Teen- Bad time to DJ

Fender

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Adolescence can really be a B*tch. Messes your mind, hormones go out of whack, etc.

I see many people here who have MORE than just girl problems- they have LIFE problems. No friends, bullying, family, confidence issues and other crazy stuff. So my advice is this-

unless your life is pretty good and smooth, don't bother dealing with chicks.

improve your life first, or else you're just wasting your time. Things like social skills, confidence, ther ability to stand up for yourself, etc. are WAAAAAY more important than macking skills. Many High schoolers are just juggling about 50 million tasks. Not smart.

I've given up TRYING to get chicks now. I'm just improving my life by increasing social skills, making friends, working out, getting better grades. If girls are interested in me, great! But otherwise, I coulnd't care less.

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Your technique could work, but my friend is macking on the "slu t" so anyways, by macking on the girls people want to be with him.

I see your point but, this could come off as AFC, in that your afraid to apporch(but i know you really don't care, so don't reply saying that you dont care)

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I agree with your post :up:

If I could just get my life sorted out than I would be happy regardless if I had a girlfriend or not.
 
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Your completely right, a lot of people here want quick fixes to their life problems just by posting a thread.
 

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Got it in one, mate! Thats what i've been saying to all my mates. They seem to think i'm 'frigid' because i haven't been with a girl before. Ever. It's because I have higher priorities. Good to see that others are like me as well. :up:
 

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Originally posted by danrizzy
Got it in one, mate! Thats what i've been saying to all my mates. They seem to think i'm 'frigid' because i haven't been with a girl before. Ever. It's because I have higher priorities. Good to see that others are like me as well. :up:
Dude, picking up girls can and is an aside to your life, but do not use your life as an excuse for not fulfilling yourself. Hell, im still a virgin, but through choice not through lack of choice. Just work on what you want, but dont totally skip out a whole section of your life.
 

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Ok, this is true. Lot's of guys can't get chicks, because they have other problems. Part of easily getting girls, is to have your lif ein order, so you can be a fun laid back guy.

There is no easy solution to any problem, except most Algebra, imo.

It takes time and effort. Good luck.
 

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Ye, I agree with you guys, "a bad life" is not an excuse for you to sit back and cr*p your pants. DO SMTHING about it!!!

But sometimes I see posts like

"I have no friends. my dad is beating me up with a club. a 7 foot dude is bullying me at school. i have some strange crazy disease that no ones ever heard about. I weigh 70/300 pounds. and i STILL CAN"T get a GIRL"

Dude, i don't really think girls are his main problem now...

prioritize. chicks aren't as important as your hormones are telling you.

-fender-
 

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and ironically by not going after girls they;ll probab;y be one that comes along that is attracted to you because you;re not going after her.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Originally posted by kidkoala
and ironically by not going after girls they;ll probab;y be one that comes along that is attracted to you because you;re not going after her.
that's not true. I hate this DJ, principle b/c it gets confusing way too easily. If you don't go after girls and wait for them to come to you. Unless you're super-model hot, you better expect to remain lonely for a long time....
 
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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
that's not true. I hate this DJ, principle b/c it gets confusing way too easily. If you don't go after girls and wait for them to come to you. Unless you're super-model hot, you better expect to remain lonely for a long time....
Duh if u just sit on ur ass hopin for the chicks to come to u, well ur chance of that hapenin is like 1 of a billion. When they say dont go after the girl they means like dont chase after them lke some desperate loser or even worst an AFC. Ur right tho alot of this is confusin becuase everybody have a different style of mackin, or aproachin, spittin game at chicks. ect. I myself get confus somtimes but as time past u will start to develope ur own style.
 

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no disrespect to anyone, but I do not feel that opinion is COMPLETELY valid. The simple fact is, learning the ways of a DJ seems to be


Improving your life.

I'm a psychology buff, so learning confidence, social skills, business skills, women skills, etc. is not only what every teenager SHOULD be learning is school, it's essential to any young person. Yes, you become a VERY busy person, but that just means you're not some idle schmuck wasting their time. Dig?
 

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I don't agree with you at all - DJing was my escape to a serious depression and depersonalization.. I had a past experience with drug use & just had random depression, too deep to go into. Yeah, so I decided to set getting girls as my goal, blah, now the summers over, school tomorrow, and I'm fcukin proud of myself. I got with 17 HB7-10s this summer.. and yeah, and I've imporved everywhere else in life. Hoping this year of school will go smooth. It all depends on your situation, some people can use women as an escape, some can't.
 

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I was just tired of being un popular, so I made friends, and ****, and I moved, adn all sorts of **** happened to me.

I found sosuave by accident, like the beggining of Summer, adn glad I found it btw.

I use my DJ skills, to be a better version of me, and to make awesome friends. Girls are a motivation, but not my biggest concern.
 

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Originally posted by benassi
I don't agree with you at all - DJing was my escape to a serious depression and depersonalization.. I had a past experience with drug use & just had random depression, too deep to go into. Yeah, so I decided to set getting girls as my goal, blah, now the summers over, school tomorrow, and I'm fcukin proud of myself. I got with 17 HB7-10s this summer.. and yeah, and I've imporved everywhere else in life. Hoping this year of school will go smooth. It all depends on your situation, some people can use women as an escape, some can't.
I would call that improving yourself... wouldn't you? :D
 
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