Strong unaware on what happened.

[Beavis]

So this women and I were real close, would talk all the time. Rack up lots of text with mostly her. So we'd go out quite often and ****. We had a class together and would talk all the time. After each time we went out, I'd kiss her good night, and got a good bday present from her . So I precided to ask her to grad. We both went away for spring break, and ever since she got back she started acting weird. She didn't respond to texts, saying she didn't want to text as much or some bull**** excuse. So I was flirting with her day before grad, and she told me straight up the day before grad that she didn't like me like that anymore. First off, I was going to back hand her and tell her to not bother come anymore, but I had already paid for her to come. Pretty much after that day I have barely talked to her. After she told me she didn't like me like that, I was crushed. Because it happened out of no where. Any way to get back to what it was like before? Any tips.

 

[thebestthing]

So this women and I were real close, would talk all the time. Rack up lots of text with mostly her. So we'd go out quite often and ****. We had a class together and would talk all the time. After each time we went out, I'd kiss her good night, and got a good bday present from her . So I precided to ask her to grad. We both went away for spring break, and ever since she got back she started acting weird. She didn't respond to texts, saying she didn't want to text as much or some bull**** excuse. So I was flirting with her day before grad, and she told me straight up the day before grad that she didn't like me like that anymore. First off, I was going to back hand her and tell her to not bother come anymore, but I had already paid for her to come. Pretty much after that day I have barely talked to her. After she told me she didn't like me like that, I was crushed. Because it happened out of no where. Any way to get back to what it was like before? Any tips.

Have you read the DJ bible? If not, do that. Specifically, the book of Pook.

I'll try to highlight what I believe were your mistakes.
I'm definitely not an experienced DJ, I'm just going to go on what I believe I've read on this forum and how I interpreted the DJ Bible. Other people feel free to correct me.

So this women and I were real close, would talk all the time. Rack up lots of text with mostly her. So we'd go out quite often and ****. We had a class together and would talk all the time.

Everything besides maybe 'we'd go out often' was, I believe, a mistake. You should not text all day, ever. (At least, not with a girl you're interested in.)
Maybe a short convo to set up a date, that's it, but I would call for even that.

She didn't respond to texts, saying she didn't want to text as much or some bull**** excuse.

You're right, it was a bull**** excuse. She's lost interest because it sounds like you pretty much gave yourself to her, and you've ended up becoming an annoyance.

I was going to back hand her and tell her to not bother come anymore, but I had already paid for her to come.

You made a good choice by doing this, I think. By that I mean it's good you didn't tell her not to come. If you were really crushed from what she said, you'd feel better momentarily, but the night of, you'd feel terrible when you didn't come with her as planned. This way you can still go as friends and flirt with other girls (or, I suppose you could just go alone and flirt with girls. But like you said, you've already paid for her)

Because it happened out of no where. Any way to get back to what it was like before?

As far as I know, this is unlikely and very difficult if not impossible. Personally, I would move on. Break contact, start hanging with other people. She might look at you differently once you stop giving her all the attention you have been, but you should be focusing on other girls anyway, and IF she does, that's just a bonus.

 

[Beavis]

Yeah I pretty much did cut off communication with her. I use to be the one intiating the conversations, and I stopped that. She will go text me, or go on facebook the odd time and talk to me. Plus she's a grade below me, I am graduated and she isn't.

I believe this all started after she got back when one her good guy "friends" moved back from Cali. Just used to me till he got back.

 

[thebestthing]

Yeah I pretty much did cut off communication with her. I use to be the one intiating the conversations, and I stopped that. She will go text me, or go on facebook the odd time and talk to me. Plus she's a grade below me, I am graduated and she isn't.

I believe this all started after she got back when one her good guy "friends" moved back from Cali. Just used to me till he got back.

I had a similar situation. Girl I used to be in love with (oneitis :/) lost her best friend, our relationship was almost exactly like the one you described.
Six months later, they stopped fighting. Then she started doing what your girl did; wouldn't respond to texts, wouldn't talk to me much anymore. Finally I stood up and said 'What the **** is your problem?' and she was like 'You overstayed your welcome.'

That pretty much put me off right there.

 

[Beavis]

What a cun**. I don't understand how when all you do is good for them, it pushes them further away. Pay for stuff, compliment them, cheer them up, and be there when ever they want to talk to you and then they just start ignoring you. I guess I would like to see how they would feel if you reversed the roles on them, doesn't feel so good does it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

These are lessons every guy has to learn. Mr Nice Guy does finish last with girls.

However, the answer is not to become a bitter a55hole. Instead, you should realize that things happened this way because of mistakes that you made. I am guessing that she wanted a lot more than a good night kiss from you and when you didn't provide that, she found it somewhere else. All women will stray when their needs are not met. You can learn a lot from this experience if you keep a constructive attitude. Don't feel sorry for yourself and don't be bitter. Just don't make the same mistakes next time. All of us get better with each new girl, but your progress goes a lot faster if you keep the right attitude.

 

[Hughman]

I think every man on this forum has been in this situation, and probably worse. At least you kissed her. That's more than I can say for some of the people on here.

She probably got plowed by some big stud on spring break and/or discussed you with her friends, and she lost interest.

Pretty rude though to crush you like that and the dollar you spent on her. She could have at least been polite and see out the event.

Drop her like a bad habit. If she's not part of social group you hang with or tap into, cut all contact. If she is in social groups you like, treat her like a friendly stranger.

You could possibly rebuild from there, but it seems unlikely in this situation.

 

[Beavis]

Nah man, she went to Vegas with her dad. But yeah that's what I think I'm going to just cut loose now. Easy to start since shes gone for the next month, I'll just delete number out of my phone. Thanks boys, makes me feel better about this whole thing.

 

[ssj4halo]

part of the misc? im aware

 

[Beavis]

No whiteknighting, anymore.

 

[S.Y.L]

part of the misc? im aware

aware.


u misc'n? I think Beavis is misc'n as well.

 

[Beavis]

Ye I'm misc'n.

 

[Beavis]

So she still talks with me on fb. I can't help but to talk to her. What should I do, just ignore her when she talks or?