Stronger Man Wins

[Oxide]

As some of you know, i got in a pretty bad situation with some fellas at the last party I went to. I did get lucky, and managed to walk away and not in the ambulance.

People have turning points in their lives. This was one of those for me. It really made me think about many things I’ve been doing wrong, and forced me to change my ways.

Our culture gives all the glory to the man in shinning armor, who attacks his enemies, defeats them and rides away into the sunset, not thinking of any consequences.

Women state:
"I want a man who can protect me"
"I want someone who is powerful"
"I want someone with great strong body"
"I want a man who isn’t afraid of anyone"

And guys Repeat

"A real Man is confident"
"A real Man doesn’t need anyone"
"A real Man scares his opponents away"
"A real Man never backs down!"

Today's male is influenced by so many things he sees and hears every single day, that his overbearing ego gets in the way of his decision making process, making it REALLY hard for him to do the right thing.


Let me ask you something.. How many of you have ever been in a fight?

..Ok, now how many of you have KICKED someone's ASS!!?

...Alright...alright... "Now, How many of you are proud of hurting or injuring someone when you could avoid it?"

.....That's what I thought.


Come to think about it, I’m glad I was a nice guy 7 years ago. Why? Simple. IM STILL ALIVE.

Growing up in Russia is definitely different, many times i have found myself in confronting situations at young age, many times ive been punched in the face by some thugs who decided to pick on me. Many times i ran for my life from teens who tried to rob me, without looking back. But that is Russia for you.....


So many men nowadays are putting up this "tough guise”, that is making them feel as if they are "more confident, masculine and intimidating". I am sure all of you have met this type of guys before. They are only hard as long as they are around their friends, but when you are one on one talking, their whole personality melts and they are nothing but scared boys!!


"Well then, Ox, what do you suggest I do when some punk gets in my face?".

Simple Really...be a stronger man than him....

*Puzzled looks*

No, im not talking about your muscles, dont worry about the size of your muscles right now.

A stronger man means having the confidence to control your EGO, Pride and Peer Pressure!
You Do not Need to hurt people to prove your masculinity! You don’t need to show off your fighting skills in a bloody bar fight to impress a girl.

Remember that you are a Real Man, you are in control of your EGO, you don’t care what other people think of you!

So Do yourself a favor and walk away! Do you really want to spend the next 10-15 years in jail because of an assault charge, not being able to hang out with your friends, drive your car, meet women?!

If someone gets in your face, Apologize if you did something wrong, and WALK AWAY.

There is a theory that 95% of humans have the natural reaction to run away in their subconscious, when confronted.
This means, that 95% of people WOULD NOT FIGHT if they had a chance not to.

Which leads us to a great way of diffusing a hot situation:
Give the Opponent a Loophole!
Give guy a chance to back down, without hurting his pride in the process.

So if some guy gets in your face because you spilled his drink and talks about a fight, simple say "Im sorry man, i will buy you a drink, if you promise to chat with me over it"


So, my good Men, remember
Avoiding a fight has nothing to do with being a coward.
A confident man can always walk away without looking back
Remember to give the guy a chance to back down.



Of course, there are some situations when the physical confrontation is unavoidable. Those happen rarely but they do happen.

First, if you are fighting for your life, ANYTHING goes. That means there is nothing wrong with kicking a guy in the nuts and running away.
Try to have your back to the wall, you don’t want to get jumped from behind.
If you are facing more than one opponent, RUN. Run the hell away. Being alive is always more fun than being dead!
If a guy has one or both arms behind his back, there is a chance he is concealing a weapon, keep your distance.
ALWAYS STAY ON YOUR TOES, make sure to check out surroundings, people, possible escape roots. Most of the people who are mugged could have avoided it if they looked around them.


Smooth Sailing Everyone. Keep Your heads up.

-Ox

 

[Julian]

Yo Ox, i hear ya.

I have never been much of a fighter, altho i think i could hold my own if it came down to it.

Thx for the tips.

 

[Oxide]

Heh. fighter or not a fighter, avoidance is the answer.

When i was in karate, i had buddies who would just LOVE to show off what they can do. THey would take people and "demonstrate". what do you know, getting out of school for something stupid like that must really be fun

 

[Kodiac]

Good Post! I agree, fighting isnt worth it.

I had plenty of fights back at school (mainly with 'homie' guys picking on my mates) and almost got suspended for it on a few occasions. Not to mention the fact that they were trying to make me fork out for a $1000 medical bill ??!

These days i don't need to fight to prove anything but if it comes down to it, i know how to defend myself (boxing rocks!). Had 3 weekends in a row a couple of months back where try hards at clubs were trying to pick fights with me (usually over a woman), it felt good to just smile and walk away with my held high

 

[Oxide]

kodiac, long time no see, if im ever in sydney ill make sure to call you up

 

[DEKKA]

while fighting may not be worth it if you add up all the pros and cons, fighting is something that no man should be afriad of or try to stear clear of if it seeks him out.

95% of the population doesnt want to fight and, even if they act tough, dont want to back it up.

if you get disrespected in a bad way, if you are doing it to put somebody in their place for being completely out of line, or if somebody is gunna try to take whats yours you gotta not be afriad to stand your ground.

you dont have to fight but if people know that you would they will respect you.

respect is something that you should maintain not only with women, but with everyone.

dont ever let somebody disrespect you without dealing with it somehow. that may or may not include fighting.

 

[seloifter]

What you learn playing poker is that people liek to act big and tough, but once you raise the stakes high enough most of them back down.

Nonetheless, I would still recommend backing down from fights that you can avoid. Swallowed pride is better than jailtime or being handicapped or killed......

