Switching from glasses to contacts??

[SoSuaveDude]

Anyone notice results from doing so? Would that help with women and them flirting more game not factored in?

 

[Vice]

It depends on the glasses you're wearing. If they're cool, girls will notice/like it. I've noticed it drives them crazy when you wear glasses every once in a while once you're knowing them.

 

[Black.Magic]

Yeah man I got contact lenses a few weeks ago. Maybe it's just me, but I get way more looks now. I'm much more confident now too, and I can play sports without being blind.

The saying goes, "guys don't make passes at women with glasses", so maybe the same is true vice-versa. Certainly if you wear glasses ALL the time you can look weaker and less physically "useful". That said, some people pull them off while still looking great. But they'd look better if they didn't have glasses at all.

"these women would be really beautiful if they didn't have glasses" - George Costanza at the optometrists in seinfeld, looking at the models in pictures modeling glasses.

Wow, long post. In short, get contacts and stick with them / they're only uncomfortable for the first minute you put them in.

 

[zekko]

The saying goes, "guys don't make passes at women with glasses", so maybe the same is true vice-versa. Certainly if you wear glasses ALL the time you can look weaker and less physically "useful". That said, some people pull them off while still looking great. But they'd look better if they didn't have glasses at all.

I agree with this. I'm surprised that this subject doesn't come up more often.

I have very weak eyes, and I've had to wear glasses practically my whole life. I can't see anything without them. I'm not eligible to wear contacts, so I doubt that I'd be eligible for lasix either (but regardless, no point having it at my age).

I bet I've missed out on countless compliments from women because I wear glasses. For one thing, you can see your eyes better without them. I used to get a lot of compliments on my eyes before I had to start wearing glasses, and honestly I've had few such comments since.

Think of all the stereotypical good looking guys in movies and on TV. Do any of them wear glasses? Maybe on occasion, but not the majority of the time. Putting glasses on for a different look can make a positive impression, but that's different than having to wear them all the time.

I think glasses harm a guy's looks worse than a girl's. Like Black Magic said, it can make you look weaker or less physically useful. It's not an "alpha" look. IMO, a woman wearing glasses doesn't really harm her looks at all, it can even make her look smarter.

That said, I don't think it's a dealbreaker. I file it under things you can't do anything about, like height. But if you can get contacts, I would go for it for sure. I bet any guy experienced in pickup would tell you to ditch the glasses if possible.

 

[floydb25]

Based on personal experience - it doesn't matter. Not a lot of external stuff that people obsess over does. Most people have a black and white mindset - where, either they're into you, or they want nothing to do with you. You're either hot / gorgeous / perfect, or ugly / creepy / a nobody. Not many people have a middle ground. This is all pre-determined based on your natural attractiveness in their eyes. IE, whether they have a crush on you, or not. Changing your appearance doesn't do much.

If a person is into you, you can wear glasses, have ****ty teeth, uncombed hair, be wearing pajamas... It doesn't matter. They'll still think you're hot / sexy, compliment everything you do, and how you look, say you look good in anything, they like your ruggedy / homeless look, the glasses don't bother them, you don't smell like a goat, etc.

If they're not into you, they'll say you're ugly, a loser / creep, won't respond to you, treat you like crap, insult you constantly, etc. Doesn't matter what you wear, how you look, or what you say. Either they're into you, or not. And, their treatment towards you is determined by this.

Much like being a challenge and having game, however... It can make you even more attractive in their eyes, by wearing contacts and dressing nice. So, it certainly doesn't hurt. I don't believe it can make them attracted to you, though. Nothing can. Either its there, or its not.

 

[goodfoot]

I'm planning to get Lasik hopefully around the end of the year. Even as blind as I am, I think I could manage mma, but I still can't play basketball or football. Any extra looks I get from women will be an added bonus.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

Based on personal experience - it doesn't matter. Not a lot of external stuff that people obsess over does. Most people have a black and white mindset - where, either they're into you, or they want nothing to do with you. You're either hot / gorgeous / perfect, or ugly / creepy / a nobody. Not many people have a middle ground. This is all pre-determined based on your natural attractiveness in their eyes. IE, whether they have a crush on you, or not. Changing your appearance doesn't do much.

