girlfriend. You're a busy man with little time to play with texting. Extremely short texts designed to excite her imagination about you and what you're doing can be effective, but chit-chat will kill her attraction for you faster than you can type the word, "LOL".