Talking during sex

[The Truth]

My girlfriend is very vocal when we have sex and talks dirty. She says things like "youre so big and hard" or "you feel so good inside me" and things like that. She has commented a lot of times about how quiet I am during sex and I think she is hinting for me to be more vocal. Another girl I slept with told me the same and said "there's nothing better than hearing a man getting off".

I've never been good at dirty talk and feel kinda stupid saying this kinda stuff. I have give it a try but I dont know what to say except "that feels good" or "oh god" and grunting.

Any tips on what to say and how to feel more comfortable saying it? Do most women like to hear their man make lots of noise during sex?

Please, only guys who are experienced with sex. I don't care for theories or keyboard jockey replies! Thanks

 

[BOWIE]

Oh jeeze.... one of THOSE chicks...
Sorry to hear that man. Some chicks don't realize how hard it is for a guy to perform when she's asking him to act completely unnatural. I would give it a shot but make sure you do it aggressively. The worse thing you could do is to sound insincere or uncertain while talking dirty. Don't give her too much of it either. Use the dirty talk when revving her up and then again at the finish line but never give her as much as she's asking for. Always keep her wanting more.

 

[Bvbidd]

How did you get her horny in the first place?

 

[The Truth]

Thanks for the advice Bowie, I'll keep all that info in mind.

@ Bvbidd just by kissing and caressing from the neck and work my way down. By that point she's putty in my hand.

 

[DJDamage]

Women want to hear that they are pleasing you.

You don't have to say anything but if you are really enjoying yourself let her know by groaning from time to time.

Leave the pillow talk after sex before you fall a sleep.

DJD

 

[Chemistry]

Oooh, I like noisy girls... good catch

Just animal **** this girl... get raw on her, like it's some crazy monkey sex and get REAL into it... when I was younger and learning about it all I'd be quieter and more focussed on the **** I was doing, now I've done ****ed for sport, so I'm so busy poundin' the girl and gettin myself off that she's getting worked out and the noise is plentiful on both parts...

 

[The Truth]

Women want to hear that they are pleasing you.

You don't have to say anything but if you are really enjoying yourself let her know by groaning from time to time

Thanks, that makes a lot of sense! She has asked me if I enjoy sex with her and said she worries that Im not satisfied so it might be for her own peace of mind.

@ Ashley I do this a lot but I still dont get the urge to make any noise except heavy breathing. If Im honest the only part of sex that gives me intense physical pleasure is when I cvm. The rest doesnt do much for me with her or any girl Ive been with.

 

[Chemistry]

OK...

I don't know then... watch some Hustler style porn flick and see how they work the girls out

Maybe its just something which develops with time as you change... in my case I became a lot more self serving than when I was 17 and that contributed to the change on my part...

 

[Vulpine]

I used to be quiet during sex, too. I had a chick tell me the exact same thing: women like to hear guys get off.

Remember guys, women are aroused through their ears whereas guys are aroused through their eyes.

It took some practice for me to become more vocal in the sack. Start first by not muffling your breathing. Maybe growl next time you are nutting in her mouth. Anything. You'll see her respond to it positively, and it will give you confidence. Then, at some point when she's talking too much and it's on your nerve, smack her azz and tell her to "shut up." She'll love it. When she's telling you how hard you are or stuff like that, offer a reply like "Oooh, you're so naughty." or "Oh yeah? Where do you want this?". Keep it playful and hot. Tell her she's doing a good job at something or comment on something you notice... her t!tt!ies bouncing in the moonlight... her hair on your legs... but do it sparingly. Don't become a jabber-jaw.

Watch some porn for more ideas... a lot of stuff seems cheesy or obnoxious at first. Get over that - chicks love to hear a man let go. Also, use words like hot, sexy, feel, like, please, good... use POSITIVE phrases. Never use negative terms in the bedroom: no, stop, don't = major turn-offs. Use things like "I'd like this more if..." and "Could you to that a little softer, please? Oh yeah, that's the stuff... thank you."

Humor and laughter is in-bounds, contrary to what the high-schoolers will tell you. When she's coming from you doing her doggy... yell out "WEEEEEEEE!" then smack her azz playfully like a cowboy and yell "YEEEE-HAAAAW! YEAH! GIDDY UP!" Then when she starts laughing, smack her azz again - harder - and tell her to "shut up and pay attention". Maybe start "singing" the William Tell Overture (Lone Ranger Theme).

