"Tell me something about yourself"

[Die Hard]

I've been getting this question a lot lately when I meet someone for the first time.

I don't need to say much to get a girl into me, I just go through the basics of where we live, what kind of job we have etc. Apart from that, I focus heavily on kino, eye contact and being ****y&funny. I've become very good at this over the years, it doesn't take long to make them drop their guard and fall for me, so to speak.

But then they often look at me with puppy eyes and ask: "Tell me something about yourself..."
And to be honest I don't know what the fvck to say to that!

I often tell them to be more specific, but then they always reply: "Just tell me whatever you want, just something you want me to know about you..." and they look into my eyes with huge anticipation.

What the hell should I say to that? It's really important to me coz I'm noticing a trend here, it feels like having the right response to this question is the missing puzzle piece which would make them drop their guard completely. I swear to god, I've become so good at seducing women, sometimes I can sense they're almost gonna beg me to come home with them, haha. But it seems this question is their last test before they surrender to me, so I should improve myself in dealing with this question...

Please assist, guys!

 

[Armourhead]

Make up some obviously fake stuff, like you are a porn star or you sell real estate on the moon. If they keep pressing you just tell them you like to figure out stuff on the fly and that this isn't an interview/interrogation.

It helps a lot if you are doing an active date like going for a walk with a coffee or going bowling or something like that. That way there is always something new to talk about instead of sitting at a table awkwardly talking about yourself.

 

[Fireballs]

I like the idea of not taking the question seriously and making up something rediculous. Remember it's not what you say but how you make them feeeeeeeeeeel.....

 

[ChrisFloyd]

"I don't give away personal information for free."

 

[MOTU]

I agree, be funny and absurd. Or serious and absurd. But don't take the question seriously. Think up a few good answers and commit them to memory.

 

[Die Hard]

Hmm, interesting responses so far.

Actually, I act exactly the way you guys suggest up until the moment they raise this question. As a matter of fact, I think BECAUSE I act funny/absurd, don't give away personal information, stay a mystery and just give them a good feeeeeeling....the EFFECT is they become saturated from this after a while and seem to need something more.

You know, it's like they think: "Enough of this routine...you make me laugh, you make me feel good and you're very handsome. But it's all superficial, I want to see something REAL, something personal, something of substance from you now."

Personally, I believe I should satisfy their wish a little, to lift the veil and show them a little of the real me. But just a little, of course! I think it should be 90% c0cky&funny, playing mysterious, just make her feel good...and 10% showing her something "real".

Of course, the response can still be half made up but I'd like to hear some good suggestions. A story which shows them you're a man of character, or some of your personal convictions in life, or something which shows them there is strong passion inside of you, sh!t like that....

Recently, I kept telling the girl to ask more specifically what she wanted to know about me. She replied: "Like, what is your motto in life?"

 

[MOTU]

Die Hard, how old are you?

Your response above makes me think you are trying to hard to please them. I know it's counter intuitive, but that can be a turn off for chicks.

When they say "tell me something" and then you pester them for specifics so you can make sure your answer satisfies them, it could come across as you trying to hard "tell me how to please you".

If you want to show some more noble qualities, do it with actions or by telling stories - but not in response to their questioning. Do it on your terms.

In my opinion, you should almost never ask a woman how to please them. It just doesn't work, often because what pleases their brain isn't what makes them wet.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear DieHard,
Mate you are the prize,why are you jumping through hoops for them,it just encourages inevitable contempt!

 

[logicallefty]

"I am a man of many mysteries. I'll tell you that and the rest is up to you to figure out"

 

[Slickster]

I've been getting this question a lot lately when I meet someone for the first time.

I don't need to say much to get a girl into me, I just go through the basics of where we live, what kind of job we have etc. Apart from that, I focus heavily on kino, eye contact and being ****y&funny. I've become very good at this over the years, it doesn't take long to make them drop their guard and fall for me, so to speak.