 

[lynx]

As a teen, I got into some fights and ended up being hurt, almost to the point of ending up in the hospital. It's really stupid to get in fights, and most fights are avoidable.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

oxide - did u apologize to those guys and girls for what you said the other day when u were drunk and showed little tact?

i agree with your position - any man can kill any other man - there is nothing masculine about it - that is just the case of what men r capable of - there is always somebody stronger or faster or a smarter fighter, or better wrestler, better boxer or more vicious than the next guy - this proves nothing.

however to be a man you must adhere to certain principles and fight for what is right and just and hold your ground in a dignified manner

 

[Big Pappy]

A man must choose his battles, do not let the battle choose you.

Nobody ever really wins a fight. If you are in a situation where someone wants to fight you, you try to talk them out of it. What did you do to make someone so mad?

If it's not your fault, and you can't find a way out of it, assess your opponent, your location. Look for things to grab onto, things to hit him with, anything. Even crazy people are afraid of crazy people.

 

[mrbreeze]

we learn to fight so that we don't have to

I read some where that while women have to endure the pain of childbirth men have to endure battles and individual one on one combat.

This is true guys, if you make it thru your life without bring in a real honest to goodness knock down drag out you haven’t really lived. I black eye is much better than the humiliation of backing down or running.

I guess I’ve been in too many fights, but people I know respect me. It’s funny I hear stories about me that I had long forgotten about. I would bet if I had backed down all those times it would be remembered too, just not talked about.

I’m not really a bad ass, but in my heart I know I can handle most situations. I’m a gentle, funny, smart person. I don’t start trouble… but I’m real good at finishing it…lol.

Ok, I’ll agree… many fights are avoidable, apologizing for mistakes and practicing common courtesy are always a good idea, and carries more weight when people know you will knock they ass out.

If you do back down or talk your way out of a fight don’t do it in front of a female, she might not say anything but you will have lost a lot of status. The bitc#es might give you a hard time after it’s over, but at least they are usually around.

 

[drixsa]

ox im gonna read this soon

 

[ShortTimer]

Originally posted by mrbreeze
This is true guys, if you make it thru your life without bring in a real honest to goodness knock down drag out you haven’t really lived. I black eye is much better than the humiliation of backing down or running.

Hmm... this is interesting to me. It seems like you are saying that most fights will be two guys punching each other. Has no one ever pulled a knife on you? Or even a gun?

I've been meaning to buy a new knife for just this reason. I've trained in knife fighting (through eskrima) and would feel comfortable using one (preferably in a non-lethal manner). This being true I find your attitude rather strange. Have none of your fights involved any weapons? See, if I got into a fight with someone (and I remembered to carry) as soon as the first punch was thrown I'd stab/cut the guy's arm that he hit me with and then move in to disable him. Yes I've practiced these things in a controlled environment so I'd feel comfortable doing it in an uncontrolled one. That being said, I'd rather not do it.

So I just really can't understand where you're coming from when you talk about how guys should be in at least one fight and how a man hasn't lived if he hasn't fought... *shrug*

 

[mrbreeze]

Yes, most fights will be two guys pounding on each other.

That said, I have been hit with everything from brass knuckles to a carpenters saw,

Like Pap touched on, the whole world is a weapon… My point is… never take a knife to a chair fight. I would rather have a cue stick or even a couple of cue balls than a knife.

As far as guns are concerned you better use what ever survivor skills you have.

Yes, I have had a gun pulled on me, more than once I might add.

One cheap pistol was kicked from the hand of the assailant after me feigning complete and total submission. Call me stupid, I felt I had no choice.

One pistol I turned my back on and walked slowly away. Yeah, I was sweating.

The owner of one big bore pistol told me to leave the building. He was between me and the door, I fearlessly tried to walk past him, and he beat me unconscious with it. Yeah, I lived. Thanks for asking…lol.

A lot of it comes down to the environment you put yourself into.

If you are not comfortable, go home.

So I just really can't understand where you're coming from when you talk about how guys should be in at least one fight and how a man hasn't lived if he hasn't fought... *shrug*

I guess it’s just the way my Dad raised me.

That being said, I'd rather not do it.

Yeah, me too.

See, if I got into a fight with someone (and I remembered to carry) as soon as the first punch was thrown I'd stab/cut the guy's arm that he hit me with and then move in to disable him.

Geee, I thought I was ruthess

 

[NewMan]

I don't fight I RESOLVE.

I;ve trained martial arts for 15 years - so I'm pretty confident when it comes to a fight situation.

Martial arts has shown me, that the best way to avoid a fight is not to get into one in the first place.... It's also taught me, that you never know who your opponent is or what he is capable of.

I also know, that if I get into a situation I will use lethal force. I will make sure the other person does not get up - because if he does, then you must move onto the next level of aggressiveness. I don't mean to say I will kill someone - but I will put them down and out of the fight should I need to.

One thing I will avoid is getting into a fist fight - one reason is this, as soon as your opponent recognizes that you know how to defend yourself, your opponent will up the stakes, because he does not want to get his a@@ kicked. So he may pull a knife, gun, grab a bottle etc. etc.

My point is this - if your going to get into a fight, make sure you are willing to do what is required to walk away. If you don't have what it takes, then don't get into it.

I use trips and traps - I use anything I can to walk out of there on my own 2 feet - ANYTHING.

Another thing I have learnt. 15 yrs of martial arts experience does not compare to 15 yrs street fighting experience. I'd always bet the guy whose been brawling on the streets for 15 yrs as opposed to the guy whose been training in the Temple.

Experience counts.