Talking about interest levels..

[BxPrince24]

girl that i'm talking to... I suspect that her IL is either at medium or lower. I dunno though, she could be playing hard to get. Let me describe our last hang out though.

We ran into each other the other day. So I got up and gave her a hug, she stood infront of me and asked me something, I think it was what was I doing around there? Told her I'm waiting for a friend, and if she had his number, she said no while flipping out her phone to find the number so I grabbed her elbow and pulled her over to me. She gave me the number, then I asked for hers, gave me that without hesitation aswell. I asked her what is she doing today, she said probably just chill and "I'm not going anywhere." I replied, "Aww, ain't that cute, You thought I was gonna ask you to go somewhere" lol, she laughed and was like F*ck you.

She sat down next to me and we started talking and joking around. ended up play fighting for a bit. She said something then I said something back, she poked me with her umbrella, I picked her up and held her in the air. She was like "damn, your strong... let me see your muscle" I flexed for her n she was like "damn I know not to mess with you (laugh)" We sat down and I ran my hand through her hair, continued talking and joking.

It was at a high point and I remembered reading something about leaving during the high point of a convo will leave them thinking about you. So I left after giving her a hug and teasing her about her height.

When we meet it's always fun like that tho, which is why I was thinking of upping the ante the next time i saw her. Today her brother was at my house and called her on my phone but she didn't pick up so I was wondering what that was about as well. Anyways... I want to get her to spend more time with me so I can up the ante. But I think it will be unlikely for her to say yes to chilling with me. What do you guys think?

 

[BxPrince24]

Also, the reason why i was sayin she may be playing hard to get or have a low IL is because i've asked her to chill twice before our last hangout which was a lot better than the previous. The first time I asked her to chill, she had a valid excuse. 2nd time, she said she was babysitting her nephew, which could b valid since he does live with her and her parents. But then again it could be false.

So I'm thinking about asking her again... this time for the weekend. But I don't want another excuse. And I don't want to next her but if nothing gives imma have 2.

 

[Serialized3]

her interest level is at 57.76%

 

[BxPrince24]

being sarcastic? I'm just asking if it seems like it's a case of her IL being low or if she's playing hard to get. If the information is too limited for anyone to come to the conclusion of whether it's either or... then just say so.

 

[Serialized3]

Yeah, I was being sarcastic. If you can't tell, I'm kind of a ****, but that's just because I see an awful lot of super rookie or even irrelvent questions posted on the board these days.

I mean, how are we supposed to tell what her interest level is? And even if I told you she was totally interested in you, would it make any difference to you than saying that she didn't seem too interested? It's really your call man. If things are going well, keep progressing, if you feel like she's messing with you, well put her on the back burner and pursue other girls.

The best advice I can give you is:

You're thinking about this too much. Don't focus on her. Find something else to occupy your time.

AND

From what you've said, she's probably not too interested in you (flaked on you twice). Actions speak volumes more than words because talk is cheap. Flaking twice is not acceptable in my opinion, and if I were you, I'd put her on the back burner and pursue other girls. If she comes around, then good. If not, you didn't waste too much time and energy on her.

-S3

 

[Macgyver]

Do you both have anything in common? All I see is fluff talk. Fluff talk = always going to be 60-70% interest and that's never good.

And hugging? WTF are you hugging a girl, are you gay? That dropped her interest level to possibly 50-60% which is maybe on a really drunk night she'd let you hit it.

 

[BxPrince24]

Do you both have anything in common? All I see is fluff talk. Fluff talk = always going to be 60-70% interest and that's never good.

And hugging? WTF are you hugging a girl, are you gay? That dropped her interest level to possibly 50-60% which is maybe on a really drunk night she'd let you hit it.

heard hugging was a good way to get some kino going. it's not like I'm hanging on to her, it's a brief 2 second hug.

Speaking about things in common, I don't even know right now. I believe thats one of the things that have been missing that we did have and talked a lot about in the past. It didn't even really cross my mind until now. So the next time I speak to her, if I do, I'll try to find out more about her likes and dislikes.

 

[flexion_]

You can only judge her sexual interest by doing something of a sexual nature - like asking her out and kissing her.

Right now all you have established is that she is interested in flirting. So really we have no idea if she has any interest in you at all.

 

[BxPrince24]

Imma try to raise her IL and build more of a connection with her and see what happens.

 

[brucevangeorge]

DO SOMETHING!!

Figure it out yourself.

No one can tell you what is happening unless you write and extreemly detailed post.

You go to be there and see it to gauge it properly. Which is why you are the only person that knows what is really going on.

You just got to figure it out.

 

[BxPrince24]

DO SOMETHING!!

Figure it out yourself.

No one can tell you what is happening unless you write and extreemly detailed post.

You go to be there and see it to gauge it properly. Which is why you are the only person that knows what is really going on.

You just got to figure it out.

I've noticed that. I guess that I would need a long a$$ post to get some good responses in this situation. but I'll go with the latter.

This thread was not a waste though. It let me on to a few things that I didn't notice and I'm gonna or have started doing. For example, finding out what we have in common, building a connection. And raising her IL. Thanks everyone.

 

[BxPrince24]

Well what happened? Had a good convo with her earlier, found out more about her, etc... worked on the whole connection part. This convo was over the net tho.

