Super-shy girl

[Cpt.Golosina]

Ok, so I have this kind of "thing" for weird girls, they are like my weakness. And a couple of years ago (like 2 or so) I used to hang out with some of my friends and group of otakus in a park of my city. There was this super-shy girl with the otaku group back then, younger than me that I didn't even know that existed and one of my friends insisted that she had a crush on me but I never really cared too much because I was already in some kind relationship with another girl.
Now, a few weeks ago from the present, in a random way and just for the lulz, I began to chat in facebook with her and start to feel interested in this girl. I asked her out and she accepted. We were going to meet at the mall and as I didn't saw her since those times in the park all I had to recognise her were my almost faded memories of two years ago (a short haired regular girl) but when she came over she was a somekind of cute happy shy goth girl (instant crush) I wouldn't recognize her if she didn't introduced herself. From then on everything was great except for a single problem: she was EXTREMLY shy (Can't talk when people is watching her, I had to look away several times). More than I could remember from those days in the park and this seriously complicated the rapport. Despite those troubles we had a good time, she said she had fun and now (thank you karma) I have a crush on her.


Now that the tale have been told, I need your advice and answers for some questions.

- We are going to a second date (I don't really know if call it that way) and I'll be really thankfull if someone could give me some advice about shy girls :yes:

- I heard she has a boyfriend but when I indirectly speak about him she denies his existence. In the case she isn't really single and she is hiding her boyfriend, that means she is interested in me?



Sorry for the bad english
Sorry for the long post
And thank you for reading
I'll apreciate your answers

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Im talking to one as we speak. Met her yesterday. She showed little intrest, but the moment she could speak to me alone now, she can't stop talking about how she was into me.

She likes you. You'll just have to get her alone and make a move, no matter how few signals she gives you.

 

[Mr Wright]

The old "she has a boyfriend" problem is tricky because i wouldnt really want to date a girl who dates other guys, ive been that guy who gets with other guys girlfriends and its not that cool once you get over the ego validation.

If shes shy, try taking her somewhere more quiet like a park, sit on a bench, share some stories and some ice cream. Personally I dont date shy girls because they're not my type but when I have, I have found that rapport is very important because that alone can set you above other guys but you have to make sure the attraction is in place otherwise you will become her buddy, especially if she has a boyfriend...you'll end up in some weird dating dynamic which could become very frustrating.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Kiss her

 

[Kevin Matthew]

Kiss her

I actually agree, but do it in a strategic way. I would do it like this...

Next time you two hang out, if she is still super shy, and can't look you in the eyes when you talk, sit down with her on a bench, and ask her about it(I say a bench because you can sit next to her, and it is easy to kiss someone when you are sitting next to them. If you sit down at a table, you'll have the table separating you, which will make it harder to kiss her. Not to mention, when you sit next to her on a bench she will feel like you are comforting her). Maintain strong eye contact when you ask her, and maintain strong eye contact when you're done talking. This will probably cause her to look down at the ground as she answers. AS SOON AS THIS HAPPENS, before she can even get a thought out of her mouth, pull her head up by her chin, and kiss her. She will be caught off guard, but so relieved. Make sure it is a passionate/comforting kiss. One that shows confidence, and emotion. And when the kiss is done be straight forward, and honest with her. Tell her you like her, and you don't want her to feel uncomfortable with/around you. If she's a nervous/shy person she'll tell you, but tell her that you'd like her to work on it, AND THAT YOU WILL HELP HER IN ANY WAY YOU CAN.

 

[Cpt.Golosina]

This:

She likes you. You'll just have to get her alone and make a move, no matter how few signals she gives you.

And this:

Kiss her

So totally going to do it. Thank you guise.

 

[BPH]

I actually agree, but do it in a strategic way. I would do it like this...

Next time you two hang out, if she is still super shy, and can't look you in the eyes when you talk, sit down with her on a bench, and ask her about it(I say a bench because you can sit next to her, and it is easy to kiss someone when you are sitting next to them. If you sit down at a table, you'll have the table separating you, which will make it harder to kiss her. Not to mention, when you sit next to her on a bench she will feel like you are comforting her). Maintain strong eye contact when you ask her, and maintain strong eye contact when you're done talking. This will probably cause her to look down at the ground as she answers. AS SOON AS THIS HAPPENS, before she can even get a thought out of her mouth, pull her head up by her chin, and kiss her. She will be caught off guard, but so relieved. Make sure it is a passionate/comforting kiss. One that shows confidence, and emotion. And when the kiss is done be straight forward, and honest with her. Tell her you like her, and you don't want her to feel uncomfortable with/around you. If she's a nervous/shy person she'll tell you, but tell her that you'd like her to work on it, AND THAT YOU WILL HELP HER IN ANY WAY YOU CAN.

You have a lot to learn man.

 

[Skyline]

- she was EXTREMLY shy (Can't talk when people is watching her, I had to look away several times).

-We are going to a second date (I don't really know if call it that way) and I'll be really thankfull if someone could give me some advice about shy girls :yes:

- I heard she has a boyfriend but when I indirectly speak about him she denies his existence. In the case she isn't really single and she is hiding her boyfriend, that means she is interested in me?

1. If she has that issue, I recommend you talk to her on the phone a few times before you guys actually date since she has that fear. It'll help you both get more comfortable with each other. Just don't over excessively call her.

2. I agree what @Kevin Matthew said, maybe not kiss her on that date, but just go out to a quiet serene setting where not a lot of people are. Examples : Park, Lake, Someone's house- that you know of or are both cool with it. Just somewhere where people count are on the DL.

3. About that, unless the source where you heard it from is viable then I don't think you should be to worried. However, I would scout out her Facebook photos/status's just in case. It's better to be safe than sorry. JUST DON'T CONFRONT HER, IT MAY JUST BE A CLOSE FRIEND.

Shy girls are generally just shy around new people along with bright environments. Take her to an environment that offers a more dim/darker setting(late night out). It should make her and maybe you more relaxed and comfortable. Just remember, low people count. Also, if she does have a boyfriend she will tell you. One things all shy girls have in common is guilt.