test???? what do i do

[excel]

ok well there is this girl i'm getting to know better and we talk a bit and on the weekends sometimes get together... i never call her out of the blue though... she always asks me to call her so we can do something.. when she tells me to call i call like 60% of the time and always make sure i call a good few hours after she tells me to. here's my question though, i told her tonight to give me a call later and we'll do something but she said no, u give me a call later... why does she insist on me calling her? is this a test? if so.. what should i do?

thanks boyz

 

[Unbridled_1]

Mahon,

Some girls believe it is proper protocol for a guy to do all the calling, unless they are in a relationship. They do not want to appear overly interested / aggressive/ unladylike. It's just the way it is with some girls, it's neither a good or bad sign.

 

[htemorp]

a girl told me once, if they're interested, they'll tell you to call them, if not, they'll say "I'll call you."

So I take it as a positive sign.

 

[Starman]

I would bust her on this a little bit and say "Ohh What? you are too good to spend 5cents and give me a call? if you want I'll pay you a wooden nickel"

Yes women like to be pursued..and thats fine..but at some point she should be reciprocating to show mutual interest..and that you arent just her little puppy dog following her around.

 

[excel]

alright well it's too late to pull out that line but i'll rmember it for next time... so u guys recommend not calling? that's what i'm thinking

 

[RazzleDazzle]

Tell her to call when it's her life getting in the way and vice versa. For example, let's say you have to change the oil in your car and do a few other chores. She on the other hand doesn't really have much to do that day so you should be the one calling because your life is what's holding the call up. This isn't a bad thing by any means. If a woman won't call because of some idiotic unladylike crap than introduce her to the new millenium. Women complain all the time about equality, yet they pick what they want to be equal about. I say men deserve more rights until a women fills out a draft card when she hits 18. But i stray. Tell her to call you at a specific time. If you have tried that then straight up ask her why? Unless your out for some putty tang, than you can bend the rulez.

 

[TesuqueRed]

How about not even letting it get to the phone-call stage???

No more "if you're not doing something this weekend, give me a call.."

Make a plan--a firm plan, no options--and ask her out. If she can't make it and doesn't counter-offer, don't waste any more time and next her.

If she counter-offers, refuse (you're busy, right? you're not just hanging out looking for something to do anymore...) and come back immediately with a second plan a a day out from what she planned (yes, you have to think of back up stuff here.)