But then they often look at me with puppy eyes and ask: "Tell me something about yourself..."
And to be honest I don't know what the fvck to say to that!

I often tell them to be more specific, but then they always reply: "Just tell me whatever you want, just something you want me to know about you..." and they look into my eyes with huge anticipation.

What the hell should I say to that? It's really important to me coz I'm noticing a trend here, it feels like having the right response to this question is the missing puzzle piece which would make them drop their guard completely. I swear to god, I've become so good at seducing women, sometimes I can sense they're almost gonna beg me to come home with them, haha. But it seems this question is their last test before they surrender to me, so I should improve myself in dealing with this question...

Please assist, guys!

When you say "I don't know what to say to that" do you mean you are uncomfortable talking about yourself or you just don't have anything to say?

 

[Die Hard]

When you say "I don't know what to say to that" do you mean you are uncomfortable talking about yourself or you just don't have anything to say?

Of course I'm not uncomfortable haha. It just feels like one of those questions in a job interview, when they ask: "Why should we hire you?" and you think to yourself: "Uhhh, because I'm good? I don't know what the hell to say to that!?"

Don't misunderstand my inquiry in this thread. I see people asking me how old I am, telling me I'm jumping through hoops for the girl or telling me I'm trying too hard to please her. Gimme a break, guys... My game is solid, I'm a pretty seasoned player and can easily play the mystery card in response to a girl asking me this question. As a matter of fact, my game and confidence is so strong that I could even afford to make myself look like a complete fool answering this question WITHOUT the girl losing interest!
So can we please leave this false notion of me being insecure or too eager to please behind now?

This is about finetuning and optimizing my already solid game! Look at it this way: if you're at a job interview and they ask you an open question like "tell us why we should hire you?" you could give them a short answer like "I've been in this business a long time, I've seen it all and can handle everything this job asks for". That's basically the same as saying "coz I'm good" except you convey your message with the right tone of voice, and make sure the other person can see in your face that you're not trying to impress him, your demeanor showing that you really mean what you say.

That's cool and perhaps it will land you the job. But it's only one approach.

See, you could also make a list of your strong points, come up with some unique story highlighting past achievements you made in your work and deliver that story using eloquent words, like a poet reciting a beautiful poem, like a lawyer delivering a powerful closing argument, or a president holding a historical speech that leads his country through World War 2...
You give them a grand story detailing EXACTLY why you are the right man for the job and when you finally stop speaking, the job interviewers have been mesmerized by your words and arguments so much that they can't refuse the job even if they wanted to...

And no, taking this approach does NOT mean you're outcome dependent and trying too hard too please the girl. People with experience in sales know that a great sales pitch is not just about delivering one line very convincingly. Having a way with words and knowing how to tell a great story is a very powerful tool.

Putting lots of effort into practising these things, day in day out, perhaps even standing in front of the mirror perfecting the skill, is not a sign of weakness, outcome dependency or supplication to women. It's you getting more powerful and enabling yourself to be more succesful. What do you think succesful politicians and the like do?

So yeah, I can deliver oneliners like "I am a man of many mysteries. I'll tell you that and the rest is up to you to figure out" then look the girl in her eyes with a mixture of confidence and sexuality, stay silent and let the hamster in her brain do the rest, it works fine. But is that really all you guys have in your toolkit? It works, but it does make you kind of a one trick pony doesn't it?
I'm interested in expanding my toolkit and exploring other suggestions, perhaps more along the "tell her stories" line. Anyone who's done their SoSuave homework knows this is a great way to display your qualities: tell her stories about yourself. Like, take her on a journey through your words and your stories...

So give me some inspiration, guys. What type of stories work best? Have you noticed any qualities which have more effect than others when you display them? Any other tips and tricks which always seem to bring you great succes? Do you remember any real life examples where you had a girl eating out of the palm of your hand by telling her stories?