If a person is into you, you can wear glasses, have ****ty teeth, uncombed hair, be wearing pajamas... It doesn't matter. They'll still think you're hot / sexy, compliment everything you do, and how you look, say you look good in anything, they like your ruggedy / homeless look, the glasses don't bother them, you don't smell like a goat, etc.

If they're not into you, they'll say you're ugly, a loser / creep, won't respond to you, treat you like crap, insult you constantly, etc. Doesn't matter what you wear, how you look, or what you say. Either they're into you, or not. And, their treatment towards you is determined by this.

Much like being a challenge and having game, however... It can make you even more attractive in their eyes, by wearing contacts and dressing nice. So, it certainly doesn't hurt. I don't believe it can make them attracted to you, though. Nothing can. Either its there, or its not.

If contacts can't make them attracted to you, then are you saying looks don't matter in women being attracted to men? I mean imo glasses can possibly downgrade your looks, and women wont be able to really stare into "natural" eyes. I mean does dressing nice and looking good not factor into people having a desire to deal with you more?

 

[FairShake]

I have worn glasses since I was 3 years old. I have vision in only one eye and even that good eye has started developing an astigmatism. I rarely wear contacts because I want to protect my good eye.

I don't think I've EVER not been able to get a woman because I wear glasses. Oh, they need to be stylish glasses that go with your face but women do not dismiss men because they wear glasses. The whole "glasses make you look weak" is a guy nerd thing, not a woman thing. Women don't care as much about being evolutionary physically fit as the manosphere would have you believe!

 

[floydb25]

If contacts can't make them attracted to you, then are you saying looks don't matter in women being attracted to men? I mean imo glasses can possibly downgrade your looks, and women wont be able to really stare into "natural" eyes. I mean does dressing nice and looking good not factor into people having a desire to deal with you more?

No, I mean it doesn't change your natural looks - IE, what matters the most. They can see your eyes just fine, through the glasses. It doesn't downgrade your looks at all, but it can make you more attractive to someone already attracted to you. I've never had problems with glasses vs contacts; combed hair vs non; etc. I used to be super obsessed with my appearance, and had the pretty boy look down packed (+ having natural looks). If someone wasn't into me - it didn't make the slightest difference what I did, or how I looked. Those who were didn't care about anything. I was so cute and perfect in every way. And vice versa for those I was into.

Certainly, looking good will attract certain people to you. It won't attract anyone TO you, though. They would have to like you already - it just makes them more attracted. Like when a hot girl is wearing sexy, tight, provocative clothing. She has to be hot first. Women are the same way with men.

 

[blind_one]

I'm getting my eyesight tested this friday, with a specialist in terms of lenses so I'll see how it goes, I might be overanticipating but once I'll get them my daygame will start hardcore, because I will have no more excuses and I know that. I will have a full field of vision so I won't have to turn my head everywhere, I'll be able to establish eye contant with everyone everywhere ,since I think my glasses are too weak atm.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

I'm getting my eyesight tested this friday, with a specialist in terms of lenses so I'll see how it goes, I might be overanticipating but once I'll get them my daygame will start hardcore, because I will have no more excuses and I know that. I will have a full field of vision so I won't have to turn my head everywhere, I'll be able to establish eye contant with everyone everywhere ,since I think my glasses are too weak atm.

lol im going tomorrow and going to try contacts. I know it will be great, but i don't expect contacts to magically cast a line of women at my feet or something

 

[blind_one]

lol im going tomorrow and going to try contacts. I know it will be great, but i don't expect contacts to magically cast a line of women at my feet or something

Nor do I but It will be a major step :crackup:

 

[Zerro]

It doesn't make a damn difference as long as you didn't pick some ugly weird frames that don't complement your face at all. Hell almost all the time those glasses stores are staffed mostly with women whose job is to help you pick out something that makes you look good.

 

[zekko]

I've never had problems with glasses vs contacts; combed hair vs non; etc. I used to be super obsessed with my appearance, and had the pretty boy look down packed (+ having natural looks).

