Serg897 said:
Today, on the first (well second now) day of 2012 I did a lot of this self reflection - and I truly noticed just how much energy I spend thinking about women Im seeing, or was seeing, or Im planning on asking out, etc. Thinking about one woman Im seeing and even entertaining thoughts about making her exclusive (stupid). Thinking about one girl I had a brief oneitis for that stopped calling a month ago. Its all so mentally draining and uses so much energy when we should be concentrating on bigger and more important things.
Great men throughout history were NOT preoccupied with finding a wife, getting laid, etc. They had more important concerns, fighting to correct injustices or investigating the natural world around us. This is what they are known for - they are NOT known for how many women they were able to get into bed.
The desire to find a mate is something animalistic. It is indicative of the fact that we are just sophisticated primates. It is a reflection of our evolutionary heritage. We should not be so preoccupied with something we have in common with chimpanzees, and horses, and birds, and every other animal.
Im not saying we should stop being human. But for heavens sake, lets transcend the primate part of us to some extent and aspire to be something more. Forge our own identities not based on finding women to "complete" us but on something that truly makes us individuals.
This is a good post
2 things I would like to add to this
1. the animalistic analogy is a pretty common one and there is some truth to it. The fact of the matter is, we are all put here to reproduce, it's what's been going on for about 3 billion years ever since the first single cell oragism showed up on earth.
BUT
let's say you are a lion. you are coming of age, and your little lion pee pee is getting hard and you want some lion booty. Mating season comes around and you just like every other lion wants to get some.
You quickly find out, a harsh lesson in wild life. These female lions aren't interested in you regardless of how hard you try. They are all interested in the alpha lion of the pride.
The lion, instinctively realizes, ifi I want to get laid, I have to be that guy, or in this case, lion. So what does he do?
he leaves the pack
(well technically he is going to leave the pack anyway because there is only one male lion in a pride, but you get the point)
He does not, go around, and hopelessly follow the female lions in hopes that open of them will see something in him that makes him so great and give him some lion tail. He doesn't pick out a particular female lion and keep bringing her meat and food and **** to try to impress her lol (actually the female lions do all the hunting and the alpha male eats first).
He leaves, he goes out on his own, for years, and gets bigger and stronger. He learns how to kill and learns how to fight. He learns how to become the lion that you see in the safari and say "fvck that, now that's a fvcking lion".
Only then, does he go back and challenge the alpha lion for supremacy of the pride. They fight, sometimes to the death though usually not. sometimes he wins, sometimes he loses. But the point is, true animalstlic nature does not include constinatnly following around women and tring ot have a "soul mate". that's the Beatles and HallMarktalking, not human nature.
It's not that men, didn't give a **** about women. On the contrary, ome of the biggest wars in the history of the world were fought over nothing more than pvssy. If George Washington didn't have the worst case of oneitis in the history fo the united states lol he probably wouldn't be the first president. They just knew it wasn't something that should, at least the smart ones, consume their entire lives, and the more like "MEN" they became the easier it becomes to find a woman.
point number 2.
you alluded to the fact in your post that you spend so much time thinking about getting laid. Step back and now realize how silly it is to talk about "playing hard to get". women can sniff right through that **** like a rat can smell garbage. You might think you are being cute with your 2 day no contact but your true nature, just like hers, will come out sooner or later. You will be **** tested and you will fail because at the core, you need a woman. you crave the ****.
I'm not saying that, I became indifferent to women. to the contrary every night i dreamed about a different girl when I went to bed. But I realized taht my life would go on if I didn't have one. I could still do ****,l I wasn't any less of a man becuase I had no woman and hell it had it's advantages. I got **** done.
If I had to design a program for men to be irresistible to women of all kinds, I would start off by making them not touch a woman for 2 years. not even attempt to. The actual game can be taught in a matter of months if not weeks. But your core framework takes time to build. I'm sure half of you stopped reading right there lol. there is so much you can do for yourself and your frame, in 2 years, that you will seem like an alien to women compared to these other men running around here.