"Da da dum, da da dum, da da dum Dum DUM.
Da da dum, da da dum, da da dum DUM Dum."

Sex is fun. Have fun. Just make sure that she isn't too distracted to get off - bring her focus back to the feeling. Timing is crucial sometimes.

When a woman can attach a noise or sound to an experience, it makes it all the more easier and more pleasant to recall later. She'll call you up the next day and say: "Yeee-haaw! I got wet at work just thinking about that."

 

[Dannyrt34]

"You stop that and I'll rip your little balls off!"

That's what she said.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

I moan when my gf gives me head and Im always telling her how great she feels and goos she is in bed. What does all that get: Total freakdon to the point where she'll do anything and will tall ultra dirty outside of the bedroom.

 

[Doctormad]

I used to be a little quiet with my ex-gf as well.

One day though, I thought I would try moaning and maybe even introduce a little dirty talk before and during lovemaking. She ended up having massive multiple orgasms and when it was all said and done, both of us agreed that is was the best sex we have had, ever!

Girls, like guys want to know that they are pleasing their partner. If a girl was all quiet, I would start to wonder wether or not she was getting any enjoyment out of this either. By at least moaning and groaning a little bit, you let her know that you are enjoying yourself, which will turn on your girl even more.

 

[Taviii]

Hey guys, interesting topic!

I always tend to talk dirty. Well not all the time, like when it is a romantic teasing sex. But other then that I like it to be a little ruff, and when she gets that I want it like that she gets into her role.

Anyways most girls like it, some don't. Remember the "slut" thing that girls always want to avoid?

I'm only 19 so I can say that maybe some older guys around here have more experience, but I just wanted to mention it, because it seems that most of the guys around here are a little too shy in bed.

I speak dirty, I slap, I pull her hair, bite her nipples etc Like I said if you can get her in the frame of mind of one portion of "wild sex" she will like it if you don't go to far.

PS my neck still hurts from a girl that bit me

 

[Egoist]

those of you who prefer to be quiet have no fvcking clue what you're missing.

chicks are crazy for dirty talk. it makes all the difference between a a regular fvck and an incredible experience.

I used to be "manly and quiet", then i discovered how much girls love it when a guy tells them stuff.

 

[Egoist]

taviii you got it!

remember, she wants to be your dirty little slvt wh0re

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

those of you who prefer to be quiet have no fvcking clue what you're missing.

chicks are crazy for dirty talk. it makes all the difference between a a regular fvck and an incredible experience.

I used to be "manly and quiet", then i discovered how much girls love it when a guy tells them stuff.

I agree. Guy's have no idea that there's a lot of women holding back sexually because they see the guy being very stoic. But for the guys who show their women that opening up is alright, hold on tight when you're tappin' that @ss because she will literally move the bed across the room if given the chance!

 

[Contender]

I used to be quiet during sex, too. I had a chick tell me the exact same thing: women like to hear guys get off.

Remember guys, women are aroused through their ears whereas guys are aroused through their eyes.

It took some practice for me to become more vocal in the sack. Start first by not muffling your breathing. Maybe growl next time you are nutting in her mouth. Anything. You'll see her respond to it positively, and it will give you confidence. Then, at some point when she's talking too much and it's on your nerve, smack her azz and tell her to "shut up." She'll love it. When she's telling you how hard you are or stuff like that, offer a reply like "Oooh, you're so naughty." or "Oh yeah? Where do you want this?". Keep it playful and hot. Tell her she's doing a good job at something or comment on something you notice... her t!tt!ies bouncing in the moonlight... her hair on your legs... but do it sparingly. Don't become a jabber-jaw.

Watch some porn for more ideas... a lot of stuff seems cheesy or obnoxious at first. Get over that - chicks love to hear a man let go. Also, use words like hot, sexy, feel, like, please, good... use POSITIVE phrases. Never use negative terms in the bedroom: no, stop, don't = major turn-offs. Use things like "I'd like this more if..." and "Could you to that a little softer, please? Oh yeah, that's the stuff... thank you."

