Telling a girl you want to kiss her in the middle of an embrace... Yay or nay?

[Shivastorm_88]

Say I hug a girl, then pull my head back, call her to name to grab her attention and tell her something simple like: "Right now I really want to kiss you" or "I feel like kissing you". Would that be a good way to break the ice and get into kissing comfort zone?

Please note: I know already most of you guys will tell me to just go for it and kiss her instead of saying it. I wish I had the balls for that. Right now I don't, and I will either A) Freeze up, B) Hesitate so much that it'll make it very awkward or C) combination of both

 

[Joshski]

You can ask her "what would you do if I kissed you right now?" When she starts answering, kiss her.

 

[Chickfight]

Nah, just let it happen. Saying something is likely to turn the tension into awkwardness.
Best way is to go sit down on a bench or something with her. Put your arm around her, slow down your talking, enjoy the long pauses in conversation, look into her eyes and smile. You will feel the moment if you let yourself relax. If you're feeling it, she'll feel it too. Then lean in and let the magic happen.

Also, I find it helps to crack a joke afterwards, or even just say something like "that was fun" with a devious smile, even a little neg works like " wow, your lips are dry" PLAYFULLY to show it's just another days work to you. It will surely add to future win.

Edit: note that the tension you feel is a good thing, you just have to become comfortable with it and ride that tension.

Oh and and I'm also talking about when you're hanging out with a girl and you're both mostly sober, not in a club.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Never, ever verbalize it. It's weak.

Here's a tip that is golden and will take away your uncertainty:

When your face is close to hers, and you see her eyes darting down to your lips and back up, you have an absolute green light to move in for the kiss. When she glances at your lips several times she is thinking one thing only...that she wants to kiss you. Take this one to the bank.

 

[Young Juan]

I would ONLY do that as a tease and would NOT say "want" rather, I'd say something like, "You know what? I really feel like kissing you right now....guess which lips? " or "I kinda feel like kissing you right now...but then again, I also kinda don't, lol =)" or "I really feel like kissing you right now, but that would be too cliche..." Then kiss her like 10 - 15 seconds later unexpectedly.

The key (should be redundant by now) is confidence and having the balls to follow the gut of your pimp hand. You want to kiss her? Then fvcking kiss her! If you're a good kisser (learn how to work BOTH your lips and tongue and keep your lips soft and moist (huh huh, huh huh - Beavis, he said softh and moist), girls WILL NOT STOP YOU! They may hesitate for the first few seconds, but thats ONLY because she's surprised, excited, exhilarated, and thinking a million things a minute cuz thats what girls do. Also, most girls like to kiss MORE THAN GUYS! Honestly? Going back as far as I can remember, even before I knew anything about how to handle women, I've only been pushed away once after a kiss, and even then, she double dipped. I'm talking about 1 time out of a good 40 - 50+ first attempts.

I'm a funny dude so a bit of my game is based on fvcking with chicks, leading em one direction and then pulling the rug out from underneath them, lol. When girls starts laughing and hitting me on the arm (girl kino!) I know I'm in like Flynn. It's pretty much iso-ing and then make my move after that.

 

[runner83]

Never, ever verbalize it. It's weak.

Here's a tip that is golden and will take away your uncertainty:

When your face is close to hers, and you see her eyes darting down to your lips and back up, you have an absolute green light to move in for the kiss. When she glances at your lips several times she is thinking one thing only...that she wants to kiss you. Take this one to the bank.

Yes, never ask.

Do instead.

Get over the fear and just do it!

 

[BBbardot]

don't say it. It's weird and awkward

 

[shizz702]

Never say it, just go for it when the feeling is right. Sometimes the feeling may not even be right and it is just time to make your move. By verbalizing it, not only does that come off weak and show a lack of confidence, but you are also giving her a choice and if she declines, it is all downhill from there.

What I like to do after the first couple of dates (if I don't get a kiss by the 3rd date I move on) is test the waters by hugging her good bye and holding the hug for a second as she pulls back and establish eye contact, by doing that it is pretty evident if she wants it or not.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

I have a habit of grabbing them on the back of the neck, then going for it.

Try it; they will love your courage.

 

[Shivastorm_88]

Say I hug a girl, then pull my head back, call her to name to grab her attention and tell her something simple like: "Right now I really want to kiss you" or "I feel like kissing you". Would that be a good way to break the ice and get into kissing comfort zone?