 

[Tenacity]

Die Hard,

When a chick asks me that, I brag. I talk about my career progression, the amount of degrees I have, my progression in fitness, the fact I live in the suburbs, how my credit score kicks a.ss, etc.

Brag and boost. Also add in there that you are romantic or affectionate, and like to spend time with a girl you are dating/in a relationship.

 

[Sprayarc]

Just be direct and tell her something, but something real. Like "I really like dogs" or "I used to have a fear off ____." or " I'm afraid of ______." Give her a bread crumb then go right back to being c0cky funny, and non serious. Push and pull my friend, but you can't just do the same ole push and pull you've been doing.

But think about it. Show a chink in your armor and share something deep, but do it rarely. This will let her guard down and give you ultimate power. Trust me, I'm an expert.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'd make her cry. Tell her a story about your puppy getting hit by a car, your dying grandma, something just tear-jerking sad.

Then go right back to making her laugh. Women want you to take their emotions on an up and down ride.

 

[Sprayarc]

I'd make her cry. Tell her a story about your puppy getting hit by a car, your dying grandma, something just tear-jerking sad.

Then go right back to making her laugh. Women want you to take their emotions on an up and down ride.

Boom. Sometimes things can be counter intuitive. Also sometimes your strength can be your greatest weakness.

 

[beforeimgone]

I've been getting this question a lot lately when I meet someone for the first time.

I don't need to say much to get a girl into me, I just go through the basics of where we live, what kind of job we have etc. Apart from that, I focus heavily on kino, eye contact and being ****y&funny. I've become very good at this over the years, it doesn't take long to make them drop their guard and fall for me, so to speak.

But then they often look at me with puppy eyes and ask: "Tell me something about yourself..."
And to be honest I don't know what the fvck to say to that!

I often tell them to be more specific, but then they always reply: "Just tell me whatever you want, just something you want me to know about you..." and they look into my eyes with huge anticipation.

What the hell should I say to that? It's really important to me coz I'm noticing a trend here, it feels like having the right response to this question is the missing puzzle piece which would make them drop their guard completely. I swear to god, I've become so good at seducing women, sometimes I can sense they're almost gonna beg me to come home with them, haha. But it seems this question is their last test before they surrender to me, so I should improve myself in dealing with this question...

Please assist, guys!

Honestly, I'd use the opportunity to bait her to ask more questions and just fvck with her. The more she tries to pin you down, the more she will end up investing her effort. Eventually she will have strong feelings towards you. It's crazy! If you would like to know more..


Read my thread:


"All it takes it two things to make her love you forever"

 

[Konada]

I'll go on a hunch and say show abit vulnerability. 'I didn't used to be like that.' And tell her abit of how you were last time and how your experiences led to you becoming the you today.

Stories of growth and realizations never fail to awe people.

 

[speed dawg]

Make up some obviously fake stuff, like you are a porn star or you sell real estate on the moon.

This is the ONLY answer here, especially on a first date. Thanks Armourhead.

Not sure what some of these other lollypops are talking about. Tell you work at a gas station, stripper, anything that is light. Do NOT talk about your career, and do NOT talk about sad sh*t.

 

[Reykhel]

Just ignore her question...

Talk about somethinge else.....something that YOU find interesting...
Or turn the question back on her....

Ignoring it will do two things..

1. You control the conversation.....ie you're not jumping through her hoop for these interview type questions which lead to a dull supplication type conversation where you're trying to impress her

2. It creates tension.....not answering her question leaves something unfinished inside her which builds tension......it will leave a need for you to come back and answer he question...."You didn't answer my question!!!!" she'll say exacberated later on....

 

[Sprayarc]

This is the ONLY answer here, especially on a first date. Thanks Armourhead.

Not sure what some of these other lollypops are talking about. Tell you work at a gas station, stripper, anything that is light. Do NOT talk about your career, and do NOT talk about sad sh*t.

I disagree completely. Nothing wrong with feigning a little vulnerability at the right times. It's part of push n pull.