Talk about her ex-BF?

[becker]

Hey, do you suggest talking to a girl about her ex-BF if he comes up in conversation, or would you avoid the subject altogether?

Seems to me like it might be good to talk to her about it, despite it sounding counter-intuitive.

 

[Cremasta]

I might not shoot her down by saying "I really don't want to talk about your ex?" - could be seen as being a bit too jealous. However I wouldn't help her keep the conversation on the topic of the ex-bf unless you can somehow use it to highlight your good points. If she wants the convo to go that way, make her work hard for it.

I did that with the ex for the first few weeks of our relationship, I found we were getting bogged down in fairly morose conversation. She probably felt the need to get things off her chest, but leave the real heavy stuff for her mum, sister, best friend, etc...

 

[becker]

Yeah, her ex-BF and her broke up because he was unbelievably jealous, but if you saw this girl, you can probably see why a guy might be insecure. I'm sure she gets hit on everywhere she goes. That's the high maintenance part that comes with having a super-hot GF, and many guys don't like to have to deal with that.

Personally, I'm not a jealous guy because I feel that if I wanted, there are quite a few hot women (although not 10s, which are what I'm exclusively targeting at the moment) that I can pursue if I wanted to. I'm just picky because I feel like I can be. However, I can probably use the ex's jealous nature to emphasize my contrasting personality.

 

[Krassus]

If i were you, i wouldn't. That's a good way to get LJBF'd.

 

[mystic03]

all that it's true but don't you hate when she starts asking you questions like, "How do you like your soda, with a lot or little ice..?? and the response: "aah, Mike liked his soda without ice.."
I know it sounds stupid but when this happens a few times it really gets annoying....

what would you do, what would you tell her??
After all I don't care what "Mike" likes, thinks...I dont want to be compared to anybody. It's a double edge knife...

 

[becker]

This guy who seems to be my only competition in the office right now hangs out with her much more than I do, and I don't know if I should let that continue, or invade the henhouse, so to speak.

I'm ok with not being around her 24/7, but at the same time, I'm experienced enough to know that not being around enough can be fatal as well, because a girl's interest in you may diminish if you're never around. You need to keep adding fuel to the fire.