Ok, so tonight is the 3rd day since i've had her number so I called tonight to ask her out. I keep my number blocked whenever I call ppl. So I called. Soon as she picks up, she's like who's this? I said what's up? She said eerrrrm... who's this? I said this is Andrew. She said Andrew. I said yea, what's up? She says her phone is about to die. I said Yea, sure it is. later. and hung up.

So... I'm movin on up... to a deluxe apartment.... in the sky-highhhNEXT...

 

[BxPrince24]

I'll give her a week... who knows... could be 1 of those tests?

 

[tobby]

Most girls don't play hard to get! This is usually some made up **** that women have passed around to get guys to be more persistant than they have to. If a girls interested in you, she's not going to try and chase you off by doing stupid tactics like this. Always put the girl in your shoes. If you're interested in a girl, you're going to try and not look needy, but you do it to an extent! (I do admit there are some girls that like persistance or there are cases where persistance has helped to land the girl, but 90% of women don't play "hard to get".)

Based on the odds it's probably low interest level. Back off a little bit and see if she makes her interest level more apparent to you.

 

[BxPrince24]

Most girls don't play hard to get! This is usually some made up **** that women have passed around to get guys to be more persistant than they have to. If a girls interested in you, she's not going to try and chase you off by doing stupid tactics like this. Always put the girl in your shoes. If you're interested in a girl, you're going to try and not look needy, but you do it to an extent! (I do admit there are some girls that like persistance or there are cases where persistance has helped to land the girl, but 90% of women don't play "hard to get".)

Based on the odds it's probably low interest level. Back off a little bit and see if she makes her interest level more apparent to you.

yea... i guess i'll lay low for a few days. it's very unlikely for her to contact me though, she hasn't contacted me first yet. but i'll wait on her and see. And also start looking at other girls from now.

 

[BxPrince24]

well, i decided I was going to go bowling today. And I know that I was supposed to be taking a break from her but my gut wanted to ask her to come along and also see if she was speaking to me.

So I asked her and she was interested in going. all up until she heard how much each game costs and she told me she only had three dollars. I told her, i'll pay for a game for her this time. She said no. (she didn't want me paying for her). So I said well then, maybe next time. She said ok, n i left. Had a good time too.

So I know this girl needs to get her interest level up. She has never called me, the only times she initiated a convo with me were the times we see each other in person. Other than that, we have great conversations. We have fun when we're together, etc...

So I will be going a week without talking to her at all. Cut off all connection. She wont catch me online and if she calls me, which I doubt she will, I'll tell her i'm busy or something. The thing is that I don't know how much her interest level will raise from this. I haven't tried it before so I guess we'll see.

I was planning on getting her to come and chill at my house. play some video games with a twist. She loves car racing games so I was thinking about having who ever wins gets to have the loser do one thing, whatever that may be. If I win, I plan on blindfolding her and show her the reason why my last girlfriend was rushing to have sex with me. She doesn't need to remove any clothing so it should be fine and it would raise the way she feels about me... guaranted. That's my trump card to speed things up. If she wins, it's whatever. But I guess I'll have to wait till the following week.

 

[Mission]

There is no such thing as interest level, they are either interested, or they are not, and the best part is that you get to create interest. If you are an intriguing person, girls and guys alike will be interested in you because they want to figure out what you are all about. One tip for you, when you lifted her up and she said, "let me see your muscles" you should have said, "no i don't think you have deserved it" and then she would likely have started flirting with you so you would show her your muscles. Its all in the little details.

--Mission

 

[BxPrince24]

There is no such thing as interest level, they are either interested, or they are not, and the best part is that you get to create interest. If you are an intriguing person, girls and guys alike will be interested in you because they want to figure out what you are all about. One tip for you, when you lifted her up and she said, "let me see your muscles" you should have said, "no i don't think you have deserved it" and then she would likely have started flirting with you so you would show her your muscles. Its all in the little details.

--Mission

I do believe I'm an intriguing person, could I be more so? Definately. Yea, that would have been a nice addition to the moment. I need to start making that kind of responses second nature to me. I do it often but usually with girls i'm not trying to get with lol. I do it on girls I'm trying to get with if it does cross my mind which isn't rare.

So would you guys say at this point it is worth it to go cold turkey on her for a week? I mean, there is some interest there, i'm sure. But is it where it should be? I think not. Do I know how to increase it? Yes but under one circumstance... That she's in my room. I dunno, when I have a girl in my room, it's like all of my slick movements, sexy eye contact, etc... all of that just becomes second nature. Now I need to get her over here in order to work on that. And as far as the other stuff in my above post, in your opinion, good stuff to follow or not?

 

[Serialized3]

She doesn't seem interested at all. Seems like she's "letting you down easy" the chick way: by being indirect and basically shrugging you off on everything. Don't let persistence become neediness.

Good looking women are like busses, another one comes along ever 15 minutes (10 if you're in a college town )

 

[BxPrince24]

She doesn't seem interested at all. Seems like she's "letting you down easy" the chick way: by being indirect and basically shrugging you off on everything. Don't let persistence become neediness.

Good looking women are like busses, another one comes along ever 15 minutes (10 if you're in a college town )

Yea, I guess so. I had already started thinking about it last night, one girl ain't worth so much trouble. I may have known her for a long a$$ time and still have feelings for her but I can't keep walking in darkness with this chick. This girl was my first crush, first kiss, first heartbreak thanks to my ex-bestfriend. And I've always had somethin for her... always. 8 years don't disappear easy.

I'll just continue my plan of finding other girls. Forget about her. If she ever comes to her senses, she knows where to find me.