Ah, but see you've worn contacts, so you don't wear glasses ALL the time. That makes a huge difference IMO. You're not pigeonholed into one slot. Wearing glasses to you simply means that you get to experiment with a variety of looks. You also say you're naturally good looking. You can make a good impression while wearing contacts and just have a different (maybe intellectual) look by putting on some glasses.

Check out any makeover type situation, I think they did this in The Pickup Artist. The first thing they do is tell you to ditch the glasses. If you're trying to maximize your looks, no glasses > glasses. But I agree they are not a dealbreaker.

 

[Stryker]

I've worn glasses for as long as I can remember. I've also tried contacts. The idea that glasses can stunt your ability to get with women is a self-conscious myth that has likely developed as a result of teasing from your peers, particularly if you had them as a child.
As an adult, no one (and I mean NO ONE) cares if you wear glasses. Sure, there'll be the occasional woman out there who is so vain and self absorbed that she might not like the glasses, but for the majority of the time, it really won't matter.

 

[zekko]

I've worn glasses for as long as I can remember. I've also tried contacts. The idea that glasses can stunt your ability to get with women is a self-conscious myth that has likely developed as a result of teasing from your peers, particularly if you had them as a child.

I don't recall ever being teased about them. And I'm not saying they "stunt your ability to get with women" either, I said they're not a dealbreaker.

But I'm looking at this from the standpoint of maximizing your looks, and chances. All this self improvement stuff here, it seems like a lot of little things can add up to make a difference. What's the difference between an attractive guy and an unattractive guy? It seems like there's a fine line between them sometimes. One guy's face may be shaped a little differently or whatever (think of this in terms of girls if you prefer). If you're looking to maximize your looks, and if you have the choice, there's no person on earth who is going to tell you to wear glasses over not wearing them.

 

[floydb25]

Ah, but see you've worn contacts, so you don't wear glasses ALL the time. That makes a huge difference IMO. You're not pigeonholed into one slot. Wearing glasses to you simply means that you get to experiment with a variety of looks. You also say you're naturally good looking. You can make a good impression while wearing contacts and just have a different (maybe intellectual) look by putting on some glasses.

Check out any makeover type situation, I think they did this in The Pickup Artist. The first thing they do is tell you to ditch the glasses. If you're trying to maximize your looks, no glasses > glasses. But I agree they are not a dealbreaker.

I used to think the same way. That, I needed contacts, to be perfectly clean cut, hair trimmed short and gel'ed to hell, the most expensive / flashy clothes, the nicest car, etc. And I did all of this ****, too. All it did was increase my confidence, and attract a whole slew of fake losers into my life. When I stopped giving a **** about all the appearance crap, and became more casual and less loud - people started taking me more seriously. I wasn't just a shallow, fake, loud, annoying douche bag with all the hot chicks, and was hated by everybody (and I was). It comes with the territory. You start becoming arrogant, conceited, loud, shallow, etc. Power corrupts.

You gotta be careful with some of this stuff, and not overdo it. You might regret what you get (and become) as a result. In my case, a bunch of retards and losers, with me at the douche bag helm. This was well before I knew about the internet, or this site. A lot of guys are steering in the same direction. Guess you can't really stop it.

But in the case of glasses vs non... I used to think I needed contacts, or I wasn't "sexy" enough. It was just a lack of confidence. Now that I have that + sufficient self-esteem - it really doesn't matter. It never did before I got contacts, either. I was just insecure. Women still showed interest, and all these things, but I was too busy thinking I was ugly to pick up on it. The only thing that changed is my perception. It was like, "now that I got all these things - I'm good enough". When, I never needed them, and it provided way more than I hoped for (ie, crazy stupid evil people).

Women do this a lot, too. They go way overboard, and try to look like a barbie skank - only to act suprised when they're treated like *****s. They never needed all that stuff, and they're STILL insecure when they do (hence, doing it in the first place). It's just their mindset. They think they're ugly, they act like they're ugly, they push people away and sabotage, thinking they're not good enough, etc. Then, they become some fake dolled up ***** skank with a snobby attitude. Yeah, that attracts good people into your life.

