Talking to women who are in ‘relationships’.

[Travel memoir21]

So Ive been talking and been flirting with a few local women on Instagram and on the phone through text.

Only to find out later by checking out their pages and stories that they’re seeing someone.

Now this just makes me paranoid to ever be in a relationship here in the West now. How women can just hit you up and be in a flirtatious convo with you behind their man’s back.

This is one hook up culture we’re living in and a giant orgy too. I can picture myself going abroad to choose a mate, if I were to settle.

So I suggest screening really hard if you want to be in a relationship. Otherwise, you’re better off alone than to deal with that bs.

 

[SW15]

Yes, that stuff happens.

However, the majority of women in relationships are not seeking new penis. Most women in relationships who get asked out by new men reject them with either some oddball response or they use the classic IHAB response. I believe every man should use a boyfriend destroyer line with the IHAB. Also, let's remember that most women in relationships won't let conversations even get to be a few minutes long so as to subtly reject without outright rejecting an offer for a date.

 

[LTG71]

Attention and validation are the coins of the realm in girl world. If she respects her relationship, she will keep the conversation short. Depends on her ego, she might flirt just to get a boost, but not a quality woman if she needs constant validation from other men. Aka, attention hoe.

 

[CornbreadFed]

What @SW15 said is spot on. Op, you are just funneling down the fresh and fit low value girl rabbit hole. When you only interact with low value soft committed women then your reality starts to form around that.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I have experienced so many instances of women ‘putting aside’ their relationships for some quick D. As an example. this literary happened last week at work. A coworker (late 20’s) was to work on a project for the day with me. I was familiar with her, having met her before. She is in a relationship. The tone of the day was set when she saw me with a cup of coffee in my hand and said ‘Damn. Your hands are huge!’. (they are). During the day she brought up ‘69’ almost a dozen times. At one point I said ‘I seem to have heard that number several times today.’. She replied’ ‘That’s my favorite number.’. At another point she said ‘You’re probably good in bed.’.
I don’t perform oral secs & find the thought of carpet munching to be disgusting. So I really wasn’t tempted.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I have experienced so many instances of women ‘putting aside’ their relationships for some quick D. As an example. this literary happened last week at work. A coworker (late 20’s) was to work on a project for the day with me. I was familiar with her, having met her before. She is in a relationship. The tone of the day was set when she saw me with a cup of coffee in my hand and said ‘Damn. Your hands are huge!’. (they are). During the day she brought up ‘69’ almost a dozen times. At one point I said ‘I seem to have heard that number several times today.’. She replied’ ‘That’s my favorite number.’. At another point she said ‘You’re probably good in bed.’.
I don’t perform oral secs & find the thought of carpet munching to be disgusting. So I really wasn’t tempted.

Again, it all depends on the girls you choose to interact with. If you are hitting on girls in environments that cater to single women then yes, expect to be paranoid about being in a relationship. If you are hitting on women in more normal environments like a coffee bar or something, you are going to experience more turn downs from girls in happy relationships.

 

[johnrambo]

This is one hook up culture we’re living in and a giant orgy too. I can picture myself going abroad to choose a mate, if I were to settle.

I like the "giant orgy" analogy. Some girls are literally into orgies....pretty icky if you ask me.

Even if they are married, you can still hit them up. They'll f**k some random Chad behind the husband's back.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

I read a study talking about this on the weekend.

There's basically dark and light triad personality traits. If someone is in the dark zone then they are more promiscuous, even when in a relationship.

So like pook says 'the golden rule of women is how she treats people who have no value to her' or something like that.

 

[Dr.Suave]

H0s gonna H0

Screening and vetting are more important each day. LTRing a girl these days is the exception and not the rule. She has to check all your boxes.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Girls are looking for any excuse to get side D. I had a girl tell me : ‘My boyfriend doesn’t give me orgasms.’. I have s friend who’s wife cheated 4 times. She said she ‘wasn’t happy.’. When I was much, much younger. I had an affair (to my great shame, and I would never do sp again) with a married cougar coworker who’s husband didn’t take care of her emotionally or physically. I learned early on about women and nothing has changed in the decades since.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I read a study talking about this on the weekend.

There's basically dark and light triad personality traits. If someone is in the dark zone then they are more promiscuous, even when in a relationship.

I scored very very high on Narcissism
quite high on Machiavelli
Very low on Psychopathy.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Almost every woman you talk to has a tether to a man/men when you approach her. Never forget that, even a 6 has abundance you as an 8 at the top of your game cannot even begin to comprehend.