Humor and laughter is in-bounds, contrary to what the high-schoolers will tell you. When she's coming from you doing her doggy... yell out "WEEEEEEEE!" then smack her azz playfully like a cowboy and yell "YEEEE-HAAAAW! YEAH! GIDDY UP!" Then when she starts laughing, smack her azz again - harder - and tell her to "shut up and pay attention". Maybe start "singing" the William Tell Overture (Lone Ranger Theme).

"Da da dum, da da dum, da da dum Dum DUM.
Da da dum, da da dum, da da dum DUM Dum."

Sex is fun. Have fun. Just make sure that she isn't too distracted to get off - bring her focus back to the feeling. Timing is crucial sometimes.

When a woman can attach a noise or sound to an experience, it makes it all the more easier and more pleasant to recall later. She'll call you up the next day and say: "Yeee-haaw! I got wet at work just thinking about that."

Haha, I never laughed this hard after reading a post online before.

Are you serious about the singing and sh't? hahaha

 

[Contender]

I used to be quiet during sex, too. I had a chick tell me the exact same thing: women like to hear guys get off.

Remember guys, women are aroused through their ears whereas guys are aroused through their eyes.

It took some practice for me to become more vocal in the sack. Start first by not muffling your breathing. Maybe growl next time you are nutting in her mouth. Anything. You'll see her respond to it positively, and it will give you confidence. Then, at some point when she's talking too much and it's on your nerve, smack her azz and tell her to "shut up." She'll love it. When she's telling you how hard you are or stuff like that, offer a reply like "Oooh, you're so naughty." or "Oh yeah? Where do you want this?". Keep it playful and hot. Tell her she's doing a good job at something or comment on something you notice... her t!tt!ies bouncing in the moonlight... her hair on your legs... but do it sparingly. Don't become a jabber-jaw.

Watch some porn for more ideas... a lot of stuff seems cheesy or obnoxious at first. Get over that - chicks love to hear a man let go. Also, use words like hot, sexy, feel, like, please, good... use POSITIVE phrases. Never use negative terms in the bedroom: no, stop, don't = major turn-offs. Use things like "I'd like this more if..." and "Could you to that a little softer, please? Oh yeah, that's the stuff... thank you."

Humor and laughter is in-bounds, contrary to what the high-schoolers will tell you. When she's coming from you doing her doggy... yell out "WEEEEEEEE!" then smack her azz playfully like a cowboy and yell "YEEEE-HAAAAW! YEAH! GIDDY UP!" Then when she starts laughing, smack her azz again - harder - and tell her to "shut up and pay attention". Maybe start "singing" the William Tell Overture (Lone Ranger Theme).

"Da da dum, da da dum, da da dum Dum DUM.
Da da dum, da da dum, da da dum DUM Dum."

Sex is fun. Have fun. Just make sure that she isn't too distracted to get off - bring her focus back to the feeling. Timing is crucial sometimes.

When a woman can attach a noise or sound to an experience, it makes it all the more easier and more pleasant to recall later. She'll call you up the next day and say: "Yeee-haaw! I got wet at work just thinking about that."

Haha, I never laughed this hard after reading a post online before.

Are you serious about the singing and sh't? hahaha

 

[darp]

I used to be inexperienced toward sex and I'd be quiet, that was until I learned how important it was to be 'engaged' so to speak.

On day my girl and I were just making out and I was fingering her and she started talking dirty telling me stuff like "oooh I'm gunna ***, tell me you want me to ***" so I kinda just went along with it talking dirty into her ear and alternating between biting her neck and ear...needless to say she went wild...she like orgasmed and passed out...after I LMAO (cause it looked hilarious)I put some thought into it decided to be more aggressive to see how that would pan out..needless to say she calls me a certified porn star now.

I laugh when I watch porn and see guys like Wesley Pipes having sex and almost taunting the girl at the same time...but now I find myself saying things like "yeah I know you like that...thats why I like ****in you" or my solid gold classic "why don't you take some out" I smack ass cheeks...and talk dirty all the time...my girl enjoys it so I'll continue to perfect it

 

[CLOONEY]

DUDE, I LOVE this sh*t! My girlfriend does this also, never had a girl who did it before. But I absolutely love it! Gets me totally in the mood!

Good catch! Keep this one around for a while!