Please note: I know already most of you guys will tell me to just go for it and kiss her instead of saying it. I wish I had the balls for that. Right now I don't, and I will either A) Freeze up, B) Hesitate so much that it'll make it very awkward or C) combination of both

Alright so I guess I really should go for the kiss instead of telling her I want to do it... It's true, when I think about it the main reason I have a problem with that is the fear of rejection. Then again, either way I can end up being rejected, so might as well take the more direct route. And I'm pretty sure this will earn more respect then saying I want to do it, simply because I take charge and go for what I want.

I guess another reason I wanted to do it this way initially is because of the habit of seeing the "perfect kiss moment" that you always see in Hollywood movies, and what has been suggested won't exactly be "the perfect moment"... I got to get this illusion out of my head -_-

Anyways, hopefully I won't choke! I need to get more balls hahah

 

[shizz702]

Another thing to consider too, in my experience it is quite common to just get a peck on one of the first dates when going for that fist kiss. I am willing to accept that. So what I do when that happens is on the next date when I kiss her goodbye, if it is just another peck I'll joking say "You ain't getting off that easy!" and go for a real one. This has worked really well for me.

 

[betheman]

Im surprised an adult male has to ask this question, if she is looking into your eyes and or at your lips, just get stuck in

 

[Franky Four Fingers]

Grab her by the hair bend her over the couch bleep her up the wahoo THEN kiss her when your done.

Just kidding.

 

[Packers2010]

i just put my hand on the chin a pull there lips towards me. i don't need permission i just do it.

if she pulls away or something like that no biggie

 

[shizz702]

if she pulls away or something like that no biggie

Yep and I just look at it like this, if she isn't cool with it and rejects, oh well, I guess she just ain't that interested cause if she was she wouldn't do that, so you just move on.

Something to think about when it comes to making these first moves too, is if you don't make them, or hesitate for too long, you will just end up in that dread friend zone and be told you are a nice guy.

So be a man, and make your move, very unlikely she'll make it for you.

 

[DonJuanit0]

You can ask her "what would you do if I kissed you right now?" When she starts answering, kiss her.

Imagine her trying to say: "I would kick you in the nuts"!

haha

Just go for it dude... It's just a kiss Look her in her eyes get a bit closer and you'll understand by her reactions... It's better than asking and ruining the moment!

 

[Huffman]

So a pair of jeans is even better than an asian escort?

On the topic. Why is it a bad idea? Listen to what you're REALLY saying.
"I want to kiss you right now" MEANS
"I want to kiss you right now[, but am too shy, and too afraid to even try]"
to which she will respond
"uhh.. err...[are you seriously telling me that you are too dumb to kiss me? man what a loser... its your job]"
"that's sweet... [let's go shopping and watch chick flicks together]"

So always go by the rule: Never ask a question where you cannot afford the answer! In any case, even after saying something, you still have to go for it. So whatever you say, it won't get any better.

 

[Atom Smasher]

She dreams of her knight in shining armour just taking her forcefully and kissing her passionately. What do you think she's been reading and LOVING in those romance novels she's been reading all her life?

Take her like the guy on the cover of her novels, lol.

 

[Jeffst1980]

Don't ask her- there's no way to "test the waters." You have to man up and try it.

Keep in mind that a girl may turn you down the first try, but then let you kiss her the next. Girls are programmed to be resistant to escalation initially.

If you try to kiss her and get rejected, it's actually a good opportunity to build some attraction, if you keep your cool. Say something like, "That's cool- I'll get you eventually"- and mean it, ****y smile and all. Then, change the subject and diffuse the situation.

Most guys get so flustered and embarrassed when they get rejected that the girl instantly loses all attraction for them. Don't do that- don't ever apologize for acting like a man! You'd be surprised how a girl's opinion of you will often change if you can handle rejection without getting thrown off track--you are essentially passing the ultimate s#it test.

 

[DonJuan11]

Say I hug a girl, then pull my head back, call her to name to grab her attention and tell her something simple like: "Right now I really want to kiss you" or "I feel like kissing you". Would that be a good way to break the ice and get into kissing comfort zone?

Please note: I know already most of you guys will tell me to just go for it and kiss her instead of saying it. I wish I had the balls for that. Right now I don't, and I will either A) Freeze up, B) Hesitate so much that it'll make it very awkward or C) combination of both

''I feel like kissing you'' is semi creepy. If you use that line what's keeping you from saying ''I really want to touch your genitals''. It doesn't work bro. You have to naturally let things happen. SLOW SLOW SLOW. Get her warmed up first. Get her on a bed and massage her first, tease her, touch her, the basics.

If you FREEZE UP and GET NERVOUS, you haven't done your homework and its not natural. She'll think you don't deserve her and you are trying to trick her into kissing you.