It's all the same. Build your confidence and self-esteem FIRST - then worry about your appearance. Don't just mask your insecurities with a flashy appearance and uncaring personality. That's just you being fake, and guess who that attracts in droves? Other fake people with similar issues.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

I used to think the same way. That, I needed contacts, to be perfectly clean cut, hair trimmed short and gel'ed to hell, the most expensive / flashy clothes, the nicest car, etc. And I did all of this ****, too. All it did was increase my confidence, and attract a whole slew of fake losers into my life. When I stopped giving a **** about all the appearance crap, and became more casual and less loud - people started taking me more seriously. I wasn't just a shallow, fake, loud, annoying douche bag with all the hot chicks, and was hated by everybody (and I was). It comes with the territory. You start becoming arrogant, conceited, loud, shallow, etc. Power corrupts.

You gotta be careful with some of this stuff, and not overdo it. You might regret what you get (and become) as a result. In my case, a bunch of retards and losers, with me at the douche bag helm. This was well before I knew about the internet, or this site. A lot of guys are steering in the same direction. Guess you can't really stop it.

But in the case of glasses vs non... I used to think I needed contacts, or I wasn't "sexy" enough. It was just a lack of confidence. Now that I have that + sufficient self-esteem - it really doesn't matter. It never did before I got contacts, either. I was just insecure. Women still showed interest, and all these things, but I was too busy thinking I was ugly to pick up on it. The only thing that changed is my perception. It was like, "now that I got all these things - I'm good enough". When, I never needed them, and it provided way more than I hoped for (ie, crazy stupid evil people).

Women do this a lot, too. They go way overboard, and try to look like a barbie skank - only to act suprised when they're treated like *****s. They never needed all that stuff, and they're STILL insecure when they do (hence, doing it in the first place). It's just their mindset. They think they're ugly, they act like they're ugly, they push people away and sabotage, thinking they're not good enough, etc. Then, they become some fake dolled up ***** skank with a snobby attitude. Yeah, that attracts good people into your life.

It's all the same. Build your confidence and self-esteem FIRST - then worry about your appearance. Don't just mask your insecurities with a flashy appearance and uncaring personality. That's just you being fake, and guess who that attracts in droves? Other fake people with similar issues.

Great post bro, I definitely agree that staying true to yourself and building true self confidence is imperative. Also great job of addressing the truth of similari individuals attracting each other.

Working on consistently building my character and caring less about what others think, but i think contacts will slightly help. This mindset is dangerous though, because the moment i return to my glasses i will have this self-consciousness that they are hindering my character. Eventually through experience, I'll learn that this material and external factors are irrelevant. Thanks for the great post.

 

[floydb25]

Great post bro, I definitely agree that staying true to yourself and building true self confidence is imperative. Also great job of addressing the truth of similari individuals attracting each other.

Working on consistently building my character and caring less about what others think, but i think contacts will slightly help. This mindset is dangerous though, because the moment i return to my glasses i will have this self-consciousness that they are hindering my character. Eventually through experience, I'll learn that this material and external factors are irrelevant. Thanks for the great post.

Excellent point, and another fact I forgot to mention. I was so obsessed with appearance - due to insecurity - that I believed I couldn't wear glasses ever again, 'cause I'd go right back to being ugly. It had to be contacts, all the time. Just like you mentioned, and are worried about.

It's cool to do this stuff, and improve your looks - just don't let it consume you. A lot of negative stuff you think is irrational, and not based on any facts. So, don't think you can't leave your house without contacts, or anything. Don't become obsessed with your appearance.

****, these days, I wear glasses, normal t-shirts, pajamas, and sandals to go to the store. Don't give a **** anymore. 4+ years ago, this would have never happened. You just gotta not care what other people think, or what you think they think. So much **** becomes easier once you reach this point.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

feelsbadman. got contacts thursday, and paid 90 bucks. I already miss my glasses, and i'm going back to them asap! contacts are quite a bit of maintenance, and i feel like a phaggot when i put them on. Contacts are cool, but i feel like glasses are an advantage (with the right frames). im going back to glasses, and not looking back!